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    I've only been talking to a guy for 2 months and then we would only see each other on Saturday nights. I finally told him that I did camming for a living as my 2nd job. He asked if I would quit the camming and at the time I panicked and said yes but truth is, I really don't want to quit cause I am trying to make the camming my full time job eventually cause I've been doing my other job which is sales for 6 years and I am burnt out really bad cause I get screamed at all day and have to deal with rude customers and I am sick of it plus I am barely paying my bills with my sales job.

    I asked if he would cam with me and he said no cause it went against his religion but then later on he said that he MIGHT cause he likes kinky stuff . After the shock wore off he also said that he thought it was hot that I did camming. So I'm wondering if he would eventually get use to the idea of me camming? Thing is tho Ive quit camming before because of a guy before and it didn't work out anyways. But this guy makes $500 a week plus has a tree business on the side and said that he would help me with bills.....so torn as what to do cause right now I am working 2 jobs 7 days aweek. I work my sales job from 9-6 m-f and then the camming at night and all day Saturday and sunday. So I could use the extra help with bills cause I am barely getting by. He is wanting to move in with me and help me with bills. One part of me is freaking out and panicking but one part is thinking it would be nice not to work so much and have the extra income!!! Help....lol

    Anyone ever been in this situation?

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    Dont change who YOU are and what YOU want for a guy, or anyone for that matter. If you quit camming, this guy starts paying your bills, then it doesnt work out and youre screwed. If he REALLY likes you, he'll like you for ALL of you -- camming included.
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    Never depend on anyone else to support you. Even if everything seems like it will be all rainbows and butterflies, you never know what 2-3-4 months/years down the road will look like.

    ...and quite honestly, anybody who has the audacity to try and tell someone else what they should/shouldn't do isn't truly accepting you for who you are and isn't trusting you to be able to make the best decisions for yourself. Instead of waiting for him to warm up to the idea, sit down and let him know how and what you're feeling. If you guys can't communicate then he could go back and forth on whether he is okay with it/isn't okay with it depending on his mood for the day, and it could cause so much grief in the relationship. If you do quit camming only do it because it's what YOU want to do. Who cares whether or not he accepts it. He can either deal with it or move along.

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    So you are willing to quit your job after two months of seeing this guy?



    Girl, you need to be honest with him. If you don't want to quit, don't. If he can't accept that, tough. But if you really want to quit for this guy (after two months), go for it. But be ready to hold little grudges against him and being financially dependent on someone else's income to pick up the slack.

    Also him wanting to move in after two months?






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    He isn't supportive of you camming but is okay with the kinky stuff? Sounds pretty religiously hypocritical to me. Don't be surprise if he ask you to use the strap on!

    You should never depend on a man for your livelihood. Especially one you've only been dating for two months. Would he accept you if you still cam? If he isn't then it's a blessing to know now. Life is way to short to be with someone who judges you for the way you earn a living.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    He isn't supportive of you camming but is okay with the kinky stuff? Sounds pretty religiously hypocritical to me. Don't be surprise if he ask you to use the strap on!

    You should never depend on a man for your livelihood. Especially one you've only been dating for two months. Would he accept you if you still cam? If he isn't then it's a blessing to know now. Life is way to short to be with someone who judges you for the way you earn a living.
    LMAO......I freaking died laughing what you said about the strap on....how in the hell did you know? Reason its so funny is he told me that he liked strap ons and we were talking about sex and stuff right before I told him what I did for a living

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    I know from being a cam girl. The surplus of men that like to receive anal sex are astronomical. The more "clean cut" and religious they seem to be, the dirtier they are behind closed doors.
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    LMAO......I freaking died laughing what you said about the strap on....how in the hell did you know? Reason its so funny is he told me that he liked strap ons and we were talking about sex and stuff right before I told him what I did for a living
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    Never never never change for a man. He's got some balls w/his requirements, and sorry, but he just wants to control you. It will get worse from here. I know how it is. I'm getting over a crush that is so strong I can't see straight -- I thought about moving to another country before I came to my senses.

    My rules are: 1) exclusivity without commitment is a t-r-a-p. 2) unless there's a ring on my finger and a wedding date, he can't say anything about anything, including livelihood.

    Edit to add: you are working very hard and I have tremendous compassion, especially the part about shouldering all of the responsibility to pay bills on your own, working 2 jobs to do it. It is tempting when a man comes in, offers help. You are strong enough to do this on your own for sure.
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    I'm glad you did too. Dicks are a dime a dozen!
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    Never never never change for a man. He's got some balls w/his requirements, and sorry, but he just wants to control you. It will get worse from here. I know how it is. I'm getting over a crush that is so strong I can't see straight -- I thought about moving to another country before I came to my senses.

    My rules are: 1) exclusivity without commitment is a t-r-a-p. 2) unless there's a ring on my finger and a wedding date, he can't say anything about anything, including livelihood.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I'm glad you did too. Dicks are a dime a dozen!
    Lol they are a dime a dozen. This dick was attached to an amazing, gorgeous man. Drop dead gorgeous. It sucks. I thought I outgrew this stuff in junior high. He would have been very patriarchal and controlling, brooding, and a lot of other things.

    I edited my post to add that I know OP is working so hard, 2 jobs and I know it's complicated with emotions. One day at a time, and do what's best for you.
    It's kinda hard to be turned on when you know your internet, utilities, etc don't accept dicks as a form of payment!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I know from being a cam girl. The surplus of men that like to receive anal sex are astronomical. The more "clean cut" and religious they seem to be, the dirtier they are behind closed doors.
    True this, I married 2 guys that loved anal. Strapon, cross dressing,etc.
    Both claimed to be super religious. One is now a preacher.

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    Lol they are a dime a dozen. This dick was attached to an amazing, gorgeous man. Drop dead gorgeous. It sucks. I thought I outgrew this stuff in junior high. He would have been very patriarchal and controlling, brooding, and a lot of other things.

    I edited my post to add that I know OP is working so hard, 2 jobs and I know it's complicated with emotions. One day at a time, and do what's best for you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamourmilf View Post
    True this, I married 2 guys that loved anal. Strapon, cross dressing,etc.
    Both claimed to be super religious. One is now a preacher.
    It's always those kind. The more religious, the more they want to put things in their butt. I dated a guy who would tuck his dick and beg me to fuck his "man pussy." The thing is I like topping guys, but he just made it too weird. Ended up breaking up with me because I refused to attend Sunday Mass with him and his mother.





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    Quote Originally Posted by audritwo View Post
    It's always those kind. The more religious, the more they want to put things in their butt. I dated a guy who would tuck his dick and beg me to fuck his "man pussy." The thing is I like topping guys, but he just made it too weird. Ended up breaking up with me because I refused to attend Sunday Mass with him and his mother.
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    Don't do it.
    Done it before and regretted it, he lost his job then had the audacity to have a go at me when I was paying everything. Didn't last needless to say.
    Be you. If you want to cam, cam. The camming could replace your sales job and then you would have a well paid job, no commute and block anyone horrid!

    Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by GeeGee View Post
    Don't do it.
    Done it before and regretted it, he lost his job then had the audacity to have a go at me when I was paying everything. Didn't last needless to say.
    Be you. If you want to cam, cam. The camming could replace your sales job and then you would have a well paid job, no commute and block anyone horrid!

    Good luck!
    That is exactly what I am trying to do is replace my sales job with the camming. I HATE my sales job!!!!!

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    Nope nope nope.
    I mean its your life, and your choice, but you should NEVER have to change who you are for a man, and if he doesn't like it, show him where the door is and hope it doesn't hit him on the ass on the way out.

    I'd never give up camming for anyone, they don't like it, they can kiss mine. Nor would I EVER want to have rely on someone else to support me, no thank you! Up the cam hours, quit the sales job you hate, and if he wants to move in with you then he's going to have to learn to share your tits pussy and ass with the rest of the world, cause as I tell them all, its only money honey! And DAMN good money at that. Good luck on whatever you decide but I say thats a big fat negative if it were me.

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    Stay with camming. Enjoy both, just expect the relationship not to last. However, I would not let him cam with you. After the kinky fun is gone, that religious issue might come back. Which will breed resentment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by audritwo View Post
    It's always those kind. The more religious, the more they want to put things in their butt. I dated a guy who would tuck his dick and beg me to fuck his "man pussy." The thing is I like topping guys, but he just made it too weird. Ended up breaking up with me because I refused to attend Sunday Mass with him and his mother.
    Lol! Story of my love life.
    But it DID prepare me for my life on cam, and as top. (pun intended), phone Dominatrix.
    But now in my personal life, if someone wants to wear MY lingerie, and can only get off with a strapon, I'm not interested. It's a turn off. Makes me feel like I'm still working.

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    PREACH.....Amen!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetgapeach View Post
    PREACH.....Amen!!
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    Oh terrible. It's hard to date if you do any kind of adult work.

    Don't stop camming for this guy.

    I know I shouldn't but I wanna tell you to ditch him purely on the fact that his initial reaction was to tell you to change immediately.

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    ^^^ One thing I've ever learnt in relationships is you can't CHANGE people, you can TRY to change people, but you won't succeed.. and if you are with someone and you feel they need to change or they feel you need to change and they can't accept you for who you are or what you do, they can go F themselves, period. So I agree with that statement 100%.

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    Take what i say from someone who has been in an controlling and and abusive relationship for a long time. Im not saying he is abusive but his ways are controlling and it doesnt get any better trust me. Once you give in to these things he sees as little but is huge for you he will start expecting you to give up more until you give up your entire self for his wants and needs.He will like camming for his own needs but it will become a big problem down the road, already is with him at first asking you to quit for him. Plus another thing is if he moves in and he pays the bills he will feel as if he has some control over that too and will be hard for you to get away from him once hes living with you. I dont want to see anyone else in the same situation that i was in. You are strong enough to take care of yourself. I didnt think i could and here i am working full time camming and making ends meet. I am not fully out of my situation yet still have divorce to do to be completely out of it.I depended on him and when i left it was hard still is, i had to do this all on my own and i cant sit back and not say anything when i see the same traits of someone like i was with. So please think this through before you decide something and whatever you do put yourself first. Hope you dont take this as me telling you what to do, just giving you advice from someone who has lived it for 25 yrs. It doesnt get better and he definately wont change. Most if any dont, but the ones that do take years of hard work in order to change their mindset. I wish you the best. I just had to say something and try to help in some way. Im not saying that he will do the same things with you that i had to go through, but he could in time, just think about it all.
    Best of luck with it all.
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