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    Default The "I'm too nice" problem

    Well it seems like my username says it all.

    I've been camming for about a year, first at the studio (where I did very well) then from home (with mixed results). My main two problems are inconsistency - I always vow to myself to work 5d x 4h and then end up working once every 2 days: UTI, headaches, PC problems, my gf wants to finally spend time with me - you name it; and attracting customers and not letting guys walk all over me.

    I had my best time at the old KinkLive, as a sub. Long shows, good energy that made me glow and nice payouts. I lasted 2 days on Kink4Free, made $20. What made me quit wasn't the lack of money - I know that it can take time for guys to find us. It was begging and time wasting. I had 100+ time wasters in my room, 3 shows. And didn't get paid for the last one even, cause it was an offer show and the system effed up during the last minute.

    Now I'm on SM (planning to add at least LCMS and Skype, maybe AW) and it's really weird. People see me and they see this nice, shy girl and they are pretty much shocked when they see me slap and fuck myself during pvt/excl. It makes for nice, long sessions, but I can't help but think that I'm missing a lot of potential custies, who dismiss me as "not dirty enough". One of the guys, who really helped me on KL by checking my lag etc once said pretty much this after he watched my play session: that I was wonderful, but totally different from my free-chat nice sweety routine.

    My earnings are all over the place - they look more like a token site than SM. Once 120, 3x0 and then 30, 40. I don't need much, as a secretary I made around 3$ per hour and always felt out of place. No job felt as right as camming does - that's why I'm so stubborn about it.

    I tried experimenting with my look. As far as make-up I'm set on what I would wear to a party - dark cat eyes, eyeliner. If I put more on I get lots of subs and slaves that I really don't click with and therefore can't convert. Less than now and I'm invisible.

    I tweet, but not a lot, working on that too.

    I guess where I go with this is the age old "how to be hot, but not too hot in free chat?". But also attracting dominants and consensual sadists. I wanna be black and blue and rich

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    Default Re: The "I'm too nice" problem

    Are you me? I tend to have this problem too. I'm a switch but as far as camming goes I prefer to be a sub. It works with having guys tell me what they want me to do better. And the guys that I do get into excl with BDSM requests always rave about me and are impressed by how far I'll go, but it's getting guys there that's hard. I'm not sure what kind of persona I should adapt, and I tend to be a "people pleaser" by nature. Maybe I should try being edgier? I don't know.

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    Default Re: The "I'm too nice" problem

    With camming will come beggers, time wasters and trolls..there is really no way around them other than blocking or booting them from the chat. (really pisses me off!) "how to be hot, but not too hot in free chat?" If you have an innocent persona, some may think your are less likely to be dominant unless you display a diviant side to you. (Tattoos, piercings, fetish toys that shock, zap, made from wire, latex on display, dark layout, punk or deep descriptions, chains) With camming they see what you show them, so if you are naturally innocent just change some thing and act like a badass. If you have an empty room, have this cute look, profile and bubbly personality it can be easy to assume. Most importantly, don't spread yourself too thin! I seriously did this as well and was making so much that I started to become lazy as things kept going and the demand to be online, I eventually stopped to work on coding. One thing that helps is listening to other models get tipped and watching model chat rooms for fun. (Models jealousy is sure to take over and set you into hustle mode) I love using cat eye style makeup, as not only does it look fucking sexy as hell but looks fantastic on camera!

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    Default Re: The "I'm too nice" problem

    This is my issue too, i was told many times i look too 'innocent' for this job, i always smile & am friendly/ nice tho i can be a good dominatrix for my foot slaves. I dont know, i think it's in our blood, I CANT look 'bad' cause i am not a bad girl or a slutty girl IRL, i can see in many girls's eyes on cam they have that specific 'bad ass' look while some look neutral or innocent.
    Yes is hard to portray urself in a way if u dont look that way, how about working with what u have and make it in ur favor?
    For example i would put in my description something like "Dont get fooled by how innocent i look at 1st glance, just know in private i am ...this kinky.... ", just write about ur show, also if u talk with voice, tell them "i might look shy & innocent but i am this and that and do this or that".
    Some suggestive pictures will help too, posing with ur props in view, taking pics of ur red spanked ass, wearing a gag ball, etc.
    Make them understand in paid chat u a totally different person, they will come, list all the things u do, ask ur best regulars to give u specific tags & comments, u just need to create the cam persona u want to work with.
    Good luck!

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    Default Re: The "I'm too nice" problem

    Use your looks to draw them in and use your knowledge and words to demand to be paid. Good luck!




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    Default Re: The "I'm too nice" problem

    I have this issue too the "can you be mean to me?" syndrome. I think its easier to be a dom, just kick their ass out and tell them to come back when they're willing to play. Being a sub is hard because there are just sooooo many assholes who try to get off for free or cheap and if you're a "sub" you should somehow be catering to their desires. I'd try to push the "real" sub part of it, ask if they want you in Gor slave positions, etc.

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