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    Default Bouncer caught me touching

    Hello -

    I had my first strip club visit the other day. At our table, I tell her I'm going to brush her shoulder and ankle during the dances but nothing more, I want to treat her like a lady. She doubtless thinks that I am into her. She gives me 3 dances and totally rocks my world.

    During one of her lean back, her head and neck-over-my-right shoulder moves, so I get a down-the-body boob view, with her hands she squeezed her breasts together a few times, I didn’t realize I was touching her. I had both hands on her ribs. That wasn't an area I said I would touch. READERS: also realize, this city is a no touching locale, yet dancers and customers seem to slightly ignore this. The bouncer came over and stopped me. I felt I had gone too far and got too into it. I told her I was sorry. I told her I didn't mean to touch her like that. She danced closer to me and whispered, "I didn't tell you that you couldn't!"

    Did I dis-respect the dancer by TELLING HER rather than ASKING HER if I could touch? I think her response was her actual answer and not some fantasy reply? It's hard to tell.

    Thanks!
    Dominic
    Last edited by Dominic.2; 11-30-2015 at 12:51 PM. Reason: Thanks for the feedback

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    Default Re: Bouncer caught me touching

    If she wanted you to stop touching her, she would've made you stop touching her, either by moving her body out of your clutches, sliding your hands off, or straight up telling you to get your hands off her. Between that and the lack of consequences beyond simply being told to stop by the bouncer, maybe the club isn't as no contact as the city would like it to be.

    In any case, you may want to get better about following the rules. You are not a child -- you don't "accidentally" touch someone. Take responsibility for your actions and correct them: sit on your hands, hold something, or otherwise do something to prevent yourself from having another "accident."

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    shanna dior,

    All true. Thanks for your response and for not holding back.

    Your rep speaks for itself on this site. I didn't expect a grand dame to respond. I can play by the rules and act like the gentleman I am. The club is certainly a needed release for me. That's why I want to make sure to set boundaries early on. I would hate to spoil a good thing. You're right, I acted on my desires and that was over the line. I take responsibility.

    This was what was really compelling me to post. Deep down I knew I did something what wasn't right and needed to get it out.
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    Obviously it didn't bother her, but I always appreciate customers asking if they can touch and what my boundaries are rather than assuming and touching without permission. I know customers get excited and touch subconsciously at times but it's always a breath of fresh air to have a man control himself and respect my rules/club's rules.

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    Default Re: Bouncer caught me touching

    Anyone else when they first read the thread title thought that the OP had got caught touching the Bouncer I need to pay more attention when reading thread titles.

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    Default Re: Bouncer caught me touching

    ^ lol
    Tiny tweaks----->BIG CHANGES

    Quote Originally Posted by Kirakonstantin View Post
    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Default Re: Bouncer caught me touching

    Grammar fail, I suppose.

    Now, if the bouncer was some 6 foot tall Amazonian ... (I'm kidding).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Omegaphallic View Post
    Anyone else when they first read the thread title thought that the OP had got caught touching the Bouncer I need to pay more attention when reading thread titles.
    You never know anymore.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Omegaphallic View Post
    Anyone else when they first read the thread title thought that the OP had got caught touching the Bouncer I need to pay more attention when reading thread titles.
    LOL. I accidentally read it as Bouncer caught touching me.

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    Seriously. I was touching the dancer. I would have thought that was obvious.
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    Update:

    I went back to the strip club this past Friday. The dancer from 2 months ago wasn't there so I found another dancer. She was a very good conversationalist so I spent my entire three hours in the club with her, talking, dancing, enjoying a few drinks, and having a nice connection.

    Probably the nicest compliment was I was told I was (srsly) her single best, most respectful, easy to talk to, fun customer in her 4 years as a dancer. "Where did you come from and can they send more like you!" I'm confident I can enjoy myself now even with my normal direct approach, which she thought was a nice change of pace from her typical customer. She told me she felt she could trust me -- with back turned to me while dancing -- not having to count out the money I gave her -- being able to leave her drink with me -- respecting her boundaries, etc.

    Also thanks for all of the feedback (pos and neg) in the venting, rants, Dear Mr. Customer threads -- all of it. This is one of the few places on the internet I've found for straight, honest, no-BS feedback from females. It's like Prometheus bringing fire to man.

    It's nice to feel like I can act like a fully functional man without resorting to feeling like I have to act like a whipped p*ssy to still be respectful.

    Thanks everyone!

    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post

    In any case, you may want to get better about following the rules. You are not a child -- you don't "accidentally" touch someone. Take responsibility for your actions and correct them: sit on your hands, hold something, or otherwise do something to prevent yourself from having another "accident."
    Thank you, I'm buying access to time with her not unlimited access to her body. That part is clearer now.

    Quote Originally Posted by wednesday86 View Post
    it's always a breath of fresh air to have a man control himself and respect my rules/club's rules.
    This worked out well for my last visit. She was happy that I was direct and asked up front.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dominic.2 View Post
    Seriously. I was touching the dancer. I would have thought that was obvious.
    It was, I find misunderstanding things on purpose is useful for humour such as this case.

    Its also useful for turning someone elses sarcastic agreement against them.

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    ^^No harm. At least you guys are equal opportunists when it comes to ribbing blues.

    I was pre-occupied with the baby stripper when I wrote those responses, like she was some shrinking violet or something when she wasn't, TBH. I've mellowed out, I promise.
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    I'll happily rib pinks as well as blues, I'm equal opportunity that way .

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    Default Re: Bouncer caught me touching

    In my experience, the dancer is more likely to get fired for a customer who breaks the rules than the customer getting ejected from the club. I've seen plenty of girls who got fired because they didn't object vigorously enough to a customer's attempts to touch her.

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