Hey ladies.
I need some serious advice right now. As y'all know my husband and I have had our ups and downs, especially since we moved in with his parents and then I moved out here (two hours away from his hometown.)
He was living here with me for the last 4 or 5 months and I told him I was happy to support him until he got a job or figured out his next move....but since he moved here he hasn't done anything. At first it was great because he kept the house spotless, did most of the cooking and basically just made my life easier since I'm pretty much either working, in class or doing schoolwork.
For the last month I'd say he started dropping the ball....pretty much stopped talking to me...very little sex or affection...started spending money on dumb shit we don't need. I would come home to a dirty house and dirty, grumpy kid. So I was getting pretty stressed out.
Yesterday I confronted him about in a calm, mature way. He threw one of his temper tantrums saying he "can't get a job around my schedule" and that he doesn't really want to back to school, but he's doing it for me...and basically has no interest in getting a real career or a good job.
I went to my class last night and got there early so we kept fighting via text. I told him I'm not sure if I want the marriage anymore since I don't want to be married to a freeloader, or a guy who will only work part time when he feels like it. I don't want it to all be up to me if we ever get a house or achieve financial stability. Yes we're okay with me dancing but let's face it, the clock is ticking. Why am I busting my ass working and going to school full time while he does nothing?
He said "I don't know if I want the marriage either" like are you fucking kidding me? I've been nothing but a good wife to him. I said "Fine if you don't want to be with me then get out." I come home and he was gone. Took all his shit, and the kid and went back to his mom's. Of course. He always runs back to mommy.
Now he won't talk to me at all, other than to tell me how the baby is. I asked him "Are you going to stay there now or are you coming back at some point? Do you really want to get divorced, should I start the paperwork? Should I start looking for a babysitter for our son and set up visiting arrangements? What is going on?" No reply in 24 hours. He always does this when he's mad...Either blows up at me or completely ignores me.
Honestly I just feel done. I feel like I could do a lot better. Should I try to make it work since we have a baby together or cut my losses and get out while I'm still young? I do not miss him at all. I don't even think I love him anymore. I just miss my kid.



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Mine also does the same stuff with not wanting to move up. I wanted to move to a nicer neighborhood and he could just transfer restaurants or find a new one, because he would make SO much more money in this neighborhood... and I got "But I LIKE my coworkers and my restaurant here, no, I'd keep driving out to there."
Baffles me; when my club sucks, I switch clubs, no matter how much I like the staff/other girls.

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