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    I started being honest with guys. Not all of them were after sex but a recent situation made me rethink dating again as a whole. My recent ex came around my place for the first time as previously we'd just hang out at his or go out. I showed him my camroom and since I wasn't really expecting anyone; I left my dildos out in full display.

    I mean, when I noticed I didn't care as he'd 'supposedly' was fine about it. I made it very clear what I did when we first started talking and he spoke with is words and expressions that he was okay with it. He even mentioned he'd dated a burlesque dancer before. Anyway, we ended things mutually but in order to learn a few things about how I am as a partner, I asked him his advice. He mentioned one thing that kind of irked him was that he saw my camroom, the dildos, and reality hit home. He never mentioned it when we were together, though. I wouldn't say that was really a negative experience but it made me more aware that I will probably be done with 'normal' relationships forever. I've decided that normal guys aren't really worth my time or ROI. I'm not knocking anyone's relationship choices or desires but I don't think I'm built for traditional dating relationships. I've been married (estranged) and I prefer to be paid for my company. Basically a paid gf.

    Perhaps I'm built differently. It's extremely hard (if ever) for me to be emotionally attached to someone and even orgasm with another for that matter. It's been done, but it's a rare occurrence for me. So basically, a lot of my past partnerships have been one sided and based on my partner's needs/wants and not my own. I need and want money right now, and I'm beginning to think I'm solosexual. I'm absolutely satisfied with my own company and being raised an only child I don't do well with sharing or 'minding' others. I'm quite a bitch hermit and get crabby after a while if I don't have plenty of alone time. A perfect situation for me would be a beneficial arrangement. Because in every single one of my relationships I feel like I've been acting and I end up becoming their beneficiary. I can't seem to have intimacy with other individuals so I may as well get paid to fake it since I fake it anyway.

    We are all beautiful creatures deserving of respect, love and adoration no matter how we make our money. The slander and slutshamming over an occupation is really in trouble when it reaches the heart and the bedroom. I paid my own bills, and so did he so why he had an issue makes no sense to me but it is what it is. Our bodies only belong to ourselves as temporary as they are. We shouldn't be made undateable for how we choose to share it. I suppose until the world changes their minds about sex workers a lot of us will just be alone forever. But I know that happiness is still attainable whether we end up alone or not. I'd rather have fun, stack up money, and maybe 'settle' down in my 50s. Until then, I crave the freedom of being a paid gf/sb/escort,cm.




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    Ya'll do realize that females outside the sex industry have problems with men just wanting sex, sending dick pics too. We aren't that special. It is the number one complaint from ALL females on dating sites or on the web in general.

    My Mom standing in line at drug store. This man about her age tapped on her shoulder & asked "Hey, I'm buying these condoms, want to go home wth me & help use them?" My Mom was floored & said "no, thank you" cause being polite no matter what is more important. LOL

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    ^^^Yeah, I know and that's why I enjoy being a sex worker. Because I know that little head is always hungry and the ones who have the money will spend it. I'd be more worried if there was a shortage of dick pics, lol.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    If they suggest that girls NOT in the adult industry fuck on the first or second dates without dinner, flowers and such. My solution is "Go date them"

    I love this, because as adult entertainers a lot of us know the mechanics of how a man's mind works better than the vanilla, non-industry girls. We know how driven men are for sex . Because of that, we know that holding out will do exactly as Sam says, either they run or they'll jump thru the hoops.
    With that being said, I am in the same situation as you OP. It is definitely hard to bring up the camming thing, but I think the best thing is to do is don't say it right away, go out on a few dates, don't put out, make him work for it. Don't get too attached, and don't just go on dates with one guy. It's hard to get mixed up in feelings but what you need to do is let him get to know you, but hold back your emotions until you have the "talk". Either hes cool with it, or he's not, and if he's not you didn't invest your emotions or too much time into him.

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    From my experience, men who care are also the same ones who would be upset if you made more than them. My partner now ( way more than a bf), is always encouraging me to work and if I dont like my look I can send him a pic and he will tell me how I look. Understands if I am not answering my phone because I am working.

    I do not know what sites you are using for online dating but make sure you are letting them know up front what you want in a relationship. NEVER give out your name.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    It's not a reason but it does attract more freaks, unwanted attention and constant intrusive sexual innuendos. Those are facts. The moment they know you do sex work, most would expect you to start some sexual romps. To them it's not a job. They think we do this for the attention because we're bunch of whores with no moral or values with insatiable hunger for dicks. Life is already hard enough, I don't know why anyone would want to subject themselves to that. I sure as hell don't!
    Word. I'm remembering a scene from Law and Order Special Victims Unit where a prostitute had been raped, and the suspect told the detective "YOU CAN'T RAPE A WHORE!" SMH.
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    Heartless son of a bitch!

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    Word. I'm remembering a scene from Law and Order Special Victims Unit where a prostitute had been raped, and the suspect told the detective "YOU CAN'T RAPE A WHORE!" SMH.
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    I will tell someone I am actually interested in because I don't like to waste time. I'm sort of a, "This is who I am, take it or leave it," person. I also think this kind of job could be a deal breaker, and I know if I were on the receiving end of news like that... I'd be more upset that they waited months to tell me than I would be about their job. I would feel like someone took away my right to make a choice about my partner. Some guy might be seriously distraught he's been taking a web cam model out to dinner. I might think he's an asshole, or close-minded, or judgmental, but he has a right to his opinions just like I'd have a right to mine.
    Also... if that's their opinion on it... I'd rather know right away, too, because I need someone with an open mind.

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    I have the only child syndrome as well, and I am absolutely too set in my ways to have much patience for the demands of a relationship. Most men I've dated end up being more about controlling their idea of who they think I should be, instead of just taking me as I am flaws and all. How refreshing it would be to meet a man secure enough in his manhood that working in the adult industry did not threaten his manhood. I agree with Sam, it IS important to date yourself. I see women around me who are so incomplete without a man to validate their existence. Heaven forbid they take themselves to dinner, or anywhere without a man. I just don't understand how to be like that, and thank heavens I'm not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ArynAdams View Post
    I will tell someone I am actually interested in because I don't like to waste time. I'm sort of a, "This is who I am, take it or leave it," person. I also think this kind of job could be a deal breaker, and I know if I were on the receiving end of news like that... I'd be more upset that they waited months to tell me than I would be about their job. I would feel like someone took away my right to make a choice about my partner. Some guy might be seriously distraught he's been taking a web cam model out to dinner. I might think he's an asshole, or close-minded, or judgmental, but he has a right to his opinions just like I'd have a right to mine.
    Also... if that's their opinion on it... I'd rather know right away, too, because I need someone with an open mind.
    I tried this approach before deciding it was information I no longer wished to divulge to those I had not yet decided whether or not it would be relevant.

    As luck would have it, the man I married had no issues with any of my sex work but in my experience, those gems are few and far between.

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    When I stripped I would only tell them after our first date if I felt there was a connection. I wanted them to meet *me* first without the label or stereotype. Once they met me and I told them, it wasn't an issue and I would still be treated like a lady. Currently I'm not dancing any more (for a lot of reasons.) My husband doesn't have a problem with me camming because no one can touch me. I think it's only a problem if you allow it to be a problem or date immature/insecure guys.

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    My husband and I met on OkCupid.

    I'm not a nude camgirl (rather, a domme) but I didn't have a problem writing that on my profile straight away. Of course, I've been messaged by many creeps and assholes, and went out with a few of them, not realizing that they were taking advantage of me and gossiping to their friends about my job. After I broke up with a guy I dated for 6 months, he wrote on his profile that he went out with a domme. I asked him to take that down, but he refused - it clearly helped him get dates. But I realized that if I put it up on my profile, it acts like a screening service. Guys will show you who they are pretty much straight away.

    That's how I knew that my husband was the one - he never really made a big deal out of what I do and was already pretty sexually adventurous himself. We got married really quickly, though, so your mileage may vary.


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    I've been married so long I've forgotten what it's like to date anybody. I would say, instead of divulging right away that you are a cam model, bring up topics that will reveal his true thoughts about sex work. What does he think about strippers? What if you were thinking about becoming a stripper or a cam girl, etc. If he answers in a respectful way then great! If he's a total douchebag about the whole thing then don't waste your time with him for another second.
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    There are men who think to this day a female's world should revovle around them. There are female doctors & lawyers who date men that demand they quit there jobs so she can be there more for him and the children if there are any as a result of the relationship.
    Men complain that females are always trying to change them, well, they try that on us to. It is being told you are not good enough for them no matter who is saying it. If a man doesn't want to date a porn star, cam girl, then tell me upfront & don't waste my time. Nor will I waste theirs, this is why I am honest.

    Can't just want the sexy part of sex side, i am a total package kind of gal. Not a booty call, hook up or whatever. I give my all & expect the same in return. Life is to short to spend it with someone who doesn't put in as much as you do. I never regret going for anything I want out of life, including love.

    People I know with regrets are the ones who didn't go for it, try harder, do more. Risk big to win big, if you let someone who didn't take the whole package detour you from trying again then they win. They do NOT deserve that kind of power to affect my life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hyori View Post
    I would say, instead of divulging right away that you are a cam model, bring up topics that will reveal his true thoughts about sex work. What does he think about strippers? What if you were thinking about becoming a stripper or a cam girl, etc. If he answers in a respectful way then great! If he's a total douchebag about the whole thing then don't waste your time with him for another second.
    ^^ That's a good idea.

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    I personally choose to stay single while doing this line of work. Recently I met someone who I thought could potentially be my next boo until I woke up to 3 text: hey could you suck and swallow for $60? $30? 15? ... Um.... What? The last relationship I did attempt ended because he couldn't be trusted because he ran his mouth (used my work against me). Another reason I'm on the fence with dating is because I can't help but think about what bizarre shit he may be into. I can't help but think about my regular who shoves TV remotes up his butthole or the one who has me roleplay a ghost with a BBC. think I'll just buy a goldfish or turtle & call it a day.

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    I personality been seeing someone were in the first stages of gettin to know each other it seems like it could be serious. If it gets to that point I'll probably take break/Hangup my cam lol only because she's military and I'm not even about try to explain it to her. I'm not a shamed in anyway but she already sleeps over more which means less time for camming and make my work room look like a guest room everytime gets tiring lol. But I guess it's more I like her. I already started looking for a vanilla job in my line of work. I never planned to cam forever but I think I'll start saving more and more as I work so I'll still have cash in my pockets

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