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    My wife is in her second week of stripping, so we know very little about how it usually goes. However, twice now, over her past two shifts, she's experienced an accidental orgasm while giving a lap dance. She describes the feeling as starting after a few songs of heavy grinding, beginning with an itch and quickly becoming an orgasm similar to a half-one she might have while we're together. It takes less than a song to go from start to finish, I guess. She tries to repress it, but it obviously happens anyway.

    She says they're solely a physical reaction and that the guys can't tell she had one, and feels very guilty about them afterwards. Can anybody tell me how common this is? It's a pretty physical club, and she says this guy specifically wanted heavy contact and she felt like she couldn't say no because it's expected. They're not grabbing her breasts, or anything, but one guy did hold her tight to him. Do any dancers have any tips for how to give a lower-contact lap dance that still keeps people happy, or any experience with this kind of thing in general?

    Thanks for any feedback. This is not a troll post.

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    Default Re: Stripper wife and accidental orgasms

    Quote Originally Posted by stripperhusband View Post

    This is not a troll post.


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    I've been reading your forums since she started dancing, and this seems to be the common reaction. Frustrating, but understandable. I get that guys are constantly trying to get inside your safety bubble.

    Edit: Maybe this is some taboo topic or something, but if there is anyone who has experience with this, I would love advice.

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    Default Re: Stripper wife and accidental orgasms

    I'll bite on the off chance this is real.

    If she is having an orgasm during dancing, she needs to change the way she is dancing or use different positions in her dances. If she isn't comfortable with what is going down during a dance, she can always stop/ refuse to continue. She is the one that needs to be in charge during dances, not customers. I work in a medium contact club and my bouncers know if I come walking out before the allotted dance time is up that the customer did something stupid to piss me off or pushed my boundries.

    Also, if she is the one with the concerns, it might be more beneficial if SHE read SW. Tell her to read Hustle Hut to learn how to do 'a lower contact dance that keeps people happy'.

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    Default Re: Stripper wife and accidental orgasms

    Ok let's pretend for a moment that you really do have a stripper wife who orgasms during lap dances (LOL). Why can't she just ask us for "advice" herself? gtfo

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    Default Re: Stripper wife and accidental orgasms

    She could. She's at work now, and just messaged to say it happened again. I'm a little freaked out, but trying to stay supportive and cool, so I was just looking for advice. I totally get the instant suspicion and hostility, but it's pretty off-putting either way. I don't want to take anything from you, or know anything about you, or use you in any way, though I thank you for any experience shared.

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    She has read, though never posted. I probably read more than her, because I'm her husband and interested in her wellbeing. I'm also not allowed at the club, so it's kind of hard to find tailor-made advice. I thank you for yours. It's totally possible this was an obvious or dumb question.

    Edit: Also, I see I'm doing this "Reply with Quote" thing wrong. Sorry.

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    Default Re: Stripper wife and accidental orgasms

    Smtg reeks here, but I will take a at it anyway.

    If either a dancer or a customer is getting off during LDs, they are in the wrong venue. There is nothing 'accidental' abt an orgasm in the SC unless you're a newly-blossoming 18yo guy whô's nvr gotten a private dance.

    If she feels That Guilty abt it, she has a few options.

    1) Grow a pair & take control of the dance. All this 'it's expected' bs … just bc smtg is 'expected' doesn't mean she has to allow it. She will do just fine w/o that nonsense if she sharpens her sales skills & keeps a lvl head at work.

    2) Find another club that is not so aggressive abt contact.

    3) If she can't keep her libido in check at work, then she doesn't belong there & should find another job.

    Don't come here & mock us abt our 'safety bubble' when your wife is apparently allowing hers to be pushed bc she hasn't figured out how to take care of herself at the club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    Don't come here & mock us abt our 'safety bubble' when your wife is apparently allowing hers to be pushed bc she hasn't figured out how to take care of herself at the club.
    Man, it's hard to just have conversation here. I get you can't sense tone on the Internet, but I wasn't mocking you, or anybody.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    Don't come here & mock us abt our 'safety bubble' when your wife is apparently allowing hers to be pushed bc she hasn't figured out how to take care of herself at the club.
    Man, it's hard to just have conversations here. I get you can't sense tone on the Internet, but I wasn't mocking you, or anybody.

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    Default Re: Stripper wife and accidental orgasms

    Well, thank you to the ones who did weigh-in. Appreciate it.

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    I only grind with my butt. I think I'd puke if I had an orgasm during a dance. She needs to lay off the forward grinding and realise the dance is not 100% grinding to begin with.

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    oh please. first of all this is just such a ridiculous , jerkoff-material premise i just cannot even..yes, dirty scratchy blue jeans get us sooo wet we just can't help ourselves and orgasm within a song or two involuntarily!
    in the .5% chance that this is true..have her come on here and read up on how to tease and give a good dance without grinding all the way through, or at the very least grind with her butt or hip.

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    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    oh please. first of all this is just such a ridiculous , jerkoff-material premise i just cannot even..yes, dirty scratchy blue jeans get us sooo wet we just can't help ourselves and orgasm within a song or two involuntarily!
    in the .5% chance that this is true..have her come on here and read up on how to tease and give a good dance without grinding all the way through, or at the very least grind with her butt or hip.
    Believe me, it would be better for me if for some reason I just wanted to jack it to your lap dance stories. Unfortunately, I'm actually dealing with something here. But thank you for your advice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vackra View Post
    I only grind with my butt. I think I'd puke if I had an orgasm during a dance. She needs to lay off the forward grinding and realise the dance is not 100% grinding to begin with.
    Thank you. She does feel gross about it. And I can tell you from her practicing on me that her lap dances feature lots of grinding and it's pretty ... crotchal. But she doesn't want it to happen again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    they are in the wrong venue. There is nothing 'accidental' abt an orgasm in the SC unless you're a newly-blossoming 18yo guy whô's nvr gotten a private dance.
    ^This!

    Unless your wife has a condition that causes her to have involuntary orgasms (which apparently is rare, but exists) then something is being done to achieve said orgasms. In this case, your wife is a dirty dancer. Case and point. If SHE had an actual, real problem asserting boundaries, a high sex drive, a drinking/drug/sex/financial problem that was leading her to engage in pleasure-spasm inducing behavior that she otherwise wouldn't-she would have reached out herself. Or, maybe Mrs.Troll isn't thought saying things like this would be a turn on for you (some men "get off" on the idea of dating dancers, if you do also then she might be playing up and on things)?
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    Quote Originally Posted by OliveJardin View Post
    ^This!

    Unless your wife has a condition that causes her to have involuntary orgasms (which apparently is rare, but exists) then something is being done to achieve said orgasms. In this case, your wife is a dirty dancer. Case and point. If SHE had an actual, real problem asserting boundaries, a high sex drive, a drinking/drug/sex/financial problem that was leading her to engage in pleasure-spasm inducing behavior that she otherwise wouldn't-she would have reached out herself. Or, maybe Mrs.Troll isn't thought saying things like this would be a turn on for you (some men "get off" on the idea of dating dancers, if you do also then she might be playing up and on things)?
    My wife is 29. We've been together six years, and she's been stripping for two weeks. We're trying a new life, and there's been good parts and bad parts and weird parts. If she's anything, she's inexperienced.

    Edit: And it's totally fine if I'm too male to feel trustworthy or something. She CAN just ask herself, and I see it's probably better that she does.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stripperhusband View Post
    But she doesn't want it to happen again.
    Then she should stop grinding her clitoris in strangers' laps vigorously enough to orgasm in 3 minutes.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Luna66 View Post
    Then she should stop grinding her clitoris in strangers' laps vigorously enough to orgasm in 3 minutes.
    I think the part she can feel and notice happens in the course of a song, but it's been silently building up when someone has bought at least two dances. (So far.) But pretty solid advice. I guess we don't really know what a lap dance entails, but I/she will check the other forums. Thanks.

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    I guess what I'm taking away is that this is not common and there are ways to avoid the frontal contact in the first place. I thank you for that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stripperhusband View Post
    Thank you. She does feel gross about it. And I can tell you from her practicing on me that her lap dances feature lots of grinding and it's pretty ... crotchal. But she doesn't want it to happen again.
    She's doing it very wrong.

    Her crotch should never be anywhere near a customer for a variety of reasons. That's a sensitive area that shouldn't be getting rubbed all the time, and you have no idea where customers have been. ew.

    If she must grind in her dances (which is asking for trouble in the first place if that's all she's doing) she should be using her hips or butt, as other ladies have said. Practicing being sexy and showing off her body without just parking herself on a lap and grinding away is going to save her a lot of grief.

    If she's working in some sort of grindy lapdance sweatshop and that's expected behavior, she should audition at better clubs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SuperJa View Post
    She's doing it very wrong.

    Her crotch should never be anywhere near a customer for a variety of reasons. That's a sensitive area that shouldn't be getting rubbed all the time, and you have no idea where customers have been. ew.

    If she must grind in her dances (which is asking for trouble in the first place if that's all she's doing) she should be using her hips or butt, as other ladies have said. Practicing being sexy and showing off her body without just parking herself on a lap and grinding away is going to save her a lot of grief.

    If she's working in some sort of grindy lapdance sweatshop and that's expected behavior, she should audition at better clubs.
    Thanks very much for your thoughts. It's a full-nudity, high-contact club. I've only been once, so I don't know the extent of what happens there — one of the VIP rooms has a twin bed in it, which is creepy — but she's just been making up the lap dances as she goes along, so I really do appreciate the advice here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stripperhusband View Post
    Thank you. She does feel gross about it. And I can tell you from her practicing on me that her lap dances feature lots of grinding and it's pretty ... crotchal. But she doesn't want it to happen again.
    It shouldn't be. It should be more like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dq974WY5dGo

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vackra View Post
    It shouldn't be. It should be more like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dq974WY5dGo
    THANK YOU. This is totally useful. Thank you.

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    I'm really not understanding how this would happen 'accidentally'. If she has the 'itch' warning that she's turned on (which is probably NOT from the guy, it's probably just because she rubbed her clit a certain way and nerve impulses fired), she needs to change positions or stop grinding that way. The fact that she continues until it's an 'orgasm' is ridiculous and would mean she WANTS it.
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