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    A while back this girl at work stole a custy from me while I was chatting with him, meaning she came up to us and took over the conversation until he took her for dances. I never said anything but since then I am less friendly with her. yesterday I was with a client chatting and the same girl (she knew him) came up and said hi and asked how he was doing since she hadnt seen him in so long. I was starting to get annoyed but then she left. I personally wont go up to custys when they are with a girl. Most I will say is hi if I know them. Just want to know if I should let this bother me and is it ever good etiquette to talk to custys when they are already chatting with someone.

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    Default Re: Is it ever ok to approach a customer while hes with another girl

    no, i dont think its ever ok. even if i have a regular who came in specifically to see me, and while i'm getting dressed another girl approaches, i'll wait for him to turn her down before resuming my hustle. that's one of my BIGGEST pet peeves, its so incredibly rude. if a customer is alone, he's fair game, end of story..if he's with another girl, pick another guy, end of story.

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    If she's doing that to you then that means she should have no issue when it's done to her. Seriously steal a customer from her so then she can know what time it is.

    But if you want to do it the mature way get the manager to reprimand her.

    If you want to get half ratchet, politely but firmly tell her "excuse me WE (as in you and the customer) are talking, I'll call you over when I'm finished". Then give her a look like "hoe don't even try"

    If you want to get all the way ratchet then it's eye for an eye hoe. Hustle customers from her while she's with them and while theyre at her stage.
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    It is not ok. I do not do this unless the guy specifically asks me to join (although I've had girls throw fits w/me in that scenario but that's out of jealousy because if a spending customer is beckoning me, as a professional hustler I should oblige). I think customers would also think it's rude. I've had guys comment when girls try and fail to interrupt me and my customer. It's just very bad stripper etiquette.
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    I always though customers would know what's up and realize how rude some girls were being but I swear majority of them have no clue. And a small percentage of them like women telling them what to do or fighting over them.

    Unless the customer is your regular or specifically into only you, then they really don't recognize the scandalous-ness that's right in front of their face.
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    Default Re: Is it ever ok to approach a customer while hes with another girl

    That's like one of those unwritten rules. Big no no

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    She needs to learn stripper etiquette
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    Default Re: Is it ever ok to approach a customer while hes with another girl

    No bc I'd be pissed if someone did that to me while I was with a guy. Have proper etiquette and treat others how you want to be treated.

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    I would approach a customer when he was w/ another girl, to thank him if he had tipped me during my stage set. I kept it brief (brief as in, shooting for 90sec or less) & would tell him if he wanted company later after they were done, I might come back. Then I left them alone.

    But nvr to steal.

    The impression I'm getting from your OP tho, is that you're being way too passive towards this intruder. Whether it was just that you were caught off-guard, or for sm reason didn't want to risk pissing off either her or the customer, she is doing it again bc she got away w/ it once & thinks you'll continue to be a pushover. Forget that 'she needs to learn sm stripper etiquette' bs. Unless it's a chick's first or second day on the job, she knows better. I 2nd miss.a.p1600's suggestions on how to stand your ground the nxt time she comes over looking to worm her way in on your sale.

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    when stuff like that happens I'm always caught off guard. Could be i don't want to piss her off thinking that'll cause me stress but letting her get away with it is causing me stress. Next time she tries i will def be on my guard about it and stand up to her.

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    I hate when girls do this, it is so rude. I'll admit that I'm way passive, I can't do confrontation and girls definitely take advantage of it. There is this one girl at work who has done this to me more than once and I'm an idiot for not standing up to her and saying something. I have a customer that comes in on Saturdays and he'll only talk to me. She walked by when I was sitting with him last night, she walked by, winked, smiled and waved at him like she knew him. My guy gave her a weird look and asked who she was, that he had never talked to her before and he would never talk to her, lol, I kind of laughed a little like that's what you get bitch. I just wish the other guys she has done that to would have had a similar reaction. She has boobs 10 times the size of mine and she goes up to the guys and sticks boobs in their face to get them, I have smaller boobs and no ass so the boobs tend to win for her :/

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    Default Re: Is it ever ok to approach a customer while hes with another girl

    Yes. If you were in the middle of entertaining a customer and had to leave to go to stage (or whatever), it is fine to return to your customer when you are done.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MiraMichele View Post
    I hate when girls do this, it is so rude. I'll admit that I'm way passive, I can't do confrontation and girls definitely take advantage of it. There is this one girl at work who has done this to me more than once and I'm an idiot for not standing up to her and saying something. I have a customer that comes in on Saturdays and he'll only talk to me. She walked by when I was sitting with him last night, she walked by, winked, smiled and waved at him like she knew him. My guy gave her a weird look and asked who she was, that he had never talked to her before and he would never talk to her, lol, I kind of laughed a little like that's what you get bitch. I just wish the other guys she has done that to would have had a similar reaction. She has boobs 10 times the size of mine and she goes up to the guys and sticks boobs in their face to get them, I have smaller boobs and no ass so the boobs tend to win for her :/
    Well, you can't work w/ what you don't have -- in this case boobs + ass, apparently. So don't be like those guys & fixate on her body, bc that's what you're both doing & all it does is make an easy steal for her.

    Balls, on the other hand … get yourself a good, brassy set of those & you will be in business. They are an investment that will pay for themselves many times over & you don't even need plastic surgery to acquire them

    She can't stick her boobs in your customer's face if you're planted between them & him. Keep him physically close, leaning into each other, scoot into his lap if you have to when you see her coming. The fact that she is so direct, if nothing else, should be incentive enough to push towards a quick close.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    Well, you can't work w/ what you don't have -- in this case boobs + ass, apparently. So don't be like those guys & fixate on her body, bc that's what you're both doing & all it does is make an easy steal for her.

    Balls, on the other hand … get yourself a good, brassy set of those & you will be in business. They are an investment that will pay for themselves many times over & you don't even need plastic surgery to acquire them

    She can't stick her boobs in your customer's face if you're planted between them & him. Keep him physically close, leaning into each other, scoot into his lap if you have to when you see her coming. The fact that she is so direct, if nothing else, should be incentive enough to push towards a quick close.
    Thanks for your advice, I do need to grow me a pair lol, I'll be the first to admit that. I'm just too laid back of a person and don't care to deal with things when I should, it's always caused me problems in life and I need to grow out of it, but it's hard cause its the way I've always been. I just gotta learn when its appropriate to stay chill about a situation and when to say something to make people stop taking advantage of me, being likes this definitely makes me a target.

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    Depends on club and customer and girl.

    At the club I currently work at, the girls don't care cuz it usually helps them. A lot of the regulars love multiple girls swarming them. it encourages the guy to spend more money and usually he takes one girl or both girls to a lapdance and/or pays the thirdwheel for her time (which is usually equivalent to multiple lap dances).

    i truly believe dancers make more money in pairs.

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    I've had girls do this to me. Even going so far as to tip the DJ to put me on stage next and keep them off stage after I politely told a girl to leave my customer and I to talk. She was sitting with him when I got off stage and I pretty much went up to him and grabbed him and took him upstairs to close the sale

    I guess that's a bit of a two way street, even though she was the one who came up to a customer I was sitting with first while I was there. I also one time had a girl try to take my customer literally as I was dancing for him (table dances.) She later apologized and told me she didn't see...and I'm like lol are you blind or something?

    So yeah, I hate it. That being said though, I also hate it when a guy who is sitting with another girl is giving me signals like smiling at me or gesturing at me to come over (and doesn't know the rule!), tipping me on stage etc but the other girl won't leave. I dunno, I feel like that could easily be solved if there was a unspoken rule about just not sitting with a customer over a certain amount of time if he isn't giving you money lol. But then again he shouldn't have been wasting her time either.

    (Side note: the girl who tried stealing my customer by tipping the DJ to put me on stage, after I took my guy to the VIP area went up there before we walked into the VIP room through another entrance that was open and left her kitty ears up there for my customer to find--it was costume night and she was a cat quite fittingly. Needless to say her kitty ears got snapped in half )

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    Default Re: Is it ever ok to approach a customer while hes with another girl

    It's never ok, unless the customer or dancer calls you over to the table. Or if it's a regular you're expecting that day (which he should tell the girls that have approached them).

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    I welcome any intruders by asking them what their blood type is. I never have any problems.
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    Hell no. Plus, if the girl gets called over by the guy, the first thing she should do is ask the current girl if it's ok and explain the situation.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    I really like the passive-aggressive route.

    *elbows intruder-girl's boobies while reaching for drink I left on the bar next to custie* Oh, I'm SO sorry. I just wanted to quickly grab my glass of wine... that was here... because I was here... before you were here. *elbows intruder-girl's boobies while bringing wine glass back across the bar towards self*

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    No, this is never ok like the others said unless its just to say hi cuz u know them or if they ask u to join. I once went up to a group with one girl n 2 guys and the girl got mad at me, I was like wtf u can't have both hoe, u gotta pik one!

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    lots of new girls don't know about stripper etiquette/ignore it blatantly.

    I just take it as an invitation to get even and if there is ever a situation where they sit with my regular or a guy that clearly likes me better, I cross her too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetJulia View Post
    Hell no. Plus, if the girl gets called over by the guy, the first thing she should do is ask the current girl if it's ok and explain the situation.
    If a guy specifically calls another dancer over when a girl is already with him, that should signal to the first girl that he's not interested (unless there's a double dance situation). Why would it be up to the dancer that the customer actually likes to explain the situation to the rejected girl?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sansa View Post
    If a guy specifically calls another dancer over when a girl is already with him, that should signal to the first girl that he's not interested (unless there's a double dance situation). Why would it be up to the dancer that the customer actually likes to explain the situation to the rejected girl?
    Altho I agree here, I have also had this situation happen: walking by another girl's stage one nite, a customer sitting at her rail suddenly waved me over.

    He had seen my stage show but couldn't find me after & was waiting to either see me round again or maybe hear my name so he could have me brought over, & in the meantime was just killing time at this other girl's rail. Wanted dances & wanted them now. So off we went, & right when the girl onstage happened to turn round & see us leaving. She hadn't been paying him much attention from what I could see, but boy did she sit up & take notice. I saw nothing wrong w/ it, since he had called me over & blatantly stated his preference … in retrospect I could have tried to smooth it over by saying 'Let's tip her first since she is working hard for you guys up there' but it happened so quickly I didn't really give it much thought. Plus, she was a loose cannon anyway so it might not have mattered.

    No amt of explaining 'after the fact' & apologising could fix that hot mess. She picked fights w/ me every chance she got, openly threatened me, etc. I wasn't particularly afraid of her but it brought a tension to me at work that I really didn't like having to deal w/, & since she was quite senior to me she was pretty much left by mgmt to her own devices.

    Had it been me, yeah, I would have certainly been annoyed. I generally try to keep an even temper at work, if for no other reason than bc even a simple misunderstanding can spiral out of control so quickly. Trying to see it from her side(w/o the crazy lol) I agree it looked like I was trying to step on her toes, & would admittedly have been a bit suspicious of another girl trying to explain herself as I had, whether upfront or after the fact. So I see both your side, Sansa, & SweetJulia's here.

    The problem is that dancers are such a mixed bag & this is a pretty delicate situation no matter how you slice it. Unless the girl being called over is your stripper-bff, & sm times even then , you just can't always be sure whether it's an innocent case of customer preference, or a dancer trying to test your limits, or even a customer trying to stir the pot between dancers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sansa View Post
    If a guy specifically calls another dancer over when a girl is already with him, that should signal to the first girl that he's not interested (unless there's a double dance situation). Why would it be up to the dancer that the customer actually likes to explain the situation to the rejected girl?
    I completely agree. This happens to me occasionally (I've been on both sides) and in my opinion, the customer has the right to choose which girl he wants. I think we would all prefer that they not reject us so blatantly by calling over another dancer right in front of us, but hey, it happens. I tend to think it's best to graciously wish the customer and the other dancer a good night and keep hustling the crowd. The other dancer isn't to blame for the customer's rudeness.

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