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    I do cam shows. I took a hiatus and recently started back. Few days ago my roommate blew up at me about my work. Saying I was lying about doing it and etc. Funny thing is he talked me into camming 2 years ago doing couple shows. He couldnt hang and I kept doing it. I stopped and then we broke up.


    Calling me a whore and all kinds of mean names. How I am a liar and used him. I pay for my own things. I told him I was starting and even when I was camming and he was like don't mention it anymore. So I didn't The other day I mention about getting paid. He acted all surprised and was like what are you doing for money and I told him. Now the shitstorm is neverending.

    Is it me? Does he have a right to be upset? I was upfront. Is it my fault he didnt pay attention? He said he thought that I was joking. Calling me disgusting and a stupid whore and its hitting me kinda hard hearing this from somebody who claims to care for me.

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    Default Re: Roommate is being a jerk about me working

    Wait is this a roommate or a boyfriend?

    Whatever the case is, I think you should not be living with this person if you have any sort of romantic history. No, he does not have a right to call you a stupid whore. Pack your shit and move out, fuck that asshole.
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    Time for a new roommate.

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    Honestly to me he sounds jealous of the $ you make, &also sounds like a JackAss. I'd GTFO frm there or get him out, you donr need or deserve that shit.


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    This post hits close to home for me bc my last bf did smtg similar. He wasn't as nasty abt it (at least not directly into my ear tho God only knows what he said behind my back) & the times he did it were both the last two times we spoke, so I didn't leave myself open to any dead-horse-beating. But I understand how much it hurts when sm1 who claimed to love you lets loose such a low blow.

    For me, I still go back&forth between blinding fury & just plain blindsided WTF???? bc he acted so supportive of me dancing for the 5+ yrs I did it.

    That he would stoop to smtg so hurtful as what you've described should be a dealbreaker IMO. When you think abt it, his reasons for doing so are really beside the point. He has taken a very beneficial but equally stigmatised aspect of who you are & done his absolute, most intentional, dead-lvl best to make you feel like a piece of shit for it. He set out to hurt you w/ the namecalling + the nasty attitude. You don't deserve that, & he doesn't deserve to be permitted to maintain his place in your life.

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    So this is an ex that you're still living with? I'm going to repeat everyone else's advice - MOVE OUT. It's next to impossible to live with someone that you have a romantic past with. He's obviously not "cool" with the whole thing - and not just the camming. It sounds like a lot of residual feelings and jealousy left over.

    No, he doesn't have a right to say these things, make you feel bad, be a jerk, or harass you into quitting. But you should move out asap. The drama isn't going to end as long as you're in the same house.
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    I agree with all the good advice above.

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    Thanks everyone. You are all right. I only stayed living him because I like the area and to help him with rent. I told him I can't stay here anymore. So I guess now I am saving up to move out first of the year. Funny how they talk down at us but at the same time go and see girls like us.

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    Yea.^ Good luck to you, hon! Keep us updated, & take care.


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    Ugh, doesn't sound worth living in. I wouldn't take the stress and agree with others about leaving, why put up with the insults? He has no right to be upset and what business is it of his? If he gets money at the end of every month that is the only thing that should matter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lolitakitty View Post
    Thanks everyone. You are all right. I only stayed living him because I like the area and to help him with rent. I told him I can't stay here anymore. So I guess now I am saving up to move out first of the year. Funny how they talk down at us but at the same time go and see girls like us.
    You're doing the right thing. You're definitely better off moving out.

    Do you feel safe staying with him until the end of the year? He said some awful things to you. I hope he doesn't become violent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    So this is an ex that you're still living with? I'm going to repeat everyone else's advice - MOVE OUT. It's next to impossible to live with someone that you have a romantic past with. He's obviously not "cool" with the whole thing - and not just the camming. It sounds like a lot of residual feelings and jealousy left over.
    This IMHO. An ex is not simply a "roommate" and it's not realistic to expect feelings to just switch off as if the relationship never happened. Sounds like it is time to make a full break and start fresh someplace else.

    Good luck Lolita!

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    This IMHO. An ex is not simply a "roommate" and it's not realistic to expect feelings to just switch off as if the relationship never happened. Sounds like it is time to make a full break and start fresh someplace else.

    Good luck Lolita!
    Yea. Learning this the hard way. I dont want to break the lease. Not gonna stop. I am a "whore" who loves the money and freedom.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lolitakitty View Post
    Yea. Learning this the hard way. I dont want to break the lease. Not gonna stop. I am a "whore" who loves the money and freedom.
    This is gonna sound like an asshole thing to do, but is he also on the lease?

    If so, and you can afford to do so, I would move out and bluff to a degree; stop answering his calls and pretend you're not gonna pay part of the rent and see what he does. Call the management when it's due and make sure he paid it. Obviously if he hasn't paid it you'll have to keep paying to avoid an eviction on your history.

    Sure, he can try to sue you in small claims court but I believe all he'd win would be the half of rent you would have had to pay anyway, so no terrible loss there, and you'd have been out of the shitty situation. IMO most people aren't going to put in the effort to take you to court and waste a day arguing over a couple months of half the rent anyway.

    Yeah yeah, I'm a colossal bitch, but that is NOT okay, he's basically infringing on your ability to work by making you uncomfortable in your own living space. He deserves to be screwed a bit.
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    Hes a jerk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zeke View Post
    Hes a jerk.
    First quote of yours I haven't found offensive, rude, or tasteless. Nicely done!
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetJulia View Post
    First quote of yours I haven't found offensive, rude, or tasteless. Nicely done!
    You say this guy is picking on you. (saw it on another thread and sympathized) but now you are following him and insulting him? It's probably not a good way to get him to stop? Is there an ignore feature on this site? If there is, that's what I'd do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Red Velvette View Post
    You say this guy is picking on you. (saw it on another thread and sympathized) but now you are following him and insulting him? It's probably not a good way to get him to stop? Is there an ignore feature on this site? If there is, that's what I'd do.
    Where did I say he was picking on me? Please quote. I can't ignore, cuz what he says is usually so over the top that it gets quoted by people I don't have blocked, so you see my conundrum. Like when a pregnant lady's husband threw a box of chocolate in her face and left a Mark on Valentine's day and left a mark. Remember him replying with a Forrest Gump quote? I just didn't want similar ignorance and insensitivity to my quote on getting robbed and raped. How dare I.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Red Velvette View Post
    You say this guy is picking on you. (saw it on another thread and sympathized) but now you are following him and insulting him? It's probably not a good way to get him to stop? Is there an ignore feature on this site? If there is, that's what I'd do.
    He regularly jacks threads w/ comments that are tasteless & random at best, often insulting or creepy as well. It's not just Julia's other thread. So it was quite remarkable that he posted smtg here that was actually appropriate.

    OP, any update?

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    Huh? Are you an adult who can make your own decisions? Do you pay your own bills? He's not even a boyfriend??? I truly do not understand this.

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    UPDATE: I have moved out. Been an extreme few weeks. Talked to my landlord about the situation I was in and he listen. Since the lease is up in 2 months he is not making me pay to break it. Moved in with a friend and everything is much better. Only down side is thin walls but less conflict.

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    I think there's some helpful tips Cam Conn about thin walls?
    Anyway, glad you're outta there. Jerk.


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