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    So i dated my ex for 4 years. I danced on and off while dating him since I am a nursing student and would be in so much debt if I did not dance. I recieve not help from family, i was on my own with everything at 18 and he does not get that I am just trying to secure my future. I could care less about these custies. 4 years into it things got rocky and we took time off and he said to me if i stopped dancing then we can be together, I immediately said no because I have bills to pay, I like that I can work two or three days a week and sometimes even one day a week and make good money and focus on anatomy, biochemistry, physics, micro and all those hard classes. I put my future first. So he doesnt want to be with me all of a sudden after 4 years and it has made him miserable. Am I wrong to want to continue to dance to pay for school and focus on my education? Is that selfish?

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    Tell him to pay your bills
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    No, tell him he can have an opinion when he pays your rent.
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    If you're not married/he's not paying your way, tell him to get over it or gtfo. There's plenty of dick in the sea.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wednesday86 View Post
    If you're not married/he's not paying your way, tell him to get over it or gtfo.
    There's plenty of dick in the sea.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wednesday86 View Post
    If you're not married/he's not paying your way, tell him to get over it or gtfo. There's plenty of dick in the sea.
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    Money over dick. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders unlike some of the previous posts we've had regarding this topic.
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    im going through the same thing, only i havent broke up with my bf yet lol. and i actually did quit for him, but trust me it was a very stupid decision, one of the only regrets i have. my perfect credit is messed up etc etc. your bf has no right to get in his feelings 4 years in, you were doing the same thing youre doing now, tell him kick rocks.

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    From my experience with men, when it gets to this stage ...eg the emotional blackmail and threats to leave, it's over anyway. If he was offering to pay all your bills and 'take you away from all this'.... well, that's another thing entirely. Play hard ball. Tell him you ain't gonna change. If he can't live without you...he'll stay. If not....well, he didn't love you enough to work it out. And you don't need someone who can't live without you to be the centre of your world. xx

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    You aren't being selfish, HE is. He doesn't care if you go into debt or can't pay any of your bills as long as you keep your clothes on because he's too insecure to handle his gf having this job. You shouldn't want to be with someone who is that insecure and selfish anyway. Tell him to get over it unless he wants to pay all of your bills and keep you out of debt while you're in school.

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    You sound like a very smart woman who understands how the world works. Your bf, not so much.

    I'm curious why he is having a change of heart all of the sudden? You've been dancing for the 4 years you were with him, and only now he can't deal? This sounds like a lousy excuse to break up, and there may be nothing you could do in any case.

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    So I'm going to give my honest, tough love opinion because I've been there and I feel like a lot of women who do this have at some point!

    If he can't handle you dancing and is trying to manipulate you into stopping (especially when you're doing it to better yourself via education etc...) that's a warning sign. He's clearly controlling and has some issues and it's going to turn into more controlling behavior down the line if you give him what he wants and stop dancing. That being said, I understand he's your boyfriend and it's hard to leave any relationship and I also don't know anything about your relationship so I can't tell you what to do or say dump him. But I would talk to him and explain how this makes you feel and see how that goes. Remember you don't have to justify your choices to anyone if they're not paying your bills.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babykitten222 View Post
    Am I wrong to want to continue to dance to pay for school and focus on my education? Is that selfish?
    No. I was in a similar relationship many moons ago and the guy didn't want me to do anything. Dropping him was the best decision I made and years later, now I'm in a secure place in my life no thanks to guys like him. Don't give up, keep your eye on the end goal and you will reap your reward later.

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