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    In brief, I'm half way through an unplanned pregnancy that I've embraced and am now really excited about.

    Naturally pregnancy put a halt to me dancing. We are now living off my bf's income, which is pretty slim, but has a lot of opportunity for advancement in coming years. I don't think I even feel all that frustrated by the money, I think it's more a matter of losing self-reliance.

    Lately I have been feeling a lot of anxiety from losing dancing as an option. I am 30 and had 'planned' to dance at least a few more years. Now I am wondering if after birth I will still have that option. I intend to stay home with the baby for at least 6 months-year. By the time I would even look into dancing I'd be 32. My tits were never really perky to begin with and I'm afraid by then they'll be totally deflated.Then I think maybe that wouldn't matter since my ass has always been my feature. And I'd probably be fine at a dive.

    Then I think- why the hell am I worrying about all this? I know I should just wait and deal and see what the future brings. But the thought just keeps popping up. Anyone dealt with something similar?

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    Is camming or PSO not an option, or getting sm part-time vanilla work? It could let you either continue to set your own hrs or keep your work hrs down to preserve your health (I only put it this way bc I have a very good friend who has been dealing w/ a physically very difficult pregnancy) still being able to earn $$$$ for your household. The camgirls on here keep talking abt how Pregnancy & the like is A Huge Deal in terms of $$$$.

    I 2nd the feeling of missing dancer $$$$ & the extra feeling of security it brings. I am unable to go back to dancing right now, have been away for the last 18mo for a few reasons but the last 6-8mo has been primarily bc of injuries. Now I am back trying to completely rebuild my financials one $11/hr at a time. I so wish I could dance just a couple nites a wk. I am 29 myself, & it's kind of a tug-of-war between '30-ish isn't THAT old!' & 'Jesus … the big 3-0 … how much longer is my body going to put up w/ this nonsense?'

    Your heart still wants to dance so I think it's perfectly normal to still be trying to fit that into your future. I am also trying to be zen abt my situation & just let things happen as they will, but today for example, I was at work & thinking 'OK … while keeping my 40hrs for the health insurance … got the big dr appt in 10 days for my injuries … what will the dr say … will I need surgery … when can I go back to sports/dancing … ' etc trying to work out how I will balance a FT job, possible surgery+recovery, jiujitsu (a coworker has talked me into trying it once I heal) PLUS dancing 2-3nites a wk, & all of this getting put into place won't be for months yet, at the very least.

    It's good to keep your mind active & to look towards the future. Only time will tell as to how everything plays out, whether you will be able to make all of it fit together & how.

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    well, Ive had 3 kids and to tell you the truth, my tits and ass got better. I was a skinny barely b cup before kids. Now I have full C's, full hips and ass and make more money. I have no stretch marks on my belly, but have them on my boobs and inner thighs. No one has mentioned anything to me about them so the lighting must not make them noticeable. I'm not fat, I don't have abs, but I don't have a loose hanging belly either. No one can tell I've had 4 kids. But I have god genes I guess too. Guys like what they like. I never breast fed tough either. That may be a factor.

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    @Aniela Wow, it sounds like you're in a very similar position. Camming is not an option for me because my BF is uncomfortable with the idea of fixed images of me floating around the internet. He has been very supportive of me dancing and I respect his comfort levels, even more so now that we're going to have a child together. I do have a part time job, but it is freelance essentially and my income just seems so meager compared to what I've made. (Perhaps that is part of the trick? Not comparing the income to dancing! It just can't compare.)
    I completely relate to trying to make everything 'fit'! Time management has been the bane of my existence. Thanks for the perspective!

    @TiffTiff-Lord that is encouraging, though I have no idea what to expect from my genes. My mom has held up pretty good, but I have 2 older sisters with pretty varying body types so I feel like I can't guess from them so well. I'm not worried about the stretch marks, the lighting does hide them good. Really unless they're brutal I think it's something women notice more than men. That's amazing about your boobs! I wish I could keep mine as they are now, they are awesome. I guess I could dance while still breastfeeding, though pumping in the dressing room etc seems kinda awkward.

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    Default Re: Feeling Confused

    Can You teach a class on maybe 'movement' on youtube? Or 'live' to ladies that want to stay active?
    Or even a slow stretch class online? Or even slow, sensual moves for the pregnant woman?
    Too bad your bf doesnt want to cam, because as mentioned, there's lots of money to be made with camming and clips.( I do pregnancy shows and milk shows all the time), yet I've never been pregnant! Don't ask,.. Im a master at camera angles.
    I dont show my face either, so maybe you could do it also, if your bf would be ok with doing it that way.
    Best of luck with whatever you decide to do.

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    Always wear a bra. Breastfeeding/pregnancy will make your tits sag, sorry to break it to you. But you can keep them almost as perky as before you you keep them supported with a good bra. Even when you sleep. Just use the ones without underwire.
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    first of all, congratulations! and dont worry about your body, i'm sure it will be fine. i breastfed my son for a long time and my boobs are almost the same as when i got pregnant, it all depends. and even if it does happen, i've worked with girls who have everything from the little pouches of belly skin to extremely deflated boobs ( and a good portion of the latter hadn't even had children) and and a lot of them were top earners.really take care of yourself,look at it as a vacation, being pregnant is incredibly draining (least it was for me). maybe phone sex work? would he mind if you didn't show your face , and just your belly with clips?

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