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    Duh I quit camming....but I wanna start up again....as myself this time

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    So, basically in November I decided to try Cam Modeling.
    I changed my appearance 110% so no one would recognize me
    I went from olive skinned blonde to pale goth girl in a black wig.
    I covered my tattoos with armbands, I changed my voice, everything.
    I hated putting all that on and I also hated changing the way I act to better suit my cam "persona"
    I ended up saying yes to things I wasn't comfortable with and blah-blah-blah, you get the picture.

    I'm terrified of getting found out by my parents, but I know you can just block where you live so no one in your area will find you.
    I just, I dunno.
    I know I'd prefer it like this, but I'm nervous.
    I also want to be honest about it with people.
    My fiance said the only part he didn't like was the fact that I wanted him to lie about my job.

    What do, stripperweb?

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    You can always fake some aspect of it (like a wig or wear/don't wear glasses), but its exhausting to change everything all the time. And they can tell, Especially if you're going with a subculture like goth or even a more trendy one like geek/gamer. They can tell if you're the real deal or not fairly quickly, and may not respond well do the deception. I'm still new in camming and haven't made much so my opinion wont' hold as much weight as some others, but when I was stripping I mostly stayed myself and did very well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JettaNyx View Post
    You can always fake some aspect of it (like a wig or wear/don't wear glasses), but its exhausting to change everything all the time. And they can tell, Especially if you're going with a subculture like goth or even a more trendy one like geek/gamer. They can tell if you're the real deal or not fairly quickly, and may not respond well do the deception. I'm still new in camming and haven't made much so my opinion wont' hold as much weight as some others, but when I was stripping I mostly stayed myself and did very well.
    Thank you sweetheart <3
    It was exhausting. I was basically doing stage makeup for 2 hours before I even got to start.
    When you were stripping, did anyone ever recognize you and approach you?

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    Blocking doesn't work....it's only good for guest. If someone you know has an account they can still see you

    Ppl can still record you and out you

    Decide if your ready to own up ..because eventually you most likely will have to ..especially with you bf running his mouth...nothing travels faster than word of mouth!! Especially when all his buddies log in and watch you on cam
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    maybe you could agree on your job title for your finace to say thats a little white lie so he feels better. Some kind of entertainment facilitator or something. Dont let him decide for you that its ok to tell everyone, girls keep this job a secret for many many reasons not just the obvious ones, and until you find your feet it will be a smoother ride without friends and family weighing in with their opinion. Also its really none of their business :p





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    Quote Originally Posted by LaylaLovely View Post
    Blocking doesn't work....it's only good for guest. If someone you know has an account they can still see you

    Ppl can still record you and out you

    Decide if your ready to own up ..because eventually you most likely will have to ..especially with you bf running his mouth...nothing travels faster than word of mouth!! Especially when all his buddies log in and watch you on cam
    Quote Originally Posted by MessyChick View Post
    maybe you could agree on your job title for your finace to say thats a little white lie so he feels better. Some kind of entertainment facilitator or something. Dont let him decide for you that its ok to tell everyone, girls keep this job a secret for many many reasons not just the obvious ones, and until you find your feet it will be a smoother ride without friends and family weighing in with their opinion. Also its really none of their business :p
    Both of your comments were perfectly complementary so I wanted to quote them together.
    Support lines do outsource to home lines (Like, cab companies don't have a building. They hire people at home to answer calls and send cabs out with their home computer) I could always get him to tell people I do that.
    I would just have to cross my fingers and toes that no one I know has an account.

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    Go with what Layla says. You gotta own it either way and make sure thats ok with you. Assume people will find out. Why is your BF so excited about it anyway? I never had anyone recognize me outside the club, but its never a worry of mine. The most my BF is concerned over is stalkers, but I have just as much potential of that happening while going to the grocery store in sweat pants as I do camming. I even picked up a mild cyber stalker when i was streaming my MMO on twtich, and I wasn't doing anything sexual.

    If you're gonna do it, own it. Its your life, your body, and making money is the goal. Don't care what they think. Don't let them think you're lessening yourself or whatever. You're providing a service and getting paid. End of story. One of my exes hated that I was stripping, said i was degrading myself and being used. I told him I walk out of the club sometimes with guy's entire paychecks and all I had to do was wiggle around a little bit. If anything I'm using them, LOL.

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    You do not have to do anything you are uncomfortable with. You can say no. I think that is a big newbie mistake. Thinking they have to do whatever to get paid. If you have limits, follow them. Stay true to them and it will help your sanity and confidence.

    If you fiancé has a huge problem with lying about your job to protect the well being of your family, then I don't know. It's a white lie. Honesty is a good thing, but I'm assuming it's to protect your relationship with your parents. Which he should understand, and want to help maintain to.





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    Quote Originally Posted by JettaNyx View Post
    Go with what Layla says. You gotta own it either way and make sure thats ok with you. Assume people will find out. Why is your BF so excited about it anyway? I never had anyone recognize me outside the club, but its never a worry of mine. The most my BF is concerned over is stalkers, but I have just as much potential of that happening while going to the grocery store in sweat pants as I do camming. I even picked up a mild cyber stalker when i was streaming my MMO on twtich, and I wasn't doing anything sexual.

    If you're gonna do it, own it. Its your life, your body, and making money is the goal. Don't care what they think. Don't let them think you're lessening yourself or whatever. You're providing a service and getting paid. End of story. One of my exes hated that I was stripping, said i was degrading myself and being used. I told him I walk out of the club sometimes with guy's entire paychecks and all I had to do was wiggle around a little bit. If anything I'm using them, LOL.
    Quote Originally Posted by audritwo View Post
    You do not have to do anything you are uncomfortable with. You can say no. I think that is a big newbie mistake. Thinking they have to do whatever to get paid. If you have limits, follow them. Stay true to them and it will help your sanity and confidence.

    If you fiancé has a huge problem with lying about your job to protect the well being of your family, then I don't know. It's a white lie. Honesty is a good thing, but I'm assuming it's to protect your relationship with your parents. Which he should understand, and want to help maintain to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BabyBat View Post
    OK

    I'm terrified of getting found out by my parents, but I know you can just block where you live so no one in your area will find you.
    I just, I dunno.
    I know I'd prefer it like this, but I'm nervous.
    I also want to be honest about it with people.
    If you dont want your parents to find out, from my experience don't tell anybody the truth about what you do for earnings.
    I have told my best gf in confidence and before I knew it the whole vlllage where I grew up knew it (my gf lives there we grew up together). Its to big of a secret for most people to keep. Iam happy I never showed her my profile - she doesnt know my camname or website I work on, bec else I would have had a lot of awkward moments in free chat I think. If my parents didnt knew about it allready I think they would hav e found out bec of her.

    I hope your boyfriend can keep it a secret if you wish him too, words go around quickly.
    Good luck at starting up!
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    My cam character is almost nothing like my day to day self. My voice is much higher, energy level is 10x higher, & I giggle a lot... irl I have a deep voice for a female, lead a low energy existence, have an abrasive personality, and I'm the anti-giggler. It does get very exhausting at times and there are days that I simply don't want to, but I'm just too much of a grumpy bitch irl to successfully pull off a token site as myself. I do very well with my persona and when the cam light goes on, it's like a switch is flipped. Some traits unavoidably come through (intelligence, wit, my love of mascara, and some bratty undertones), but my fans LOVE it. Being yourself on cam is a choice and as you're the only person who really knows yourself, you have to do what you think is right for you and your circumstances.

    On the other hand, the fact that your fiance isn't comfortable with camming AND is potentially running his mouth are huge red flags. If he is running his mouth what he's trying to do is shame you out of camming because he knows you aren't comfortable with everyone in your circles knowing. Most cammers aren't comfortable with everyone in their lives knowing for one reason or another & there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting privacy. If he can't get over his "my Fiance is a cammer" issue, you really need to reevaluate your relationship with him. I had an ex who used to say "It makes me so sad that you cam when you could do so much better. Lying to my family about it tears me up inside." I used to love to point out that I could easily get out, obtain a 9-5 he'd be proud to tell mommy and daddy about, make 1/4 of what I do, and be as (if not more) miserable than I was before I started camming because his happiness was clearly more important than mine :p it normally shut him up pretty quickly, but I did exit the relationship once it became a reoccurring theme in our discussions.

    Remember that you get one life (as far as we know) and NO ONE has the right to make you feel miserable for the duration of it.

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    The problem with hiding it is in most cases people always find out. What you're doing isn't illegal and maybe your fiancee isn't cool with lying about your job.

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    If you are afraid of being found out there are ways of disguising that can lessen the possibility but like the other girls said it still might not be enough. Wig and extensions can help. I wear heavy makeup that goes very naturally with me. Conturing, fake eyelashes heavy blush. It takes me 20-30minutes. You can also include colored contacts to change your eyes a little or glasses. My goal is to make it very "questionable" if it was me or not. It would be terrible to start a rumor and find out it's not true, so that's the deterrent My day to day look is very plain and I like to keep to myself in real life. My cam persona is very much a princess but some members can see the shy modest side too. You can avoid showing your face in your profile pic at least. And avoiding social media can help also because sometimes the website is really smart and will link you to your other "friends/Followers" anyway.

    Of course be prepared to make less than another model who is willing to put it all out there and promote herself properly. What you make after all that, you need to be happy with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by caramelcraze
    Remember that you get one life (as far as we know) and NO ONE has the right to make you feel miserable for the duration of it.
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