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    Duh I have no tolerance for BS Now

    After 6 months of adult work, I'm realizing I have no tolerance for BS and am more capable of putting my foot down and putting ppl in their place.
    At the same time, I'm wondering whether I can transition back out of adult work into vanilla work. I'm spending less & less time on vanilla projects because I dread dealing with the customer service BS. With adultwork, your customer service can be "Don't be a freeloader you gotta pay for my time." haha. Don't think that would fly for vanilla work. Anyways wondering if anyone has been able to balance vanilla work/adultwork? Bitchy camgirl is starting to take over.

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    ^^^ omg, this is me all day. After quitting my vanilla job, I danced for 6 months straight. Now, I'm back to vanilla work and taking a break from dancing. The physical transition is hard: Waking up on time, sticking to a real schedule, dressing professionally, working sober (lol). But, I find the mental transition harder and I think that's something that hasn't been discussed much here. For example, at my vanilla job, there is this bitch who thinks she's hot shit. Talks super loud on her phone ALL day. We don't sit that close together, but I can hear every fucking syllable that comes out of her mouth. If this were a strip club dressing room, I would have told her to STFU and see if she had the balls to do something. A fight ensues, or maybe it doesn't. (Shrug). But in vanilla world, that's not possible. I have to smile and say "good morning" and shit.

    Also, I notice that I have to watch what I say and do. I was trying to get a male coworker to do something for me last week. I instantly defaulted to talking sweetly and rubbing his forearm like I was trying to sell a dance. Idk...and let's not even get into having to wait 2 fucking weeks to get paid. I look at my paycheck sometimes, and think "Shit, this is two good nights of dancing." Smh...The transition is hard. I feel you, girl.
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    haha Im just imagining what would happen if you told her to STFU in the office lol I'm sure jaws would drop. The two worlds are like night and day. Adult work definitely opens up your eyes....

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    Quote Originally Posted by ShyCamgirlBB View Post
    "Don't be a freeloader you gotta pay for my time." haha. Don't think that would fly for vanilla work.
    Why not? You may have to pretty up the language a bit, but there is no reason to tolerate people wasting your time without paying you. "Thanks for your interest in XYZ product or service. Shall we get you signed up/ rung up for this item/service/product now?"

    If they say no, just thank them for their time and excuse yourself to get back to work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LegoMoney View Post
    For example, at my vanilla job, there is this bitch who thinks she's hot shit. Talks super loud on her phone ALL day. We don't sit that close together, but I can hear every fucking syllable that comes out of her mouth. If this were a strip club dressing room, I would have told her to STFU and see if she had the balls to do something. A fight ensues, or maybe it doesn't. (Shrug). But in vanilla world, that's not possible. I have to smile and say "good morning" and shit.
    You can play head games with the loud talker. Since you can hear everything she says, start offering advice on something weird/personal/embarrassing you heard her mention on the phone. For instance, "Ms. Megaphone Mouth, you were talking about your vaginal yeast infection earlier, and since your voice carries, I couldn't help but overhear. I hope your vaginal yeast infection clears up soon. That can't be very comfortable!"

    I once worked with someone like that at a vanilla job and whenever she would ask a question to someone on the phone, I'd shout out an answer. She'd get so pissed at me for answering, too. I'd just reply with "Oh, sorry, I thought you were talking to the whole room since you are talking so loudly. My bad."

    It only took a few days of me randomly answering her questions before she started to keep her phone conversations down to a lower volume.

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    Yeah, I keep walking out of vanilla jobs for this same reason. Haven't tried in like 10 months now since the last failure as a waitress. I was a great waitress, for the record--lowest number of mistakes in the system of the entire staff, most knowledgeable about the food menu, highest overall in sales/tips each week/month. Then my bar manager, a total fucking slime ball stepping out on his wife and kid for the record, found out I cammed on the side and tried to get me to fuck him. I reported his ass so fast, but the ownership was full of women who didn't want to discipline their manager no matter how many complaints he had or how many women he retaliated against, so I walked out mid-shift about a month later. I'm frankly surprised I lasted that long. So, my last vanilla gig lasted...3.5 months, lol.

    I now look at job listings in terms of how little interaction I have to have with the higher ups and people in general before I can get my pay check and go home. I don't deal with BS well to begin with, and I don't deal with stupid/arrogant/entitled people well at all anymore.


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    The thing about my vanilla job is I do RE sales. Another commission based job lol It takes a billion years to get a sale and even a week or two to close a rental but when it happens it's a nice lump sum. I just don't have the patience anymore for all the BS clients, esp the snobby/entitled ones. I would consider a 9-5 office gig, but I lose interest when I'm micromanaged... lol The only good thing about RE right now is that it's a good cover job for camming.

    @Tourdefranzia That's hilarious, you are a sharp wit lol I don't know if I would have thought of that
    @Issabelle Waitressing is hard work, managers in general suck. That's why I try to stick to independent work haha but the clients suck

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    Yeah, after YEARS of being stepped on in vanilla jobs.....I'm over it. No office politics, having to answer to asswipes, no having to swallow insults or take being spoken to like an animal. I couldn't go back to it. Period. Sex work definitely toughens you up and teaches you to nip the bullshit in the bud.

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    I feel ALL of this post.

    Even before dancing, I hated vanilla jobs, so I just ended up getting a new one twice a year. It became a game as to how long I could force myself to work somewhere; I would literally get the job and be like "Ok you only have to stay 4 months from today's date".

    This last summer, I almost took a teaching job but bailed on it. The more I thought about what working 40 hours/week is really like + having a 'mentor' teacher checking on me + having to nicely listen to parents horseshit, etc.... Ugh. I started turning into this really nasty person from the stress; I was basically extreme-PMS-ing 24/7 until I canceled my contract a month before school started. Such relief!

    I have a lot of issues with people already, being as intelligent as I am, and that compounded with Stripper Brain is bad news for other people. Before dancing I would at least keep criticism to myself. Now I have no patience at all. If you try to walk on me, I will put a stop to it somehow. If you do something stupid, I will tell you it's stupid. I have a hard time restraining from shooting my mouth off immediately.

    It's had some positive aspects for vanilla job stuff though. I can now morph into whatever personality will get what I want out of someone... I actually can't remember the last time I said "Watch, I'll get so-and-so to do this" and then didn't have it work. Muahaha
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