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    Default regular that gives you the creeps??

    whats popping SW, first post here
    might i add i just started dancing a month ago
    I'm wondering if any of y'all have a regular that spends bare $$$ on you but when he walks into the club you get goosebumps n just think oh god. i know whats about to go down. this guy has me saying and doin the weirdest shit in vip I'm so embarrassed i cant even say. I'm taking these memories to the grave.
    should i cut him off?

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    Your mental health is #1 in this job.

    If you don't want to dance for a customer, the money doesn't matter. Walk away.

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    I have on guy that ild point blank refuse the highest VIP rooms with now and its hard to explain and sounds petty but you dont understand if you wernt thre, hes all about my 'uhum' JayJay! he leans down during lapdances to get a 'good veiw of it' and even says 'wheres it gone, peekaboo' again i know this sounds funny but honestly i feel sick after spending time with him i feel violated worse than with the grabbers! so if you feel uncomfortable you are in charge!

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    Default Re: regular that gives you the creeps??

    If he's spending the bare minimum (I think that's what you mean by bare $$$?) and makes you feel uncomfortable, drop him. The money isn't always worth it, and there is almost always more money around the corner anyway.

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    At what price would you feel ok and not creepy dancing for this customer? Tell him that price the next time he asks for a dance. If dances are normally $30-40 a song, maybe raise the price to $100 a song, with a 5 song minimum payable in advance. I'd be willing to bet he'll find someone else to get dances from. You can just tell him that you are plenty busy and that if the price is too high, there are other girls in the club. :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    If he's spending the bare minimum (I think that's what you mean by bare $$$?) and makes you feel uncomfortable, drop him. The money isn't always worth it, and there is almost always more money around the corner anyway.
    where i live "bare" means a lot. but ya not all money is good money

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    Default Re: regular that gives you the creeps??

    since I'm new i literally thought us dancers had to go through weird things to make lots of $$ as long as its not sex
    feeling more comfortable now and ya I'm dropping him

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    This doesn't sound like a good situation, emotionally. From what you've told us, it sounds like the situation is financially good. Whatever dollar figure this may be, you need to decide if the amount you are getting paid outweighs the emotional "cost" you are having to pay. If it doesn't, reevaluate how the situation will affect you; regulars have shelf lives (especially this one, it seems) so in the end, will it have been worth it?

    Furthermore, you said you are embarassed by things he's had said and done in the vip, and if you continue to do it, will it loosen your boundaries to letting more customers do this, which sounds like it would be emotionally destructive to you, ultimately.

    In this industry, you have to look out for Self. There may be times when you might be the only one who has your back. There will always be more money to be made. It is replaceable. So are guys that spend a pretty penny on you. But your mental health is much harder to replace and restore than cash.

    "Rather have my feet hurting than my pockets."

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    I refuse dances if I get weird vibes from a guy and I dump regulars all the time. I always make it back from someone else who pays just as much but isn't a creep or a pain in the ass. No $ is worth it. Glad you're dropping him!

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    Quote Originally Posted by polequeenkat View Post
    since I'm new i literally thought us dancers had to go through weird things to make lots of $$ as long as its not sex
    In sm areas, dancers are all but expected by the club & its clientele to provide sex as well. Those are not the kind of clubs you want to be in.

    As a dancer, you are under no obligation to do a damn thing for any damn body.But no one tells us this, unfortunately we have to figure it out for ourselves. Customers certainly won't tell us this bc then they can't exploit our naïveté, & club mgmt often won't bc it can interfere w/ their own bottom lines & bc dancers are easily replaceable.

    If a person or situation is giving you a bad feeling, 99.999% of the time … there is a valid reason for it. So mainly for this reason, I would advise against Tour's suggestion above. On the off-chance this creepy customer took you up on such an offer, you might find yourself in a spot that's turned into more than you bargained for.

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    I interpret tourdefranz suggestion to mean telling the customers a price super expensive so they wouldn't be able to afford your time anymore. I tell customers asking for sex that it would be so expensive they most likely couldn't afford it. I never tell them a price just - for you....unattainable, unaffordable, and priceless.

    It would backfire it dude turned out to be uber rich like "$100/dance? Okay!"
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    I interpret tourdefranz suggestion to mean telling the customers a price super expensive so they wouldn't be able to afford your time anymore. I tell customers asking for sex that it would be so expensive they most likely couldn't afford it. I never tell them a price just - for you....unattainable, unaffordable, and priceless.

    It would backfire it dude turned out to be uber rich like "$100/dance? Okay!"
    That's exactly what I meant ^^^^ great for a wanker you know is cheap, but he just might turn out to be that 1/1000 that would pony up & expect her to 'hold up her end of the bargain'

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    Oh okay my bad. I need to read slowly so I don't miss important points.

    But i feel ya OP. I've encountered creepy customers and majority are cheap as well but you never know, this man could be rich and ready to pay lots of money to get what he wants. You should charge higher for fetish type customers but like others have said, if your gut tells you no then that's what it is.

    Otherwise you're not going to enjoy your time at work. Doing things you dont enjoy just for money is the fast track to a mental therapists office at best.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    I interpret tourdefranz suggestion to mean telling the customers a price super expensive so they wouldn't be able to afford your time anymore. I tell customers asking for sex that it would be so expensive they most likely couldn't afford it. I never tell them a price just - for you....unattainable, unaffordable, and priceless.

    It would backfire it dude turned out to be uber rich like "$100/dance? Okay!"
    I meant it literally. I will put up with a lot of bullshit if the money is there. I don't think a customer could say anything to me to make me want to leave the dance if the price is right. You just have to make sure there is enough money involved to smooth over the rough patches.

    Obviously this won't work for everyone. If you let people's words get under your skin, you are going to have to be a lot pickier about who you dance for. Words, even the worst insults, have never really bothered me all that much. Perhaps this is a skill I learned while working at Comcast's call center. Haha!

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    ^I can agree on that, a man's words alone probably won't deter me from dancing for him if the price is right. But if he's actually doing gross things I draw the kine. And she said, this guy has me saying and doin the weirdest shit in vip I'm so embarrassed i cant even say." So he's not just saying things at this point.
    "Rather have my feet hurting than my pockets."

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    I've noticed older men can be freaky kinky but I've been able to deal with it since my brain is a lot like a Nine Inch Nails video- very warped.

    If you are truly reacting in a physically disgusted way (shuddering, nausea, cringing...) ....The money is not worth it.

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