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    I'm an escort and a dancer. Just got back into the escorting business with a few agencies. I used to be independent but screening has been difficult for me. Working as a dancer, I had tons of friends to talk to about work. Now I don't have anyone anymore because no one knows I'm escorting again.

    This job is so lonely. I have no one to talk to about my experiences or ask for advice. I'm working for agencies that consider the girls gfe, and I don't want to offer that, but I unfortunately need to money. I don't make enough dancing in Connecticut so I'm basically stuck! Advice?

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    Hello, I know how you feel. I definitely feel alienated at times because of the whole social stigma and what not that comes with being an escort. I have no other escort friends at the moment, and I definitely don't tell anyone at my other job what I do! I spend all of my free time alone. Don't get me wrong, I love alone time, but sometimes it's nice to be able to relate with someone that understands what you're going through. Feel free to PM me if you ever feel like talking or need another escort's advice, whatever

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    It is a very lonely job. It made a big difference for me to make friends with other escorts (one person in particular). I don't know about your location, but around here "duo" dates come up every once in a while. You can meet another girl and see if you would be good "duo" partners. The biggest thing that helped me was having a roommate. I share my place with another girl (my friend) Even though we don't always see each other, its nice to catch her ever once in a while and to just have her around.

    Before having her in my life, it was much harder. It can be very isolating and very lonely.

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    This job can be mega isolating. The only thing that keeps me sane are the forums available on sites like verifyhim, fetlife, and also tumblr and twitter.

    Are there any SWOP chapters in your area? You can attend meetings and they are always looking for volunteers.

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    Hi, I'm sorry you're feeling isolated. Try to volunteer if you have time. Pick anything you're passionate about and a spend a couple hours a week on it. I volunteer at the local SPCA. I get to love on cute cats and socialize. I definitely urge you to try volunteering! You will help others and feel better about yourself.

    You can also try meetup to find people who enjoy the same activities as you. I usually go on their hiking trips but with the autumn here that's coming to an end.

    Feel free to PM me anytime you want someone to talk to. Hope things get better for you.

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    Is there any escort community or group in Toronto? I do everything by myself... I need a friend inside, maybe we can do duo in the future or at least some buddy can give me her tips!

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    I have 2 kids so when I'm not working, I'm home with them. I used to have a friend to work with but unfortunately she moved last year. I don't have any friends that would understand this job. And sitting alone in a hotel room waiting for clients is so dull. I like being able to lounge and relax, but the slow days are killing me. Plus I drive almost 2 hours, 2-4 times a week to Mass to work. I'm looking for a better club right now. I miss the music and socializing.

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    Are there any Planet Finesses where you work? For $20 per month their Black Card lets you go to any location. Run in stretch, do cardio go back to your hotel refreshed?

    Quote Originally Posted by ravenskyy View Post
    I have 2 kids so when I'm not working, I'm home with them. I used to have a friend to work with but unfortunately she moved last year. I don't have any friends that would understand this job. And sitting alone in a hotel room waiting for clients is so dull. I like being able to lounge and relax, but the slow days are killing me. Plus I drive almost 2 hours, 2-4 times a week to Mass to work. I'm looking for a better club right now. I miss the music and socializing.
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    That's the worst thing about this job. I hate the loneliness. I welcome everyone who reaches out to me online, as long as they're actually another escort. I had someone here try to befriend me who I am pretty sure is a man pretending to be an escort/dancer. I think the SWOP idea is a really good one. I've always wanted to go to one of their meetings, but they're on Thursday nights here & I never have a Wednesday or Thursday free. Those are my most in demand nights.

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    I own and run a verified escorts only forum if anyone wants to have a private place to share and chat. It is not open to the public.
    I am in no way advertising it, but the offer is there for you guys if you want a private place.

    We have been going about 2 months and already about 25 verified escorts from all over the world. Its pretty cool.

    xx

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    I'm really lucky when it comes to this. I've always been upfront and honest with all my friends and my partners about what I do. If they can't handle it, then they can't handle who I am and I reason to myself: why do I want them in my life? It's taken me a long time to get to this point (years actually), but now that I am it feels much more freeing! I've even met a really, really genuinely nice guy (who neither fetishizes my work or tries to take my money....YET) who supports me in my choice to escort. I've met a number of other girls who have stories similar to mine. I suggest maybe if you're daring, to give this give-no-fucks stance a try...

    Another good way to meet other sex workers is to find a co-operative in your city or go to sex work socials! Sex work socials are usually arranged by either clients or other service providers, but you'll usually find details about them on review forums. If there's a sex-worker organization that is involved in advocacy and social support in your area, that's another start too. They'll usually have holiday parties and whatnot

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    Quote Originally Posted by ravenskyy View Post
    I have 2 kids so when I'm not working, I'm home with them. I used to have a friend to work with but unfortunately she moved last year. I don't have any friends that would understand this job. And sitting alone in a hotel room waiting for clients is so dull. I like being able to lounge and relax, but the slow days are killing me. Plus I drive almost 2 hours, 2-4 times a week to Mass to work. I'm looking for a better club right now. I miss the music and socializing.
    Exactly, I have not been socializing for a while since I started escorting. It's so hard to explain to people around you how you how money to take care yourself (nails, clothes,...) when you are not working. Because all my friends know that I am jobless....

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    Quote Originally Posted by suzi_suzi View Post
    Exactly, I have not been socializing for a while since I started escorting. It's so hard to explain to people around you how you how money to take care yourself (nails, clothes,...) when you are not working. Because all my friends know that I am jobless....
    I tell people that I sell on eBay to earn money. They usually ask no more questions since selling online is so common!

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    I just told them I got a pt job at Starbucks lol. Hope they wont ask me anything about coffee

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    Quote Originally Posted by BombshellBelle View Post
    I tell people that I sell on eBay to earn money. They usually ask no more questions since selling online is so common!
    lol, I do the same shit, I'm a stripper tho, don't escort I'm 2 scared of the trouble. Why don't u just go to nyc and dance isn't it like 40ish mins or something? Theres supposed to be good money in those clubs. Ive traveled an hour to work one way before steadily 3 times per week weekly and it wasn't great but i could deal.

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