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    Please let me start by saying I have bad body issues and self esteem, so I get a little obsessed over some words people use about me. Like the other night...
    Basically what happened was I was standing against a wall at the club and my manager came up and asked what's wrong. I just told him no guys wanted a dance and he kept telling me things to say to get them to buy one. Anyway, this super gorgeous blonde dancer walked by and I jokingly said "but I'm going against girls like THAT." And he asked what I meant and I just said she's gorgeous....
    then he went on this long fatherly speech of "you're beautiful, you can hustle any guy. I hired you because you're hot." But then he said "Sydney, you're every guys type. Men like 'em curvy."
    And now I need some help with what exactly curvy means... Because I always consider it an hourglass shape, boobs and hips with a nice feminine shape but in this day and age people often refer to overweight women as curvy.... Not to be a cunt but I do not want to be compared to fat women...
    I'm 5'2 and weigh 127 lbs.
    I feel so disgusting now for some reason... Like I have no business being a stripper....

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    I think you're over-analyzing it.People call me curvy too and I'm petite. What are your measurements? Beyonce is considered curvy, Jennifer Lopez is considered curvy, Rihanna is considered curvy get my drift? It doesn't mean you are fat it means you are not a flatboard and have curves.

    **Sidenote to be in this industry you're going to have to have thick skin, be resilient and be able to take criticism, you will ALWAYS be critiqued on how you look.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Obsession91 View Post
    I think you're over-analyzing it.People call me curvy too and I'm petite. What are your measurements?
    I wear a 34C bra. My waist measures 28 inches and my hips 38 inches. My stomach is what bothers me most. Like if I stand tall and suck in and straighten my back its flat but when I bend it bulges out into a roll and I feel like that's All People are looking at esp on stage

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    Omg same as me almost! Girl you are fine as wine #stopit, I'm 34-26-37. My stomach bulges a bit too but nothing major.Just start trying to tone up more plus the lights in a strip-club are very forgiving meaning no one can see any imperfections but you because you know they're there! Especially if you work night-shift.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Obsession91 View Post
    Omg same as me almost! Girl you are fine as wine #stopit, I'm 34-26-37. My stomache bulges a bit too but nothing major.Just start trying to tone up more.
    Well I hope I didn't offend you with me bashing our body type! I actually like the idea of having "shape" to me but when people actually point it out it gets to me... You are very right with the whole "it's my insecurity talking" because to be honest when you said "not a flatboard" that processes through my brain as a polite "you're fat"

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    Nah I took no offense, I stop too much traffic so I know I'm fine lol. Yes maybe your insecurity is something you should def work on, being in this industry you're going to need alot of confidence especially with dancing to make sales. Men can definitely tell when you're insecure or unsure of yourself.

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    The closest I can compare my body to is Scarlett Johanson. If you look up "Scarlett Johanson bikini" on Google Images, the ones in her blue bikini, that is my stomach bulge im talking about. And they are making fun of her on all these sites
    She's around my height and weight too so I guess I have a Scarlett body!

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    These days the body positivity movement has taken the negative connotations away from the word. More and more larger women are starting to embrace the word "fat" as nothing more than another descriptive adjective.

    As for your insecurities they're completely normal. Even veterans get them. If you are letting them control you, that's another thing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Trena View Post
    The closest I can compare my body to is Scarlett Johanson. If you look up "Scarlett Johanson bikini" on Google Images, the ones in her blue bikini, that is my stomach bulge im talking about. And they are making fun of her on all these sites
    She's around my height and weight too so I guess I have a Scarlett body!
    (Jealous) Women and maybe gay men are making fun of her....straight men would fall over themselves if she walked by. Straight men do not think like we do. They don't notice a little belly pooch/stretch marks/minor imperfections or if they do notice, they don't care. My belly is a little soft like that and all I hear is how "perfect" I am from my customers. They like a little soft, feminine squishiness. lol! There's even a bi girl I work with who says she prefers women to be soft and curvy, not hard bodied.

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    Beauty is subjective okay?

    Quit freaking out over these things. You're not making money that night cause you're worrying too cotdamn much. Your focus should have been on hustling not on what you look like. Dudes could give a sh*t. Seriously. They smell your insecurity and THATS why you struggled that night.

    Hell OWN your body, your "curves", and work it.
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    I made more money being curvy than by being skinny. You will be fine.





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    I prefer curvy But honestly I think its just the way you present yourself is all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Beauty is subjective okay?

    Quit freaking out over these things. You're not making money that night cause you're worrying too cotdamn much. Your focus should have been on hustling not on what you look like. Dudes could give a sh*t. Seriously. They smell your insecurity and THATS why you struggled that night.

    Hell OWN your body, your "curves", and work it.
    I agree.

    Lol 'curvy' is a good thing. Your manager clearly was complimenting you but you still managed to turn it into something negative. You're obsessing over such minute things! I'm 5'8'' and I've recently gone from around 135 lbs up to 155 lbs and I feel the most confident now. My measurements now are 39-28-40 and I get called curvy/thick/big. I'll take those any day. I remember back when I was skinnier some drunk guy called me 'tall and lanky' and that made me feel really insecure. I would rather be called thick/curvy than lanky lol but thats just my opinion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 22lligm View Post
    Your manager clearly was complimenting you but you still managed to turn it into something negative.
    This. I don't understand how you can get fat or anything negative from "I hired you because you're hot." and "Sydney, you're every guys type. Men like 'em curvy." Those are both compliments. You're getting lost in semantics and clearly this manager's meaning of "curvy" is not the same as yours.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    This. I don't understand how you can get fat or anything negative from "I hired you because you're hot." and "Sydney, you're every guys type. Men like 'em curvy." Those are both compliments. You're getting lost in semantics and clearly this manager's meaning of "curvy" is not the same as yours.
    Well when I pointed out in another thread that porn stars were turning to escorting as a means to supplement their income the OP thought that it meant SHE should start escorting. I had to explain that I was trying to illustrate the decline of the industry.
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    I googled the pics and while she's not big at all, she looks like she hasn't hit the gym in ages in those pics. I personally like curvy women that are toned. I think you can get away with being 'bigger' when everything is tight.

    Guys down here love that body type. But I think maybe the rest of the US prefer more slender girls.

    Regardless, confidence is key! I know it's easier said than done but work on your body image and you will run circles around that 'gorgeous' girl you compared yourself to. And if you look like Scarlett in the pics you definitely don't have a weight problem.

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    Curvy: Curvy-Body-Shape.jpg

    Fat: tumblr_mo4ztt6PxE1s2kzeao1_500.jpg

    That's my opinion, anyway.

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    I think even the second one is curvy. She still looks good to me cause her clothes fit her well and she still has a shape and her body is tight with no cellulite.

    Fat is when you have "bootydo" - your stomach sticks out further than your booty do. Fat is when your body is like melted clay. Just big and sloppy with no shape.

    But the worst is obese because death and all types of health issues are highly likely at that stage. Obese is beyond fat and beyond curvy. That's the levels to me: malnourished/anorexic, petite/slim, standard, thick/curvy, fat, then obese.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Vackra View Post
    Curvy: Curvy-Body-Shape.jpg

    Fat: tumblr_mo4ztt6PxE1s2kzeao1_500.jpg

    That's my opinion, anyway.
    Well Ive actually got a smaller frame than the curvy pics, I hate to think I'm so delusional?!

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    I'm sorry but that girl in the second pic is fuckin GORGEOUS. That is all.

    Women come in many shapes and sizes its the way you work it ladies!

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    OP, I am going to speak first in general to a lot of your 'overthinking' posts.

    Honey. Please. Chill. You really seem to get yourself worked up over very small things, & that's a lot of wasted energy that can be put toward constructive ends like tightening your hustle, taking a good look at your current diet/exercise strategy, & the occasional good telling-off.

    Now, I haven't seen any pics of you OP, or looked at the links that you say show a similar body type. I have no idea what you look like, so plz understand that nothing I am abt to say is intended as a jab at your appearance or anything else along those lines. I am going purely off your own description, & from that, I believe you are just fine.

    This pooch you speak of … let's talk abt pooches & what they say abt a person's fitness/health. … … … … … … … … … … … … … … … … … … … … as in, not much.

    I have an athletic build, C boobs, not much ass, & my peak dancing wgt was 118 @ roughly 5'5ish. Maybe a bit shorter if the height-measure from the physical I took two days ago is accurate. That's a BMI of less than 20, which for my measurements is actually underweight. I was pretty much solid muscle bc I did a ton of polework, & my diet was very poor bc, well … I was kinda lazy, I guess is the long&short of it. But I still showed a slight belly bulge if I didn't sit up straight & keep my shoulders back. I had a freakin' 6pack, could do situps & aerial shoulder mounts like there's no tomorrow, yet if I slouched or leaned forward w/o engaging my core, I looked like I was 6mo pregnant.

    There was a magazine article I saw a few yrs ago of an interview w/ an Olympic-class athlete, & among the pics was showing her 'in proper form' w/ good posture, etc. Vs slouchy relaxing. Nite&day difference. So you're going to find the dreaded pooch even on the tightest bodies when that area of that body isn't being kept tight in the moment.

    You commented on 'curvy' being used to describe fat women … well, to be harsh … many of the ppl calling genuinely fat women 'curvy' are other genuinely fat women who are in denial abt the true state of their looks + health.

    From what I have read of your posts in general here, I think your actual appearance (at least going by how you describe yourself) is the least of your problems. Your biggest shortcoming isn't your tummy, or your ass, or whatever else. It's between your ears.

    It's common for girls in our industry to start equating their personal worth w/ how much $$$ they make. Kind of an occupational hazard in a business where one's physical appearance is so important. We often say 'If they aren't paying your bills, then their opinions aren't worth shit' & for the most part, that's true. Look at your recent 'Cheap customers' thread. The guys you were on abt in that thread were either paying you very little, or nothing at all. Same w/ asking if we wonder what mgrs think of you while you're onstage. You are searching desperately for approval in all the wrong places, & as pointed out above, even when you receive it, you turn it into a negative.

    When I say take a good hard look at your current diet+exercise … I have no idea what you're currently doing, so again, don't look for negatives here bc there are not any negatives intended. What I mean by that, is just that. Whatever you're doing, consider it, alongside your goals, & see if it's really working for you. Maybe you can do more; maybe you're bodering on overkill; maybe you just need to play around w/ it to find what will really help you achieve whatever it is you're looking for. Tempest recommends the low-carb Paleo approach; I say go high-carb+high-protein, bc those different things work for us. I would strongly recommend a sitdown w/ a nutritionist, bc the insecurities abt your appearance may colour your judgments abt what actually 'needs' improving.

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    It really depends on your body type. I'm an endomorph, which means carbs are my mortal enemy 99.9% of the time. I treat carbs like female customers: carefully screened, very limited access and always monitored. And like the uterine sector, I'd eliminate them completely if I could but they are a necessity. I try to limit my consumption to the "good" carbs.
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    Curvy to me is a woman of any size or height with hourglass measurements or close to it. Small waist with large boobs and butt. You can have a 6' size 10 woman with 40-30-40 measurements be called curvy, or a 5' 33-23-33 woman given the same label, it's about general body shape and proportion. In your case I think your manager was complimenting your shape for sure. Are you a newer dancer? I know when I was new I suffered from frequent insecurities about my body. If it will help you, and you still feel insecure in a month or two you can look into improving things like diet and excersise. However I think you should focus on confidence first as it is much more
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    A lot of good advice here. I'm curvy! 5'7 140 always dieting working out, I always make a lot of money but I get being insecure because I feel really fat lately. I'm always insecure whether I'm fat or skinny. It's just my personality. But OP, the manager took the time to encourage you and tell you look great. Most managers aren't going to do this. This is probably the best it's gonna get when it comes to managers. Maybe you should rethink this job. Not to be negative but maybe it's just not for you. Or, maybe do some self love reading. Or, read up on some ways to build your self confidence. Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trena View Post
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    I'm 5'2 and weigh 127 lbs.


    It appears your weight is right where it should be.

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