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    Default How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    I've been on a long sabbatical from dancing- maybe three months? My car being stolen really nailed up that coffin. I ended on a bad note too, an empty Sunday night where I walked with $40.

    I love my day job. I love helping people, I love my boss and co-workers, I love the body positivity and mental support of the place. But it doesn't pay very much and hours are limited. I take home about $800/month and after rent, phone, bills, student loan, I have nothing left over- often groceries and toiletries get paid for by my partner. I'm still paying off my taxes from last year's cash crop. Because I fiddled while the sun shone and all that.

    I am rocking some kind of faux hawk, plenty of body hair (it's amazing how long those nipple hairs get when left alone), haven't worn makeup since I don't know when, and go to bed at 10 or 11pm. I don't know how to dance anymore, looking sexy in general throws me for a loop. I have a second partner- my girlfriend- who's been digging my soft butch look soooo....how to femme?

    I've been dreaming about stripping. It would be so nice to have not only savings but also wiggle room for fun. For birthdays, dates. To be able to buy books, and donate, and invest in things I love. Also I fucking loved the ego trip. I miss being hot shit.

    My close friend who works at the nicer (than my regular dive) club in town moved a few blocks away and goes regularly- which would make getting there real simple.

    But I'm so nervous about it. I don't know how to get sexy, how to stand on stage for six minutes and not look dumb. How to be my own bouncer (this club is pretty shitty in that regard). How to be patient with assholes. How to not fall over in my heels. No fucking idea how to do my makeup or hair. I don't even listen to loud music by myself. I don't dance at concerts anymore. And if I do I'm moshing in jeans and a t-shirt.

    So how did you get back in after a long break? How do you get your persona back? Your confidence? Your Hustle? I think I'm comparing myself to how things were before when I felt like a top dog, totally in control of image. Maybe I need a less fierce act- to try something sweet and soft instead? But can't afford new outfits...
    ah shit guys, I'm all over the place.

    Advice?

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    Arrow Re: How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    Well, for starters, how bout starting going to reg. nite clubs all dolled up? I haven't actually gone bk yet, but I ordered a pr 5" Pleas.heels from Snazz (sorry Temp.) & started wearing them round the house, I got used to them/broke in fast!
    You can get some 'starter' outfits from cheapie clothing stores, (4ever21, Char Russe, Target, etc.) look in the sale bins too, even, (don't laugh) Goodwill! I got a super cute new bra there, for cheap, & a pair of 'civvie heels' (to walk in the door w/, I got pro shoes for actual dancing)
    How bout a wig, just for dancing? Ebay has some great buys, (check out the outfits too) look in Body Biz section too, there's links & other online places..
    I think, from your post, the biggest thing is your confidence..you may have to fake it til u make it! Me personally, I find everyday ppl eyeing me & trying to 'take me down' mentally, I always have @ least the best posture helps. There's loads of U tube makeup tutorials, Sephora & Ulta sometimes offer makeover, even dept store counters, I had to buy 10.00 fake lashes @ Sephora to get started
    Are there any dives you can start out @?

    I may even have some stuff laying around I could throw out to ya, provided we're the same size?
    That's all I can think of for now! I may post more


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    Default Re: How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    Thanks whirerz! It is definitely a confidence issue like you said. I'm not super worried about clothes- as I still have stuff (my shoes are great- 8" Pleasers), and I was at my dive not too long ago- I'm just a little too comfy with my bad attitude there.

    Mostly I need to get my sexy on, and that takes an attitude adjustment- I'm not used to being objectified anymore. Going out clubbing is definitely a great suggestion, I bet wearing a little tight dress and moving my hips again would jump start the seduction headspace. I know I could snare some chumps no problem- the challenge is not giving them a lecture on feminism!

    I kinda want tips on how to get into predator mode again. Hustle headspace. Fierce bitch game face. Do any movies/ music/ mantras help pump you up?

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    Default Re: How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    Whenever I go on my vacations I hate going back. Here are the steps to going back:

    1. Pick a day you want to audition. Mark it on your calendar. Make no excuses, unless you get violently ill.
    2. Two days prior, do your shopping. Wig, outfits, shoes, makeup. If you do not have local shops, move this to maybe 2 weeks earlier to allow for product shipping.
    3. The day before your audition primp. I get in the shower and shave everything (getting waxed is the preference of others). Go tanning (I use spray tan in a can). Get nails done (I've been using press ons to save $$ for now). Put on your makeup, practice putting on your wig (if you choose to use one). Try on your outfits and get your outfits/bag coordinated and packed for the next night.
    4. Read up on Hustle Hut just to refresh your mind.
    5. Day of, get ready and just get in the club!

    It will all come back as soon as you have your shit on and you walk out of that dressing room. Seriously, like riding a bike or horse.

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    Default Re: How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    If you're talking about North good luck. I still don't have the balls to audition there even with Jabba the Hutt gone.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    Default Re: How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    I totally feel you on this because I have a bad habit of taking long, unplanned breaks from work. It seems like I'm always going back after a few months off! Fortunately, I find that the hardest part is actually just getting ready and walking out the door for that first shift back. While I'm doing my makeup, my mind comes up with all kinds of bizarre worries, for example, "What if there's a new blonde who's hotter than me? What if there's a new DJ and he hates me? What if all the customers are zombies?" And so on.

    You can also make it even easier on yourself by setting a ridiculously low goal for your first night back. Like, if you made $40 on your last shift, tell yourself that if you can make $50, you'll be happy with that. That way you don't have to deal with the pressure of trying to bank on top of everything else. Plus, giving yourself the opportunity to be grateful really does wonders for your state of mind.

    Really though, there's nothing to it but to do it, you know? Just think positive, stay tough, get in there and get the worst of it over with so you can resume being a hot shit top dog stripper ASAP. Good luck! You can do it!

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    Default Re: How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    If you're talking about North good luck. I still don't have the balls to audition there even with Jabba the Hutt gone.
    Just Eubank- I'm worried everyone's pole game is gonna crush me ;p

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    Default Re: How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    IMO the best way to get back in the hustle mindset is to just get back in the club. No matter how long of a break I've taken the combo of the lights, music and heels brings me right back into my stripper persona and no matter how much I've been dreading it (and believe me I dread it a lot), being at work again always feels great. Think about how great it's gonna feel to pay your electric bill in a couple songs. Everything you need to succeed is already inside you.
    As for the pole stuff don't even trip, the guys here do not give a fuck about that. Trust me they give no fucks whatsoever. None. They want personal attention. I work over at North and I go onstage like twice a night anyway, so it won't be a big part of your shift. I think you should be excited about the bigger money making potential and it's great that you have a friend to motivate you to go to work.

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    Default Re: How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    Thanks Elizabe! Yay, I'm more of a personal attention kinda girl anyway- and I hear y'all could do with some big booty bitches up in there ;p

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    Default Re: How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    Ding dong, the bitch is gone. Bonnie was fired and she now manages some shitty club in Phoenix. Definitely hit up the north. I was there in May and they were hiring all body types. The money was really good when I was there.

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    Default Re: How do you jump back into the shark tank?

    If it doesn't come to you naturally, you have to do some homework and research... and/or make it into a game/ challenge. Study SW, go to Picture Posts or Music and watch videos with dancers, or watch some porn. Practice walking with your shoes and g-string on, practice your nails/ makeup/ hair. Baby steps. You might have to save up a certain amount to get back into it, since you said you need new clothes and everything.
    I find that there is a (re-)learning curve following my longer breaks, and its a little awkward at first. But you can do it.

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