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    Default Rumor Spreading 'Extras' Girl.

    Hello! I just started dancing a month ago.

    A girl named Stella at my club does extras and has a history of lying to customers about other dancers, telling them that the girls here have herpes/other STDs. Funny because you have to be an extras girl to transmit those... anyway I saw her pointing at me while talking to this customer and it really irritated me.

    What should I do in this situation? I don't want her driving customers away from me. Even though I don't do extras, I'm sure it would still drive customers away because of the stigma associated with it.

    What do I do in this situation?

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    Default Re: Rumor Spreading 'Extras' Girl.

    Tell the manager and let him handle it. I'm sure he wouldn't want a girl working there telling customers that dancers their have STDs doesn't make for good business for the club.

    I had a girl do a similar thing to me, trash talk me to guys telling them not to spend money on me but in my case it was because of my "drug habit." I still haven't figured out who it was, I only know because a guy told me, but would not tell me who. In your case since you know who specifically definitely tell a manager!

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    Default Re: Rumor Spreading 'Extras' Girl.

    I'm sure most of the girls at your club probably hate her effing guts. Why don't you all approach your manager together and demand he put an end to this bullshit? Tell him to fire her? There is no reason for someone like that to be working at your club, she's a trouble maker and she makes the club look bad by doing what she does. Personally, I don't have a problem with extras, to each her own, but she's taking it even a step further by talking shit about other girls and f*cking with their business. If all else fails, you could always pee in her bag! lol

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    You do nothing. The only person she's making look bad is herself, and most quality customers can see right through dancers who talk shit about other dancers. Ignore her and say nice (or at least neutral) things about her if customers ask you about her. The only customers who would actually care about what she says would be looking for extras anyway, since as you pointed out, you have to do extras to transmit anything.

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    Default Re: Rumor Spreading 'Extras' Girl.

    Laugh when she's gossiping in the dressing room and tell her if her mother wasn't so ugly, Extras Girl might have a chance at making money.

    You might get assaulted for saying this though...

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    Default Re: Rumor Spreading 'Extras' Girl.

    Uhh...do nothing and move on. No good comes out of letting negativity effect you. You can't control the bitch but you can control how you react to her. When people like her sees that they are not effecting you, it will stop because people like her live off of drama a negativity and she will get bored with you and move on once she realizes you're not about that life.

    Trust me, I am sure customers can pick up that she is a negative person. No one wants to come to a strip club and relax only to run into some gossip queen. If she told a customer some bullshit lie, all you have to say and do to that same customer is say "Ehhh...It's not true and dunno what her deal is...hope she gets over it." Shrug it off and change the subject..and then guess what? YOU WON HANDS DOWN. Automatically, you are sexier in that customers eyes and more valuable.

    It's very hard to not let your emotions get to you because of this bitch but I'm telling you, keeping your composure for a short amount of time is WORTH IT. If you need to let it out, you have stripperweb. Don't let that bitch win.

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    Default Re: Rumor Spreading 'Extras' Girl.

    Stay out of the dressing room. The floor, the stage and the VIP are where you make your money. Concentrate your efforts there. Every minute in the dressing room is costing you $. There are only two reasons to be in the dressing room: to change costumes or use the rest room.

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    Default Re: Rumor Spreading 'Extras' Girl.

    ^ and to eat and clear my head, or listen to a motivating YouTube vid or stretch/meditate

    I know the difference between I'm taking a useful/recharging break in the changeroom and I'm in the changeroom and I can feel my mood deteriorating- its being aware of how your surroundings are influencing you and responding for your best interest after that.

    I agree that money is made out on the floor etc but I have learned to be accountable to myself for time spent in the changeroom: when I prevent myself from having a break because I "don't want to miss an opportunity" then I am more likely to develop injuries and burnout because I am effectively telling myself "no breaks allowed".

    We all have our on methods and I just wanted to put one out there for those who take conscientious sanity breaks too.


    Agreed with the "do nothing and let her tie her own rope method", would like to add; some customers while be gossipy types who encourage you to get dirty about fellow dancers and incite the kind of drama that ExtrasGirl is provoking; these are not actual customers if they continuing trying to engage on this level after you have shut down/steered the topic away. Walk away from this type of guy; he is a timewaster playing the role of shoulder to lean on.
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    Default Re: Rumor Spreading 'Extras' Girl.

    You don't know anything for sure. Are you positive she was pointing at you or was she just pointing in your general direction? Ignore her and do your job. The customers don't believe everything they hear from another girl. In fact, they probably don't really listen to 99.9% of what we tell them anyway, so worrying about it is pretty much a gigantic waste of time.

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    Default Re: Rumor Spreading 'Extras' Girl.

    If it affects your business, calmly but firmly inform a manager about what's going on. I say this only for your own protection; when I've had problems with little bitches at work, I gp to the manager if I think the girl migjt end up getting a little too belligerent, so the manager knows ahead of time that I was "concerned" about this girl and doesn't think I just beat her ass out of nowhere.

    Otherwise, just keep hustling. Most customers will be annoyed with a dancer telling them of a non-extras girl having an alleged std. It's not their business because they couldn't catch it anyway so the guys worth talking to will see through her lies.

    Someone should put this girl in her place, and she clearly doesn't belong in a strip club. If you have to do extras AND lie about other girls just to make money, stripping is not for you. Lol
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    Default Re: Rumor Spreading 'Extras' Girl.

    Just ignore her.At my previous club one girl did that,I told the manager and he didn't really do anything about it.She didn't succeed to affect my money at all.The guys that have money are mostly smart and can recognize a desperate bottom feeder when they see one.

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