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    I've been away for a while and doing great...I guess. I found a job (that I quit but that's another story) and made some new friends. I'm even dating someone and I told him about my illness and he didn't leave. However when I left my job I left my friends too. I'm very lonely. I talk to the guy I'm dating all day everyday and I don't want to annoy him because I know talking all day like this will not last forever. I'm thinking about calling my friend from work to see if she remembers me. I use to be so good at making friends until I was diagnosed then I locked myself away so long I've become a weirdo lol. I miss you girls. Y'all helped me with so much over time. How do you make friends as an adult?

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    Ok I'm not 100% sure if I've been dumped or he just needs some time way from me. It's been 49 hours since I've heard from him. I texted him yesterday and he didn't respond. I'm trying not to care so I've called like everybody I could think of. Not talking about him of course. I even tried flirting with another guy which made me miss him more. What should I do? I feel so alone.

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    Girl don't blow his phone up so much lol I don't think any guy likes that. I'm sorry you feel so lonely though I definitely get that feeling.. but I think it's important to try to get comfortable being by yourself and not feeling like you have to be talking to someone all the time. I think it's definitely healthy if you can comfortably hangout by yourself without needing to talk to anyone even if it's just texting. Just don't rely on that guy to help with your loneliness because he can disappear at any time (like now.. but he probably just needs a little break if you've been texting him all day everyday).

    Are there any hobbies you like to do that can get your mind off of this guy? And I'm really bad at making friends (well I just don't try to lol I have a couple really close friends I've known for years and that's all I need) but I would think forcing yourself to go out and socialize could help you meet new people and make some friends. Things like weekly classes at the gym or there's this one website that lets you link up with other people to do certain activities (maybe someone else knows the name of it). Just put yourself out there and be open to meeting new people wherever you are and you'll eventually make a new friend or two.

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    Lol you're right. But he would text me if I wasn't texting him so I let my freak flag fly high I guess. I swear I wasn't always like this. I had a job before. Monday I'm going to look up a shrink.

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    Hahahaha. I've literally ruined my relationship with a guy by messaging too much, though he won't be upfront and say it. Just get a lot of 'Seen at 11.06' and no replies. What a fucknugget.

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    I try to let him initiate contact first, for the most part. Let him feel like he's doing the pursuing...If he feels like you're chasing him, he will run. I even did this in my marriage... usually wait for him to call/text me first when we aren't together..Not always, but like 70% (him) -30% (me). Don't always text him back right away. Get into an activity and get back to him when you're done. You need to fill your life with things you love to do (other than messaging him :p ). It also makes you more interesting to "have a life" even if your hobby is just baking, collecting tea cups, writing fan fiction or making macaroni art. It doesn't matter...Find something else to fill up your time and your thoughts and let him "hunt" for your attention.

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    Also next time you go out with your girlfriends text him "I'm going out with the girls..ttyl" with a cute selfie. then ignore his reply. Watch him blow your phone up all night. Haha

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    Lol 3 days I take we're over. It's ok. I'll take this info into my next situation.

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    Date people who don't play dating games. Kick game-players off the damn island. If someone seems like they aren't into you, then you shouldn't be into them - end it.

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    I'm sorry I hate when guys can't just man up and talk.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wednesday86 View Post
    Also next time you go out with your girlfriends text him "I'm going out with the girls..ttyl" with a cute selfie. then ignore his reply. Watch him blow your phone up all night. Haha
    Love this one, lol Im so gonna use it!! I also find that letting them do the chasing is much better but eventually a lot of guys start to resent it, I mean later on in the relationship but its like if I start to do more, they pull back anyways so this has always worked better for me..

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