Just something I've been wondering about. Am I being too strict? I don't mind profanity, but the moment a guy refers to a girl (whether I know her or not) as a "bitch" or says something about "girls can be so bitchy" I lose respect for them. I won't say anything, I know that a lot of guys say this out loud in our culture, but any romantic/sexual attraction goes to 0% and honestly makes me wonder if something is secretly wrong with the guy. For example, a guy was talking to me about how his friend has a girlfriend who is "such a bitch" and another guy (who was dating me one time) say "guys just punch eachother and get it over with but girls can be so bitchy" and I am like... what did you just say? I feel like if a guy is so casual about calling people bitches (even if the person deserves to be called a bitch), it's only a matter of time until he turns on me and starts calling me stuff.
Don't get me wrong, it depends on the context. I swear too, but I don't go around calling people names. I don't think it's a red flag if a guy is like "he's rolling in bitches" or "a guy needs to be ___, bitches love ____" because the word isn't used as an insult against someone in this context. I also don't feel the same way about girls calling each other bitches, it can actually be pretty funny because in the dressing room the girls throw it around in a light hearted way or even if they do call eachother a bitch they make up really quickly and it's not said in a super serious way. When girls insult eachother, it's NOT the same as when a guy insults a girl.
I know that no one is perfect, but calling a girl a bitch is on a red-flag level IMO. Am I being prude? My crazy ex used to call me a bitch a lot before becoming violent so...





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