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    Default How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    So lots of guys say they want to meet me. I'm still fairly new to camming (second day) and this one guy took me in to VIP chat and spent most of the time wanting to meet me in person. I laughed because I didn't know what to say and I think he got a little offended. He was serious and I'm not sure how to politely decline while not losing a paying customer. Any suggestions on how to handle this in the future? I'm actually married so It's not an option even if I wasn't afraid he was a serial killer. lol

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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    Just tell him you want to get to know him better. Keep leading his loser-ass on.


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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    That's your call, but I just tell them I'm not interested in meeting strangers on the Internet and I'm just doing my job. Sure, they get disinterested after that, but at least I won't have to deal with psycho down the line. It's way too much trouble to lead them on, trust me.

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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    You will encounter this situation occasionally, especially as you start to get regulars.

    Some guys try to meet up, but and lots of them don't. Don't let a customer make you feel like you owe them anything other than whatever they are supposed to be paying you for at that very second. My general MO when this happens is to try to steer the conversation into dirty talk about what we would do to each other if we did meet up without ever explicitly stating that I have any intentions whatsoever of doing so. If they're persistent I deflect and bullshit until they either drop it or give up and presumably start trying it on someone else. There are enough customers who will respect that you are a camgirl and not an escort to make up for the occasional one that does not.

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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    You say no. You can lead him on all you want, but where is that gonna go? He's either gonna get tired of you lying to him and fucking him out of money or you're gonna get a fucking stalker. If a customer can't understand they're a customer, and that's why they're paying for your time, they have huge potential to become an actual threat.

    Say no. If he keeps it up, tell him no and if he keeps pressuring you, you'll have to block him and you'd hate to do that because he's awesome! And if he doesn't stop block him and report him to your site for harassment. Don't fuck with crazy people. It never ends well.
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    Some ladies make bank by acting like they'll eventually meet up...and it IS a legit roleplay fantasy that a lot of guys are into...but I just can't play that game. Too stressful for me, and I feel bad stringing people along.

    I usually go for a firm but polite response. "Sorry, I don't do meet ups but I love playing with you on cam!" If they push it, block them and move on.

    I rarely encounter this issue anymore because I'm extremely up front about not being available to play in real life. Does it lose me some sales? Possibly. But the guys who actually want to meet up (not the guys who just incorporate it into an obvious roleplay) are not the kind of customers I want anyway.

    Do you wear your wedding ring on cam? That seems to help fend them off for the most part.


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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    They should know better than to think they can meet us. It pisses me off when they ask. I just tell them, "Let's get to know each other better". Honestly, the guys will come back for another show then they stop pressing it. I guarantee, they ask other girls to meet them. They're not going to remember that you said, "Let's get to know each other first". Fuck 'em. Take their money.


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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    I tell them I can't for their own good. Cause they would have to take me shopping, nice big fancy dinner & I will barely kiss them on the cheek once it was done. And would love it, spending every dime they make on me & never get close to fucking me.
    All with a smile & a wink, then they can't give me enough money at that point and drop the asking me out thing.

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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    I tell them straight up that I'm on cam to work and make money and I'm not here to meet anyone. End of story. I'm 100% real with them because for one loser that could potentially become a pain in the ass, his money isn't worth the drama, and there is 100 others out there that won't give a shit if you want to meet and fuck them or not and still pay you to see you do your thing, and I like to be honest with people. I'll always be 100% real with my customers, they don't like it, they can go somewhere else.

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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    While I agree with other replies that subtly encouraging them during paid sessions can potentially be lucrative, I personally shut it down from the word go. After doing this for 9 years, I feel I can comfortably say that the guys that go this route are not the most stable bunch and you're better off just nipping it in the bud and moving on. Even though the chances of them tracking you down and showing up on your porch one day isn't likely, you're putting yourself in a situation where it could be a possibility. The more likely threat is the extreme emotional drain they could put on you and it's just not worth it. Just think for a moment about the kind of man who would really act that way and be so into you they want to meet, it's just not the rational or normal behavior of an emotionally healthy person. Show them an amazing time and have fun with them but let them know even though online is where it stays, it can still be something really enjoyable.
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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    I tell them I can't for their own good. Cause they would have to take me shopping, nice big fancy dinner & I will barely kiss them on the cheek once it was done. And would love it, spending every dime they make on me & never get close to fucking me.
    All with a smile & a wink, then they can't give me enough money at that point and drop the asking me out thing.
    My go to is to tell them they don't want to meet me because I could be a serial killer. Wtf! People online are dangerous! I'm protecting you!
    Usually they laugh and say oh you're not a serial killer... show tits bb.
    No power in the 'verse can stop me.

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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    ^^^ To each her own hustle, but a lot of that is just plain dangerous, not to mention the fact that you could be banned from most cam sites for half of it! Why invest the time in creating a fake persona, risk losing your income by leading guys off site (not even gonna touch the paypal thing) all to what...drain ONE person's wallet?? I'd much rather invest that time in gaining multiple new guys who aren't literally hunting me down and forming an unhealthy obsession with me!!

    Not trying to say you're bad or wrong or whatever - to each her own, as I said. But it is a very, very risky way to make money. No matter how high you build that security wall, there are guys who can find a way over it.

    If there are any newbies out there considering going down that road - DON'T! You can make plenty of money staying far, far away from guys like that.


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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    [QUOTE=visualconsultant;2829455]New here. Had to post. That type of guy can be very very lucrative. You are a newbie on cam so the only advice I can pass along is build a high security wall between these guys and you. Make sure you tell him 1. you are not an escort. 2. you never meet in real time. You made a promise that you never would. Being single makes more money than being attached. Throw in a kid or two being a single mom is good. Father dead or in prison or anything. Keep pushing him away. He will keep coming back.
    Get a wish list and he will buy things. Get a throw away cell phone not in your name and sell him the number for $250 so he can text you. Depending on the cam site you work on try to glean him off of that site and onto Skype. Get him to paypal so you make all the money. Just tell him that you are afraid and bad break ups or whatever. These white knight guys are amazing. The more you push him away the more he will come back. You are on cam to make money. Drain every penny you can out of him. If he wants to "save" you from your life of camming let him think he can. Just keep changing your mind until he gives up. Never ever give out any personal information about yourself. You can even create a fake real name, fake Facebook, fake twitter but only after a while of "getting to know him." Watch out for the guys that want to get your real name just to out you in real life. Come up with your story and stick to it. A white knight is a valuable asset if you play him right. Has nothing to do with leading him on. Just my two cents. Good luck.[/QUOTE

    Yikes. Is this a troll?

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    'Get him to paypal so you make all the money.' -- I died.

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    Haha! Total fucking troll. "Sell him the number". Bwah ha ha ha! That's all too much work to keep a guy around. I got exhausted just reading all of that.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    I tell them I can't for their own good. Cause they would have to take me shopping, nice big fancy dinner & I will barely kiss them on the cheek once it was done. And would love it, spending every dime they make on me & never get close to fucking me.
    All with a smile & a wink, then they can't give me enough money at that point and drop the asking me out thing.
    This is the best answer to this question I've ever read. Epic!!!



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    texting someone constantly for $250 isn't a very good deal

    Umm... I just think it's all playing with fire in a way. However, the first part of the post, telling him you're not an escort and you don't meet in real time, is good.

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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    I just tell him "that's very sweet, but my husband doesn't allow me to meet people."

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    Default Re: How to deal with a paying customer that wants to meet you?

    Quote Originally Posted by BBW157985 View Post
    He was serious and I'm not sure how to politely decline while not losing a paying customer. Any suggestions on how to handle this in the future? I'm actually married so It's not an option even if I wasn't afraid he was a serial killer. lol
    My experience is they are ALL ALWAYS serious even if they SAY it's just a joke. If you really want to be polite: no thank you, should suffice. Me personally I tell them to ** fuck off and they should tip extra for suggesting such a selfish idea as if I would want to meet them, see their gross fat lard lump of a body that smells like cheese and hang out? LOL I can find cool people to hang out with where I live I don't need to meet you, you aren't fucking special. You're a loser with a micro penis. **

    Also, who gives a fuck if you're married or not? If you don't want to meet a weirdo: That's all that should matter. Marital status or ANYTHING else should not even be a thought

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    I wouldn't feel right stringing a guy along like that, making him believe we'll really meet. Don't get a guy all hyped like that. For my own peace of mind and less drama, I would definitely not do it. I just don't think it's right, and it will eventually piss the guy off when he realizes that you're just BSing him. Roleplaying is one thing where you're just doing the whole fantasy thing, and both people KNOW it's just an act. But actually telling a guy (outside of a roleplay scenario) that you will really meet him IRL...that's some serious stuff right there. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Plus, if you do this to a guy who takes it really, really hard, he may say that you "scammed him" and start running to sites like AC Forum to bitch about you, making you out to be some horrible monster. Lol.


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    I'm extremely upfront no, never, not going to happen. Then I smile and change to a better topic.

    Stalkers aren't worth it to me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MissAdriana View Post
    My experience is they are ALL ALWAYS serious even if they SAY it's just a joke. If you really want to be polite: no thank you, should suffice. Me personally I tell them to ** fuck off and they should tip extra for suggesting such a selfish idea as if I would want to meet them, see their gross fat lard lump of a body that smells like cheese and hang out? LOL I can find cool people to hang out with where I live I don't need to meet you, you aren't fucking special. You're a loser with a micro penis. **

    Also, who gives a fuck if you're married or not? If you don't want to meet a weirdo: That's all that should matter. Marital status or ANYTHING else should not even be a thought
    Tell us how you really feel! Hahaha!


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