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    Hello ladies, I am new to this forum and I I am in need of desperate advice… I never had a bad night since I've started working over a year ago, and last night was my very first Bad night… I only made $68… I usually make way more than that on a Thursday night… It seems as though nobody was really interested in me dancing for them… It is such an ego bust because I'm used to being one of the top earners at my club… It's to the point where I literally cried over it, I know I know it seems as if I'm being a baby but I do not know really how to handle rejection given that I am probably one of the most sought out dancers there… Girls at my club usually work in groups in order to make money where I myself work alone… So last night was one of those nights where I was working alone and groups of girls were working in teams and seeming to be making a lot more money than myself… I really was bothered because I never been in a situation where I wasn't making money as well… So given that this is been my first bad night I just need a little bit of words of encouragement… It's literally to the point where I don't even want to go to work later… Is this something that is common? If so how did some of you guys handle it? Please respond because I'm totally lost with this…

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    Default Re: In desperate need of help !!!

    get used to it!! EVERY dancer has bad nights. in fact my first night of making nothing, one of the girls told me "you're now a real stripper". you NEED to learn to handle rejection gracefully if you're gonna strip, because we all go through it and we ALL have had horrible no money nights if we have any amount of experience. so dont feel bad

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    it will be OK. Just keep going. You didn't suddenly change so much overnight that nobody ever wants you again- that's just not true. If you think you see it happening again the following shift, switch up your outfits/ makeup/ hair (maybe even get new things) and your attitude will also feel refreshed.

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    Thanks girls for your response!! It was really hard for me and still is but I guess I can see how tonight goes although I'm discouraged from going...

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    Brush it off and Get yourself back to work. It happens sometimes. Sometime the game is mental, sometimes all the customers are cheap, maybe your hustle was 'off', maybe the extras girls were in effect, etc.

    This is a sales gig and sales is all about numbers. So you had a bad night but that's just one night out of the month so the other nights of the month that you go, you will hit your money goals.

    If you don't go back then you know for certain what you'll make there........$0
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    Ok so I'm going to straighten out my hair and go! Hopefully this works! I'll keep you ladies posted ��

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    Oh man, you're lucky to have gone that long without a <$100 night. They happen to everyone in sales. Car salesmen can go a week without selling a car. Even Jenna Jameson probably had nights like that. Don't beat yourself up.

    It's unfortunate but it's part of being in sales. The only way to really prevent it is to come in early enough that you have plenty of time to make your $$... that way even if it's not a good night, you probably won't make absolute shit either. At least that's my strategy!

    The best thing to do AFTER is get back on the horse, don't stew on it and let it make you anxious/pissy about going back to work.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

    "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

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    You ladies are AMAZING!! I went and took a little of all y'all advice and it was a good night! I think I was off my game Thursday night... Although I do catch girls constantly eying me while I'm working and there's one in particular that whenever I'm dancing she watches me then comes over to where ever I'm at... I work at a "urban" club so I tend to notice the girls watch me a lot while I'm on the floor hustling... It's like they'll all be sitting down then once I get on the floor they'll all scramble and jump on any customer and start dancing... I never heard of the saying anything bad about me but whenever I come around its like they try harder which is weird to me ��

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    I'm still fairly new in this world so any help would help! Thanks again sexy ladies

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    I see I'm getting posts to this thread but can't view them -___-

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    ^ You're not. If you're talking about the emails you get they can be late so you're getting notifications for past responses.

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    It's okay!! We all have bad nights, even the most badass among us. I've seen beautiful, graceful, charming women go home in the negative before. It literally happens to every single dancer. The good news is that our worth as human beings is at a constant level way above our best night. No matter if you make $1000 or less than $0, you can't truly be priced by other people.

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    It may have been your first bad night, but it won't be your last. (Unless you quit)

    My mantra is to fail fast and often. If you don't get those failures early on, it makes the mid-career slump very hard to deal with.

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    Smile. Have a shot, and smile.
    I have left clubs where the money I made paid for my fees only. Most nights I do well. Once in a while though... sigh. Smile. Pick yourself up. If you lost your smile it will be harder to pick it up again.
    It is not you. It will pass.

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    Thank you ladies! I guess I was getting your responses late! I've just started up again so I'm hoping things go well ��

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    Just think of all the nights you made a killing and it'll boost your self confidence to know you are capable of that and it was just an off night. Every day is different in stripper world.

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    Default Re: In desperate need of help !!!

    Bad nights happen to everyone. The good news is that it's over, so don't dwell on it. As long as you're not frequently having <$100 nights, there is nothing to worry about. Try not to allow your earnings (good or bad) dictate how you feel about yourself because money from stripping is too volatile and often influenced by external factors that you can't control. Easier said than done, I know.

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