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    I am 23 yrs old. Internal demons nag at the back of my head. Money, success, looks, my age, and I feel I am fighting a losing battle. This past week, I burn about two weeks of wages at a casino (1k ). My stocks have crashed. And I feel like half of year's worth of money so far. I vow to never gamble at a casino again, and I am going to wait it out for my stocks. It is eating me up inside. I know its a sunk cost at this point, but I want to recover. I know how ugly it is.... but I lost my mind at the casino because I was ahead 1k, and Im on a vacation. Still it was stupid.

    I have a day job. It pays 23k a yr. Its demanding and Im with it for 2 more years.

    Yesterday, found out my minimum bonus 5k is not going to happen. And I have to buy medical insurance for my "very sick" sister, which is a necessary, thats at least 5k.

    My mother nags me to go to college, but I have a hard time focusing on my education versus work..... I really want to... but I feel as long as Im working its not going to happen. I want to do well.... and Im worried about aging.

    But job offers a full ride 3 yr scholarship at the end of my contract... and thats exactly when I want to take college fulltime and seriously.

    I was a stripper at one point, but never took it seriously because I thought I was too fat.... well push comes to shove, I need money. Now. After this stupid vacation is over (well I guess my paid vacation isnt paid).

    My job is relocating me to New Orleans.

    Any advice?

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    Default Re: Advice... if any?

    Well sorry to hear about your casino experience. I think there are better ways to invest your money then at a casino (which is set up in favor of the house) but if you insist on going there, with a 23k salary, taking 1k is way too much for you at this current moment.

    Please do not go to college for your nagging mom. If you decide to go do it because YOU want to. There's so many people out there who waste time and money getting a degree then either never use the degree or got better job based off networking and the degree didn't really matter. Do this if you know for certain your career advancement absolutely depends on it.

    Why do you have to buy 5k medical insurance for your sister? Again that doesn't seem to be within your budget given your salary unless you put it on a credit card and go into debt doing so. Or you could fundraise and ask 50 people for $100. There may be government resources that would help for free or low cost.

    And good thing about New Orleans is they have a good selection of clubs should you go back to dancing. Only downside is a dancer posted recently about a few clubs there being busted for law violations. Hopefully things are straightened out by the time you decide to work there.
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    Have you discussed insurance or other benefits w/ your employer? It might be worth a sit-down w/ them, even if for whatever reason they don't offer anything or just nothing great, they may know of other avenues to pursue.

    College is also not for every1. If you are set on taking the scholarship at the end of your current job's contract, then go that route. There is also the option of going to a trade school instead -- just throwing that out there to explore. It's essentially what I ended up doing. You still get the certificates & whatever other qualifications, but it's specific to the particular field/trade w/o all the extraneous bs of college/uni, & often a lot less expensive.

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    Your writing has an almost poetic quality to it. What a tragedy it would be if you lost faith in yourself. May I ask why you chose the name QueenBoleyn? Are you interested in the Tudor court or are you fascinated with Anne herself?

    The other thing that strikes me immediately about your post is that you refer to your anxiety over aging twice, at age 23... .... .... If you want to talk aging, some of us can go into that with you, but in reality IMHO you're young and smart and you have this beautiful time ahead of you. I suggest you pat yourself on the back for having a job, give yourself a hug for being seen as responsible in your family, shake your hand for being so realistic and lacking arrogance, give yourself a high 5 for having stocks at all, and be ready to rock New Orleans.

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