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    Default Were you open with like SO about your occupation? Why or why not?

    My SO is really, really judgmental about like any position that is more provocative or as she'd say degrading. I obviously haven't been really honest in considering dancing. But I was curious about others how if they did or did not tell SO. How did it work out?

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    I met mine ITC and popped his cherry. He has no complaints 4 years later.
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    You better tell her if you start doing it. Don't think you can hide that shit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    You better tell her if you start doing it. Don't think you can hide that shit.
    This ^^

    If you're going to dance, you have to tell them, and you may end up having to choose the job over the relationship, or vice versa. It's going to come out at some point and the longer you hide it, the worse it gets.

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    Start your stripping career off with a clear conscience so we don't have to see another whiny "My boyfriend/girlfriend/baby daddy/domestic partner doesn't like me stripping! What should I do?"
    Read those threads as an example of how NOT to balance stripping and your home life.
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    I was open from the beginning with my husband, he is supportive to this day. As a long term dancer, I consider myself open minded and I wouldn't be satisfied with a partner who didn't hold this value highly.

    It's up to you whether you do or dont say something but I believe that its best to be honest about who I am and the choices I make, and why I do so, to the best understanding of myself...
    I personally believe our partners deserve the truth.

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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    My boyfriend knows everything, and I'm glad that I was honest from the beginning, it would have sucked to have found out six months in he couldn't handle it. And I think it would probably would have been worse for him to find out I was hiding things from him.

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    My boyfriend knows I escort and cam. Lying would hurt a relationship more then the actual job.
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    I told my BF about my past dancing. He's cool with it. Of course, he gets the full contact, full nude, hands on experience at home that is not available in clubs. :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zofia View Post
    I told my BF about my past dancing. He's cool with it. Of course, he gets the full contact, full nude, hands on experience at home that is not available in clubs. :-)
    ^^^^ This is p much the exact deal I have with my spouse

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    I'll link some threads on how NOT to conduct a relationship while stripping when I get done at the gym. It's really not rocket science. Don't lie to your partner. Give them the respect they deserve by being honest from the get go. If you have to make a whiny post asking if you should choose between money or your partner, you probably know the answer already.
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    As promised, here are some threads for how NOT to conduct a relationship while stripping. Read this them do the opposite of the original poster.
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...-every-weekend
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...to-do-sex-work
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...ve-a-boyfriend
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...61#post2791161
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    I think you should tell her. If someone doesn't understand it's a physical job for you, not a turn on, do you want to be with someone so dumb?
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SuperJa View Post
    This ^^

    If you're going to dance, you have to tell them, and you may end up having to choose the job over the relationship, or vice versa. It's going to come out at some point and the longer you hide it, the worse it gets.
    yeah I gues I'm going to when I decide I actually want to go ahead with it. Like I mean currently for the next few weeks I shouldn't be dancing anyhow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    I'll link some threads on how NOT to conduct a relationship while stripping when I get done at the gym. It's really not rocket science. Don't lie to your partner. Give them the respect they deserve by being honest from the get go. If you have to make a whiny post asking if you should choose between money or your partner, you probably know the answer already.
    Leave work at work and home life at home. (Unless you're bringing home hot chicks to fuck)
    Yeah I rather pay my bills. I just know if I told her she wouldn't support it. She doesn't even like cocktail waitresses. She wouldn't want me around men like that. If she knew we'd break up. I guess I have to accept that if I choose this occupation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Start your stripping career off with a clear conscience so we don't have to see another whiny "My boyfriend/girlfriend/baby daddy/domestic partner doesn't like me stripping! What should I do?"
    Read those threads as an example of how NOT to balance stripping and your home life.

    oh you won't I am sure if I were to tell it would be over.


    I just didn't really want to cose

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zofia View Post
    I told my BF about my past dancing. He's cool with it. Of course, he gets the full contact, full nude, hands on experience at home that is not available in clubs. :-)
    that's a good point!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Flickdreams View Post
    I was open from the beginning with my husband, he is supportive to this day. As a long term dancer, I consider myself open minded and I wouldn't be satisfied with a partner who didn't hold this value highly.

    It's up to you whether you do or dont say something but I believe that its best to be honest about who I am and the choices I make, and why I do so, to the best understanding of myself...
    I personally believe our partners deserve the truth.

    What do you believe about honesty?


    I don't really believe in anything. I only really know about facts. Which is how I rather live my life.

    Like with dancing for me. It's not really about having an open mind. It's about the fact that I feel I have some experience. Just the same as any other position I may be interested in. It's about what I can bring to the table and how well the position would fit for me.


    Like my current job does interviews on political issues I do on many issues that are against my own political beliefs and my gf''s for that matter but my job is o administer surveys so not really to do with my own values or my gfs for that matter. That's just how I've lived my life.

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