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    Question Time for new regulars...feeling a little nervous

    I've been living in NYC for about 3 years now and had built up a nice little group of regulars who all seem to be bailing on me one by one (except my favorite and best customer who has actually gotten more into me) or at least not seeing me nearly as often I know the reason for each specific case and I've decided some of them are not worth trying to get back. Many of them were a huge pain in the ass to deal with so i've decided I would like to start fresh. I will keep lines of communication open and still send occasional texts/discreet pics to the old regs but I want to focus on gaining new and hopefully better quality customers.

    I'm nervous though bc I've lost some confidence when I started noticing customers leaving and not coming back. I feel like I just don't have it anymore. I'm very introverted but I'm excellent at one on one so while I might not capture someone's attention right away, when i get it I tend to hold it for awhile (all my old regs were at least 2.5 years and frequent) and am able to ask for very high rates (this might be an issue going back into it....) I know I have to get back out there but I feel like I don't even know where to start! I don't have $ for a photo shoot right now. I'm on a shoe string budget since all my $ goes to school, living expenses and recently have spent a lot on travel/vacations plus I haven't been working :-/

    Guess i'm just looking for words of encouragement/advice...thanks ladies! <3

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    Default Re: Time for new regulars...feeling a little nervous

    You did it once, so you can do it again. Just get started, taking small actions and then its not so scary.

    You have this. You are great at one on one and get lots of repeat bookings. The results speak for themselves.

    A change in client base doesn't mean anything bad about you. It's just life. Thing's change and people leave so better ones can come together.

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    Default Re: Time for new regulars...feeling a little nervous

    I find that good clients tend to turn over every 2 - 3 years. Even when I was a dancer that was what happened. It's just the nature of the business. The clients aren't interested in monogamy, not even with their wives. Eventually they'll start getting used to you and they'll seek out the thrill of a new relationship again. It's nothing you've done wrong. You'll have to kiss a lot of frogs along the way, but you'll find new clients to replace the old. I'm in the midst of doing the exact same thing. Updating my website, new photos, new ads, etc.
    If you care to you can PM me for a really good photographer who charges very reasonable rates. He works with a lot of strip clubs, so he has no issues about how you'll use your photos, and he's 100% gay so he won't try anything funny with you. If not, have you considered renting a professional camera? You can get something really nice, and a portrait lens for around $100 for 3 days. Adorama has them, so do some other local camera stores, or have it delivered. Just look up dslr camera rentals. If you have a friend with an artistic eye then at least you'll have something current, better than selfies, on your website until you make some money for pro photos. You could also try opening an account on websites like model mayhem where you can trade services called "trade for print". You model for free in exchange for a photo from the photographer. The photographers will be newbies & probably not the best, but there's also no financial investment necessary.
    Don't worry about getting new clients. Just be yourself and you'll attract the right ones for you. Hopefully sooner than later.
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