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    What do you think when a guy isn't able to get hard during dances? More specifically how/does it affect your sale, do you think he's not interested or change it up to maybe get him more aroused? Do you try harder, think he's strange, and ever tell your co-workers/friends?

    And of course I'm only asking for a friend... of course haha.

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    Honestly, I try not to notice if they're getting hard or not. My goal isn't to get customers hard -- it's to keep them back there as long as possible, which usually consists of minimizing grinding and avoiding getting them TOO aroused.

    And dude, dancers don't compare how hard their customers got.

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    No I don't care if they get hard or not.

    Some guys may have an impotence issue and don't get hard easy so I try not to bring attention to it or make them feel bad about it.
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    Quote Originally Posted by tookewl View Post
    And of course I'm only asking for a friend... of course haha.
    You and your friend talk about each others boners? You guys must be bffl's





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    Quote Originally Posted by audritwo View Post
    You and your friend talk about each others boners? You guys must be bffl's
    Haha. I had that one coming. But of course not.



    Just a little contemplating and more food for thought as I recently had a few dances and afterwards she appeared to be disappointed (maybe I wasn't into her?) even though I was. Nothing I hope that will affect any interactions in the future.

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    Money will cure that.

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    ^^^That is a profound statement as it addresses both the problems with the OP's friend and the disappointment from the dancer.

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    As long as the customer appears to be having fun, I don't care what his dick has to say on the subject.

    I *do* get annoyed when customers get self-conscious about their erection or lack thereof. Having a guy apologize for a lack of erection during a lap dance is the equivalent of "does this dress make me look fat?" Suddenly, my job is to say the right thing when there is no right thing to say. Just shut up and enjoy the dance, yeah?

    And the only way you're getting mentioned to any of my friends after our dance is if a) you were unusually gentlemanly and respectful of my boundaries or b) you were exceptionally grabby, rude, mean, or smelly.

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    Yeah, I really try not to pay attention. And I reaaaalllllly don't care if they achieve any sort of physical state of arousal.

    I just want them to have a good time, enjoy my company and physicality, and keep buying dances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_Red View Post
    As long as the customer appears to be having fun, I don't care what his dick has to say on the subject.

    I *do* get annoyed when customers get self-conscious about their erection or lack thereof. Having a guy apologize for a lack of erection during a lap dance is the equivalent of "does this dress make me look fat?" Suddenly, my job is to say the right thing when there is no right thing to say. Just shut up and enjoy the dance, yeah?

    And the only way you're getting mentioned to any of my friends after our dance is if a) you were unusually gentlemanly and respectful of my boundaries or b) you were exceptionally grabby, rude, mean, or smelly.
    Double Thanks!! Definitely enjoyed my time with her and definitely think she's too sweet and wouldn't ever tell her friends. A little Waaayy over self-conscious on my part

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    Quote Originally Posted by tookewl View Post
    What do you think when a guy isn't able to get hard during dances? More specifically how/does it affect your sale, do you think he's not interested or change it up to maybe get him more aroused? Do you try harder, think he's strange, and ever tell your co-workers/friends?

    And of course I'm only asking for a friend... of course haha.
    The only time I care about a customer's dick is if he takes it out. Flaccid or hard, keep it in your pants and we're all good. If you tell me you liked the dance and you tip after, I will take you at your word.

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    It's way more awkward if they do get an obvious boner, tbh, then you have to pretend not to notice, or if they bring it up and you're like "uuhhhh oh ok? that's...great?...i'm flattered......or something......?" bleegggghhh

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    Quote Originally Posted by wednesday86 View Post
    It's way more awkward if they do get an obvious boner, tbh, then you have to pretend not to notice, or if they bring it up and you're like "uuhhhh oh ok? that's...great?...i'm flattered......or something......?" bleegggghhh
    Plus, it feels weird when the boner appears and then disappears. It's like, are they not into me anymore? Did I do something wrong?

    Most customers are drinking, anyway, so actual boners are rare IME.

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    ^^^ Sometimes when (middle-aged) guys get over-stimulated, the erection can go flaccid, or come and go. The emphasis is on over-stimulation, not just regular stimulation. So it is possible that you are actually doing your job TOO WELL.

    And it might as well stay limp in the SC most of the time. It's not like you're going to whip it out and use it for anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dominic.2 View Post
    ^^^ Sometimes when (middle-aged) guys get over-stimulated, the erection can go flaccid, or come and go. The emphasis is on over-stimulation, not just regular stimulation. So it is possible that you are actually doing your job TOO WELL.

    And it might as well stay limp in the SC most of the time. It's not like you're going to whip it out and use it for anything.
    Ha! I meant more that the erection becomes this weird goal during the dance when it shows up and disappears randomly. I'd rather the focus be on the connection, sensuality, etc.

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    Default Re: Serious, but embarrassing question.

    on the rare instances where they don't get a boner, i certainly don't take it personally. i know i give a hell of a dance, and its certainly not important enough for me to tell anybody else about it haha

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    The only hard thing in your pants strippers care about is your fkn wallet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    The only hard thing in your pants strippers care about is your fkn wallet.

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    hahaha! truth...

    I mean, no....if a guy can't get it up we tell all the other dancers and snicker about it in the dressing room...we spend a lot of time comparing/contrasting customer's wieners. It's all we can think about.

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    Dancers don't discuss customers with each other unless they're sharing about a loaded guy when their reg comes in-I've done this, to warn other girls about gropers and scammers, or if one needs advice on how to handle a handsy extras seeker in VIP.
    Truth be told, I prefer guys not have an erection. Some like apologize. I'm like, "what for? I'd HOPE it takes more than this to get you hard!" Oh, and the ones who do get hard, ime, frequently by the customers' own admission, they're wearing a condom and are there to get off. Or, even worse, NOT wearing one and exposing us to veneral diseases. Thanks ejaculators
    if you're reading this. Any time I "enjoyed" my time with you and excused myself to the bathroom, I was really getting the bouncer. Funny, he'd chastise the guy for violating the girl AND the furniture. Sorry for the long read, but to answer your question, as long as an erectionless guy behaves himself, he's a breath of fresh air in the land of boners lol..
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