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    I know a lot of you had partners before you got into the business, but I'd like to hear experiences from girls who got with someone after being a cam model. I don't get out too much socially anymore so last month I tried out on-line dating. I didn't use or tell the guys my name/ exact location OR my cam name because I wanted to know their reaction straight away when I told them I was a cam model. I'd rather a guy know straight away so we didn't waste each others time. It was an absolute nightmare. It's like they took it as an invitation to become creeps towards me even though they started as normal nice guys. One guy even asked me if he'd have to pay for me to show him more pictures so I pretty much came the site straight away. I'm very confident and secure with being single, but sometimes I do miss the mushy stuff (not gonna lie!) I'm 30 next year so it has been kind of hard seeing my friends settle down, it kind of feels like being left behind. I played a bit part in raising my much younger siblings so I wouldn't mind being an older mum, but I do feel like it's time for me to meet someone. How did you girls do it? How did you meet your partners and how did you tell them you cam? Did you do it straight away or did you kind of drop hints?

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    These are not nice guys. They are well polished manipulators. I don't believe in telling unless something serious start to develop. The moment you tell them, you are no longer a human being. You will be reduced to a sexual being. Someone that isn't worthy of kindness and respect.
    The majority of them aren't looking for a meaningful relationship. They're just looking to fuck. Men like that are not worthy of such private information.
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    I think I'd just be worried about withholding it from someone then getting really into it and then him reacting badly when I do tell, which in turn will have wasted both our times, you know?

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    I get it but my safety comes first. What if you tell them up front and they'd start telling people which can open you up for sexual assault?!
    If you decide to tell them down the road and they react badly, then they're not right for you because they dont have the maturity to see it from your point of view.
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    I think I'd just be worried about withholding it from someone then getting really into it and then him reacting badly when I do tell, which in turn will have wasted both our times, you know?
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    I'm 34 and in the same boat. I am definitely looking to be in a relationship after being single for 3 years! I did the online dating thing before becoming a camgirl and had okay experiences, but I found my bullshit detector has become so strong since becoming a camgirl and when I returned to online dating I felt like the dynamic was dealing with trolls in freechat. Unsolicited dick pics, everyone wanted to hook up or were just looking for some sort of ego stroking (and I didn't even mention I was a camgirl).

    I recently deleted all of my online dating accounts after subjecting myself to several terrible dates and just realized that even though I will have to wait a lot longer that I should focus on meeting guys 'organically" (as hard as that can be in this day and age). I feel like when you naturally have chemistry with someone that you meet offline that (hopefully) these would be the guys more open to our jobs.

    Long story short, like Marina said, I think like 90% of guys on dating sites are just looking to fuck. Dating is hard - I feel ya girl!!!


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    I tried online dating but the majority of those guys are just looking to get laid, so if you tell them that you work on cam....it's very hard to ever get them to see you as anything but a "good time" I've deleted my profiles and am going for the old school way of meeting.

    As for when to tell them. I always waited until I had a couple of dates with them and had a better idea of how they would react to it. Like you, I don't want to lie to someone but our jobs leave us very open to being judged so until I think you're someone that could be part of my life, as a friend or bf....I don't think they need to know.

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    My opinion is that for most every guy, the end game is sex. They know you're a person, but when things first start, you are first and foremost the thing they wanna have sex with (not that any of us are things). When you bring camming into the equation they don't see the big deal in being upfront about it, because it's your job. Most girls would feel comfortable asking their plumber/carpenter guy friend to do their job for free (or very little), and they don't see the difference in those things and sex. The disconnect men have when it comes to sex is kind of alarming to me, but guys don't get it because they have it.

    I would try and build a relationship before mentioning the camming, but maybe keep in mind that it's their nature. For men, the desire for sex comes before the true, genuine love and caring. Where as women tend to be the opposite!

    That's my 2 cents, I hope it at least explains it a little!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    These are not nice guys. They are well polished manipulators. I don't believe in telling unless something serious start to develop. The moment you tell them, you are no longer a human being. You will be reduced to a sexual being. Someone that isn't worthy of kindness and respect.
    The majority of them aren't looking for a meaningful relationship. They're just looking to fuck. Men like that are not worthy of such private information.
    Hahaha .... That gif though! Classic!
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    One thing, I can tell you as I person who runs her own sex shop. I started it 2 years ago before camming.
    When I was telling dudes that I sell lingerie and sex toys, guess what? Creepos got awaken. Not all, but over 60% were going like do you have lots of lingerie, can I come by to see, what is your favorite vibrator. They presumed right away I was that chick who was happy to fuck everyone because I was in sex business, not even camming just selling sex stuff. A Nimpho. And they were not from dating sites, just random people I happened to meet during professional networking events! How does that sound?

    So it does not really matter what you do exactly anything sex related and you get that from idiots who just want to fuck and duck, they reveal themselves in no time.

    And as camming, telling them upfront, idk, with so many it wont work out, why would you bother? Try to tell them you run a sex shop, it is enough to detect the creeps and avoid sharing private info. Creeps will ask to come by to see you lingerie and sex toys collection


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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I get it but my safety comes first. What if you tell them up front and they'd start telling people which can open you up for sexual assault?!
    If you decide to tell them down the road and they react badly, then they're not right for you because they dont have the maturity to see it from your point of view.
    Your job is not a reason for anybody to sexually assault you. But then all meetings & first dates are done in public places where you arrive & depart on your own & not them picking you up or knowing your address. That is common sense no matter what you do for a living. Nor do you get drunk or have more than 2 drinks.

    If a man has put in the work to win me over with wit & charm, I do the dating test. As in lots of dates of them buying me nice dinners, going to the movies. Being seen with me in public. I barely even give them a kiss. 6 to 10 dates before I kiss or let them get to 2nd base if at all.
    "Time tells all Tales" Either they get pissed off & demanding... Never go out with them again. Or they keep asking to do an overnight in a hotel or beg me to tell them where I live... Never go out with them again. This quickly gets rid of those just looking for a fuck or booty call.

    I don't cyber sex, I don't skype. I make them call me instead of texting for actual dates. I don't send them naughty pics. If a man wants me, then he will jump through my hoops. Men are lazy & don't want to put that kind of work into just a fuck buddy. During those dates, I listen, I ask questions, i WATCH!

    A man who truly wants a relationship has no problems doing the right thing for you. If they suggest that girls NOT in the adult industry fuck on the first or second dates without dinner, flowers and such. My solution is "Go date them". Remember for the 3 to 5 girls they maybe fucking on the side or dating, there are 1000s of men who want to date you. You have way more options out in the world than they do, so don't let them assume you own them sex or anything else.

    Yes, I will stand there with a smirk on my face when some hedge fund manager, movie star or doctor throws a fit when they don't get their way & what they want from me on the first or third date. If they are an real asshole, I will tell them "No, I can't fuck you. Have a date with a well known, well endowed male pornstar later". Which I usually do. Even he will have to buy me an expensive dinner, take me shopping & jump through my hoops. Well, actually, male pornstars get to also walk my dogs, vacuum my carpets, wash my dishes.

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    If you go out, tell them what you do & they dont reel it in once you let them know that they are being inappropriate and rude. Time to play what they want hardcore.. Pull out your phone, start recording them. "oh you want the real porno experience? Pull it out? Get ur dick out now? Let's fuck right here, right now"

    Real porn stars I know have no problem getting naked and fucking in a room full of strangers. No, you wont go to the bathroom and do it. No, you wont blow them in their car. The camera plus you not being embarrassed to call them out in public will make them RUN! Generally, busting out your camera even on your phone for those who act inappropriately or sleazy... RUN they don't want the world to know how creepy they are in real life.

    Face it, it is all real life. My sex life is on the web for the world to see, you want to use me for sex then I will use you too. Even 99 percent of men who say they will do porn just to fuck a porn star chicken out when it really happens.

    Yes, all men want sex. But they also know demanding it or expecting it is also wrong no matter who the other person is or does for a living. So if they turn aggressive, mean, pushy or make assumptions, I get evil. I will record them. I will post it on the web. You are in public & totally legal, so they can't sue you for privacy rights & crap when they see you filming them openly.

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    What you do for a living is none of their business - just because they buy you dinner or whatever does not entitle them to know your personal business - make them earn the privilege of knowing all about you - if they bail on you or change after you chose to tell them then what have you really lost ???

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    I endured 10 yrs of that torture.. now 5 yrs no dating.

    Quote Originally Posted by MsBellaSpanxx View Post
    I'm 34 and in the same boat. I am definitely looking to be in a relationship after being single for 3 years! I did the online dating thing before becoming a camgirl and had okay experiences, but I found my bullshit detector has become so strong since becoming a camgirl and when I returned to online dating I felt like the dynamic was dealing with trolls in freechat. Unsolicited dick pics, everyone wanted to hook up or were just looking for some sort of ego stroking (and I didn't even mention I was a camgirl).

    I recently deleted all of my online dating accounts after subjecting myself to several terrible dates and just realized that even though I will have to wait a lot longer that I should focus on meeting guys 'organically" (as hard as that can be in this day and age). I feel like when you naturally have chemistry with someone that you meet offline that (hopefully) these would be the guys more open to our jobs.

    Long story short, like Marina said, I think like 90% of guys on dating sites are just looking to fuck. Dating is hard - I feel ya girl!!!

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    Thanks ladies. I'm just going to try and meet guys the old fashioned way now. Kind of hard seeing as I hardly go out, but fortunately I'm not in any rush. I'd rather be on my own than be with the wrong guy and still feeling on my own... I could always get more pets anyway!

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    I think dating is made...more complicated?....easier? by the fact that there are literally thousands of guys who would jump at the chance to just hang out in a room with me in real life. Oh, I should feel bad for being a cam girl? I should feel like I owe you something? I don't owe the thousands of guys anything and they have fucking PAID me for the opportunity to see me naked on camera. I don't care what they think, or what kind of special snowflake they think they are.
    I think working in the adult industry gives us a unique opportunity to see (in the light of cold hard capitalism) what our "value" is. Guys don't get to boss me around, or pitch a fit or generally act like a fucking asshole because I've 1. seen and heard it all before and 2. Don't care.

    So, when I date I tell them what I do, I don't care. This is my job. Luckily I found a great guy who, though he doesn't love what I do, he respects that not only do I do it, I like doing it, and I am really good at it.

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    It's not a reason but it does attract more freaks, unwanted attention and constant intrusive sexual innuendos. Those are facts. The moment they know you do sex work, most would expect you to start some sexual romps. To them it's not a job. They think we do this for the attention because we're bunch of whores with no moral or values with insatiable hunger for dicks. Life is already hard enough, I don't know why anyone would want to subject themselves to that. I sure as hell don't!
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    Your job is not a reason for anybody to sexually assault you. But then all meetings & first dates are done in public places where you arrive & depart on your own & not them picking you up or knowing your address. That is common sense no matter what you do for a living. Nor do you get drunk or have more than 2 drinks.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    It's not a reason but it does attract more freaks, unwanted attention and constant intrusive sexual innuendos. Those are facts. The moment they know you do sex work, most would expect you to start some sexual romps. To them it's not a job. They think we do this for the attention because we're bunch of whores with no moral or values with insatiable hunger for dicks. Life is already hard enough, I don't know why anyone would want to subject themselves to that. I sure as hell don't!
    I'm a very emotionally strong person and their comments didn't upset me (creeps will be creeps) the whole situation just frustrated me. My first few dates are always in really public places and like an hour away from my home town in a city (but close to a friends house.) and I'm very good at reading people. I also know self-defense so if I guy ever tried anything, I'd kick his ass (it has came to that before - even before I started camming). The thing is telling them straight away helped me to know that they're creeps and meant I didn't have to move on to the dating part with them. I got one guy who was all 'I'm skint, so you could come to mine and watch DVD's' (Yeah THAT'S gonna happen!) and I never even told him I was a cam model. I guess on-line dating is hard if you're a cam model or not.

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    OMG dating is SO hard now! I'm divorced and been single the entire time. I get hit on and asked out all the time, but it's usually by guys that just want sex. It's to the point where I've been celibate since JULY! When you can see through the bullshit, it makes it really tough to date. But it's also really easy to reject guys before anything starts. I don't even get to the first date with a guy. Heck, I usually don't give my number to guys that try to talk to me because they usually fuck it up before that happens!

    The last guy I gave my number to, canceled on ME at the last minute. I'm pretty sure he accidentally double booked himself. His excuse seemed lame. He was like "traffic is gonna be bad..." and it was after 7pm coming from Long Beach! I'm pretty sure he was already out to dinner with someone else and had completely forgotten that we had a date. He was like "Can I give you a raincheck?" I'm like "No, I don't take rainchecks or excuses. Why don't you lose my number instead." Zero Tolerance Policy.

    So anyway, I did the obvious thing and.... adopted a cat! She's awesome!

    As for dating, my next idea would be to get on Christian Mingle and say I'm a born-again virgin single mom. I'm not Christian and have major issues with organized religion, but am curious what it's like to date someone conservative that's not trying to get in my pants on the first date. LOL One of my old roller derby teammates met a HOT guy and they ended up getting married. She's really picky too and he seems like a really good person too. I think that's the site she used! I'll let you know how it goes... I have zero expectations but who knows!

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    I am in the same boat as you. I have been dating 2 guys trying to figure out which one I want to be exclusive with. I told one of the guys after knowing him 2 months and the shock on his face when I told him was heart braking and I just broke down crying. He asked if I would ever quit and I panicked and said yes but later regretted it. Truth is I dont want to quit just cause someone wants me too!!!!!

    I told the 2nd guy last night but before I did, he could tell something was bothering me cause I wanted to tell him so bad but just couldnt because of fear of him acting the way the first guy did. I ended up breaking down crying and he finally got it out of me tho. He was sooooooo understanding and ended up hugging me....lol. So he is definitely a keeper He even said that he might make some videos with me. I still cant get over how cool he was about it but it just made me like him more.

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    I have given up on online dating, and nobody asks me out so I can do without. I actually got more toxicity than any of my camsites in a single email guy saying 'I hated your profile so I sent you an email' and some really nasty stuff I can't remember. It is quiet rare that I really want to date someone faesibly, and when I do they are usually in love/in a relationship/get a new partner after I first meet them. My luck sucks, I hate busy bars so I dont ever get 'picked up' and not into one night stands...I have no idea where being a camgirl would fit into the mix but being inside so much might be lowering my opportunities to meet someone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RaineyLane View Post
    OMG dating is SO hard now! I'm divorced and been single the entire time. I get hit on and asked out all the time, but it's usually by guys that just want sex. It's to the point where I've been celibate since JULY! When you can see through the bullshit, it makes it really tough to date. But it's also really easy to reject guys before anything starts. I don't even get to the first date with a guy. Heck, I usually don't give my number to guys that try to talk to me because they usually fuck it up before that happens!

    The last guy I gave my number to, canceled on ME at the last minute. I'm pretty sure he accidentally double booked himself. His excuse seemed lame. He was like "traffic is gonna be bad..." and it was after 7pm coming from Long Beach! I'm pretty sure he was already out to dinner with someone else and had completely forgotten that we had a date. He was like "Can I give you a raincheck?" I'm like "No, I don't take rainchecks or excuses. Why don't you lose my number instead." Zero Tolerance Policy.

    So anyway, I did the obvious thing and.... adopted a cat! She's awesome!

    As for dating, my next idea would be to get on Christian Mingle and say I'm a born-again virgin single mom. I'm not Christian and have major issues with organized religion, but am curious what it's like to date someone conservative that's not trying to get in my pants on the first date. LOL One of my old roller derby teammates met a HOT guy and they ended up getting married. She's really picky too and he seems like a really good person too. I think that's the site she used! I'll let you know how it goes... I have zero expectations but who knows!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    It's not a reason but it does attract more freaks, unwanted attention and constant intrusive sexual innuendos. Those are facts. The moment they know you do sex work, most would expect you to start some sexual romps. To them it's not a job. They think we do this for the attention because we're bunch of whores with no moral or values with insatiable hunger for dicks. Life is already hard enough, I don't know why anyone would want to subject themselves to that. I sure as hell don't!
    Just like when you on cam & running your room & telling guys how to behave or they will be banned. Same thing goes in real life. I straight up tell them that won't fly with me. Either to act right or get lost, that I won't waste my precious time.

    People treat you the way you let them. If we want them to accept us without judgment then we have to do the same with them. If they act like I owe them sex, or sex is on the table when it isn't, doesn't take them long to figure out they aren't getting laid with me. If they start off with a text about fucking me or dick pics, I just start laughing and never text them again. Just like when a man never returns your calls, your text eventually we get the message that he isn't into us. Well, I do the same to them.



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    I have given up on online dating, and nobody asks me out so I can do without. I actually got more toxicity than any of my camsites in a single email guy saying 'I hated your profile so I sent you an email' and some really nasty stuff I can't remember. It is quiet rare that I really want to date someone faesibly, and when I do they are usually in love/in a relationship/get a new partner after I first meet them. My luck sucks, I hate busy bars so I dont ever get 'picked up' and not into one night stands...I have no idea where being a camgirl would fit into the mix but being inside so much might be lowering my opportunities to meet someone.
    First of all you need to date yourself. As in go out & have fun with the girls, go out to a movie by yourself. Get dressed up, go to the fanciest place in town & treat yourself to a nice dinner. If you don't date yourself & learn that you deserve the best, then how can you find a man or woman that will?

    Dare to go on vacation by yourself. Go get lost & discover wonderful veiws & people on your own. People who have no expectations from you or you of them.

    Go to a park, chat up that older lady with the cute doggie. Have conversations with people who expect NOTHING sexual from you at all. Go to a museum. Go on an Art Gallery tour. Get some friends together & go for a picnic at a beautiful park. GRoupon is great for taking a class & learning how to cook, painting, pottery and such. Mixing it up with people & getting to know others which leads to you knowing yourself better too.

    In my twenties, I took horseback riding lessons, typing skill classes for adult learning, wine tasting classes,an acting improv class at a male strip club lol, travel to NYC and spent hours at the MET exploring a different section each day. Take a girls trip to Vegas. LOL the Polariods I have of my friends, cause mobile phones didn't have cameras back then are hilarious & totally embarrassing. But each pic is a story within itself & a hoot.

    Where is ya'lls since of adventure? Daring? Fun? Honestly, who wants to be with another person who doesn't have good stories & experiences outside of the home & computer? Yes, we all have to work hard, but life is out there waiting outside our door. Silly to wait on having a man to live it. I read you girls post here & I don't see the fun in your lives.

    Only men you will meet in a bar is a drunk. LOL Bars are NOT the only place to meet men. Go out live life, have some adventures, meeting men should not be the goal. When you are having fun, growing as a more rounded person is when you meet someone new. My bestie met her man by being in an adult kick ball league. How cute is that?

    Sam

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    First of all you need to date yourself. As in go out & have fun with the girls, go out to a movie by yourself. Get dressed up, go to the fanciest place in town & treat yourself to a nice dinner. If you don't date yourself & learn that you deserve the best, then how can you find a man or woman that will?

    Dare to go on vacation by yourself. Go get lost & discover wonderful veiws & people on your own. People who have no expectations from you or you of them.

    Go to a park, chat up that older lady with the cute doggie. Have conversations with people who expect NOTHING sexual from you at all. Go to a museum. Go on an Art Gallery tour. Get some friends together & go for a picnic at a beautiful park. GRoupon is great for taking a class & learning how to cook, painting, pottery and such. Mixing it up with people & getting to know others which leads to you knowing yourself better too.

    In my twenties, I took horseback riding lessons, typing skill classes for adult learning, wine tasting classes,an acting improv class at a male strip club lol, travel to NYC and spent hours at the MET exploring a different section each day. Take a girls trip to Vegas. LOL the Polariods I have of my friends, cause mobile phones didn't have cameras back then are hilarious & totally embarrassing. But each pic is a story within itself & a hoot.

    Where is ya'lls since of adventure? Daring? Fun? Honestly, who wants to be with another person who doesn't have good stories & experiences outside of the home & computer? Yes, we all have to work hard, but life is out there waiting outside our door. Silly to wait on having a man to live it. I read you girls post here & I don't see the fun in your lives.

    Only men you will meet in a bar is a drunk. LOL Bars are NOT the only place to meet men. Go out live life, have some adventures, meeting men should not be the goal. When you are having fun, growing as a more rounded person is when you meet someone new. My bestie met her man by being in an adult kick ball league. How cute is that?

    Sam
    That's kind of unfair. This is a thread about camming and dating, not our entire lives.

    I for one am definitely not waiting on a man to make my life complete. In fact I'm better off single, just would be nice to have someone around. My point is I don't go looking for guys...just because I would like to date someone does not mean that I am waiting for a man to complete my life lol.

    I travelled for three months straight of this year. I see friends at least once a week, am planning to take japanese lessons since I will be backpacking there for 3 months next summer...go to the gym regularly, ride my bike all over town, go to art exhibitions by myself and movies with friends, go on car journeys with old buddies and go hiking, camping, I write reviews for my friend's website, go swimming, work on my collections, take myself out to dinner and read, play games, I do other vanilla work for social reasons when I can be bothered, I research my dreams and I'm definitely the kind of person who will start up a conversation with an old lady in the park...

    Maybe my post before seemed a bit miserable but trust me, my life is very fun and fulfilling, I couldn't work on the internet all day if I had nothing else to make life fun. Literally my motivation for camming is so that I can go on adventures abroad on my own for the most part...

    I like this thread because camming and dating can be awkward and difficult and we should talk about that and share advice!
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    Quote Originally Posted by MsBellaSpanxx View Post
    I'm 34 and in the same boat. I am definitely looking to be in a relationship after being single for 3 years! I did the online dating thing before becoming a camgirl and had okay experiences, but I found my bullshit detector has become so strong since becoming a camgirl and when I returned to online dating I felt like the dynamic was dealing with trolls in freechat. Unsolicited dick pics, everyone wanted to hook up or were just looking for some sort of ego stroking (and I didn't even mention I was a camgirl).

    I recently deleted all of my online dating accounts after subjecting myself to several terrible dates and just realized that even though I will have to wait a lot longer that I should focus on meeting guys 'organically" (as hard as that can be in this day and age). I feel like when you naturally have chemistry with someone that you meet offline that (hopefully) these would be the guys more open to our jobs.

    Long story short, like Marina said, I think like 90% of guys on dating sites are just looking to fuck. Dating is hard - I feel ya girl!!!
    Sooo true! I only had one date from a dating website, he wasn't a nightmare but we totally didn't click, he was veeeeerry quiet and shy when I am quite vocal, I felt like I was the only one talking so that he wouldn't feel awkward, seemed like he had regretted his decision to go on the date. It sucked because we were typing essays to eachother on the web, yet he couldn't converse with me IRL.

    I would much rather just live my life and wait for a magic moment to come, or for me to make a magic moment happen if it seems right! Chemistry is key and I barely get it with anyone so why bother hunting it down when it will be better when it surprises you? Just gonna live my life instead of worrying about boys
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