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    Default Hypocriticaly speaking...... if a co-worker

    If one of your co workers isdancing on stage...you know, doing her set, and your ok or cool with her... and she does a weird dance move that is routin to her but looks awful... would you tell her? Like that it doesn't look sexy?

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    Default Re: Hypocriticaly speaking...... if a co-worker

    I think she may get it on her own from losing customers. She may take it the wrong way if you mention something about it, depends on what type of personality she has. You could just teach her a better move without saying anything.

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    Default Re: Hypocriticaly speaking...... if a co-worker

    The worse she looks, the better you will look jks. Seriously though, if she is new then I would probably say something (I often nicely suggest the newbies slow it down, relax etc). If she isn't new you risk offending her and creating an enemy, so it just isn't worth it IMO (unless you are friendly with her, then it should be fine).
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    I've told my co-workers to their face. Better to hear it from you than behind their back.
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    if your cool together yes! i would deff want to know!

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    I wouldn't. If you're only ok/cool with her and not actually friends, it's likely to create drama more than anything. Especially if it's routine for her, she most likely knows how it looks and thinks it looks good, so just let her do her thing. I've seen some weird as hell dance moves done on stage that haven't turned off customers, so what looks awful to a fellow dancer can still be sexy for the customers.

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    Default Re: Hypocriticaly speaking...... if a co-worker

    I agree with shanna. If she's an overall bad dancer, like a newbie who has no idea what she's doing, it's one thing to offer to teach her some moves. But telling an otherwise seasoned dancer that one move looks bad, is not something I'd want to hear. I've had people try to "correct" my moves before and it was just annoying, even if it came from a place of trying to be helpful. What it always felt like it came down to was just their personal preferences of what they liked to do cuz they thought only certain things were sexy.

    I honestly can't imagine how you'd tell someone that their dances moves look bad in a way that wouldn't just upset them and make them "not cool" with you anymore.
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    Default Re: Hypocriticaly speaking...... if a co-worker

    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    I agree with shanna. If she's an overall bad dancer, like a newbie who has no idea what she's doing, it's one thing to offer to teach her some moves. But telling an otherwise seasoned dancer that one move looks bad, is not something I'd want to hear. I've had people try to "correct" my moves before and it was just annoying, even if it came from a place of trying to be helpful. What it always felt like it came down to was just their personal preferences of what they liked to do cuz they thought only certain things were sexy.

    I honestly can't imagine how you'd tell someone that their dances moves look bad in a way that wouldn't just upset them and make them "not cool" with you anymore.
    In the new club, I had a waitress (not dancer) telling me how to do a certain move. Her way was completely crappy and I told her that. I'm very anal about pointing my toes, and the bitch was telling me to NOT point my toes and relax my legs more. Her way looked awful, especially since she was not pointing her toes. I had to let her know I've doing this on and off for the last FIVE years!





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    Default Re: Hypocriticaly speaking...... if a co-worker

    Unless it's something completely embarrassing like tampon string hanging out or tissue on her shoe or tags hanging out then I personally would not say anything.

    Half those broads are too stubborn, stuck up, and uncoachable. I wouldn't want to waste my precious breath or time giving feedback for something they should be paying me for. Lol! Dance instructor is a paid gig. You ain't getting my tips for free.
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    Default Re: Hypocriticaly speaking...... if a co-worker

    hypothetically speaking, hell no i wouldn't! i'd be too busy worrying about myself and making money to critique a friend's dance moves on stage unless its dangerous or unhygienic.

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    I don't spend any time paying attention to the other women at work. I literally​ could not care less about what they're doing on stage.

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    It is none of your business what she does on stage. Worry about yourself.

    Oh, and it's hypothetically. Not hypocritically.
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    ^Snob!!

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    ^ I hate bad grammar hahaha. I hear some of the girls in the dressing room and am like "no wonder there's a dumb stripper stereotype..."
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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    ^ I hate bad grammar hahaha. I hear some of the girls in the dressing room and am like "no wonder there's a dumb stripper stereotype..."
    Betch, whatever...we all have different backgrounds. You and I are two college-educated assholes. Other people have different strengths.

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    Default Re: Hypocriticaly speaking...... if a co-worker

    But seriously, OP, if you're paying that much attention to the girls on stage, that energy would be better directed elsewhere. Your job is not to help your coworkers.

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    I know what you mean OP I have seen some really bad moves on stage before when it's slow at work. Just let her be. It's not your job to help her get better at dancing. And I think most dancers would take a critique like that the wrong way (unless they're brand new and want advice).

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    What looks bad to you might look great to someone else. Remember, everyone likes something different. Maybe she has a customer who really likes watching her do that move.

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    I would just leave it alone. The only time I've ever offered advice is when someone I was actually friends with (not just civil) asked me for my honest opinion because they want to do a better job onstage or when it was dead and a new girl asked for help. I never just tell someone I think something looks bad. That is definitely how drama is started and opens the door for her to think you are just being plain bitchy and not helpful.

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