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    I retired about 2 years ago and sometimes I lurk on this board when I fantasize about going back. There is something about this time of year that makes me miss the club. Probably because it was the best month of the year for me usually. Is anyone else here retired that misses it? Let's reminisce. I used to love working on Christmas Eve. Not many girls would show up, there would usually be a healthy number of customers given how many girls would show up, and it was generally a decent day made up of mostly dances, not a lot of champagne rooms, and not a lot of hassle.

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    Cool I'd like to work Christmas eve! I don't think I've ever worked that day before. I didn't think I would miss dancing...I burned out hard a couple of months ago...but I went in last night and actually had a lot of fun. Haven't decided if I'll continue or not...I would really like to be done and move on from this industry but I always go back. For some reason reading "My Last Shift" thread makes me miss it when I'm not dancing.

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    I've worked Christmas Eve twice and both times it was a phenomenal shift -- great money, lovely customers, cheerful staff and fellow dancers. I debate it every year, but my folks live out of town so usually visiting them wins out unless my SO happens to be staying in town.

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    I always miss dancing this time of year because both of my dancing stints were during fall/winter. So when the weather changes, I miss the SC. I never spent much time in one during the warmer months when it would slow down.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    I always miss dancing this time of year because both of my dancing stints were during fall/winter. So when the weather changes, I miss the SC. I never spent much time in one during the warmer months when it would slow down.
    What made you move from dancing to escorting?

    I miss dancing, but I don't miss the whiny jealous girl bullshit and all the hoops you have to jump through to make money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by red.velvet View Post
    What made you move from dancing to escorting?
    Well, I had been interested in escorting for awhile, but, not too long after I started dancing, I got a boyfriend. Met him at the club, so he couldn't say anything about me dancing, or returning to dancing after I had burned out for a little while. However, I never would have even broached escorting with him, because our own sex life was shit (sorry, TMI lol). During our time together I got fired from the only club around that I would really want to work at. I still don't know why they fired me... I think one of the managers just didn't like me.

    After we broke up, I quickly jumped into escorting because I was on the verge of being evicted with a lot of debt and wouldn't have been able to make that kind of money dancing at the club closest to me while maintaining my day job, just in case. (Plus the having always wanted to try it thing). I realized quickly that escorting fit my personality more. I like the one-on-one interaction, the fact that I know a guy is into me and is going to give me money as soon as he contacts me/is in front of me, the ability to keep more normal hours for sleep and social interaction, and the lesser hours for more money. Escort clients also tend to be far more respectful.

    However, despite all that, I still miss dancing sometimes. I like the outfits and heels better, dancing on stage, the camaraderie (even with slightly crazy bitches lol), the night-owl lifestyle, and (despite the fact that I prefer one-on-one contact), I really really like the energy when a club is full and the vibe is high. So I tried to go back even after starting escorting. I went to a different club that was supposed to be good, but after getting hired, they told me all their rules and they were just so ridiculous (especially since there were no customers in there the entire 2 hours I auditioned), that I decided that it wasn't worth it to come back and start working. I live in an area with only one divey club (the one I started at). All the rest are an hour and a half away - and only those 2 have a good reputation (the one I got fired from and the one that I realized was starting to fail miserably).

    I've highly considered going to a couple others that I know I'll probably hate, back to the one I got fired from (I mean, it's been awhile, right?), and even my first dive just for the fun of it. I miss it a lot. If the dive didn't do scheduling, I'd wander in probably several times a month just out of boredom, but they do schedule pretty strictly and I don't do well with weekly schedules these days.
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    Yes, I miss dancing. I think about it alot. It's been months since I last danced. "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times."
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    Default Re: Do you miss dancing?

    I haven't danced in four years and often think of it, hang out on these boards or entertain the thought of going back. Don't know if I'll ever not consider it an option. "You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave" kind of thing I guess.

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    I miss dancing all the time. I love to dance simply. The money was good and helped at the time but I just loved being on stage. I love making shy guys weak. I loved my high heels and school girl outfit and just being myself. I was a bad hustler though towards my last club and I am getting older. Being in my late 30's and dancing with younger girls isn't appealing to me. Even though in Florida and Vegas it seems older woymn are still dancing and killing it. I sometimes want to go back for part time work but I live in GA now and I hate GA's dance card policies. I am not paying $300 for a dance card when I can go to FL and pay nothing and make more (in my case anyways). But I am in school and work a vanilla job but if I found a laid back club with no dance card needed and wouldn't mind a slim black girl that loves dancing I would do it.
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    (For those that know the movie I replaced sumo with sports, it seems fitting here.)


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    Aurora_Sunset I wish there was a thread on escorting for woymn like yourself in the profession. Would be interesting but I don't believe it be would an option.
    "All you care about is dancing."

    "I beg to differ, what is sports than a dance between two teams? What is business but a dance between two companies, I like to learn about every kind of dance." ----Memoirs Of A Geisha.
    (For those that know the movie I replaced sumo with sports, it seems fitting here.)


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    I retired over three years ago. I don't think I miss the lap dance part. I guess in some ways I miss the challenge of hustling but most customer interactions were poor cause guys are assholes. I miss pole dancing (not the being naked for strangers part) and being in good shape. I miss the money, when it was good. I don't miss the ghetto areas, late hours and Adderall and drama, but yet again as a Paramedic my hours at erratic (24 hour shifts) and I work in the ghetto and deal with drama and chaos non stop. Also, quite a few Paramedics are on Adderall just as bad as strippers I used to work with (myself included). Most of the Paramedics I work with smoke weed and some have drinking problems and abuse Xanax and Vicodin. It's a different kind of PTSD I guess. It's strange, right when I get good at something (2-3 years in), I become overwhelmed and burned out and quit! As a dancer I was finally a great pole dancer and could hustle and knew all the ins and outs of area clubs, then I quit because I was overwhelmed. As a Paramedic I finally became proficient at IVs, am confident running a CPR or bad trauma, don't have to "check" drug doses, and now I want to quit because I'm so burned out. I feel like I can't make up my mind about a career.
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    But, you Rock whatever you do, Laurisa!
    Interesting, though, the parallels of dancing & being a paramedic!
    Yes, I do miss it though, I'm still gonna give it one more go!


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    I retired 4 years ago and I really miss dancing; the party-like atmosphere, the attention, the outfits (I still keep a french maid one, just in case), the espirit-de-corps from other dancers, the breeze/attention/empowerment that came whenI got naked on stage (unlike Laurisa, I really loved being nude in front of strangers).

    Just like Blasiancutie, currently I live in a place that doing a shift is almost impossible: in Mexico, there was a recent nationwide crackdown on strip clubs (some near the US border, where involved in human trafficking); so, the remaining ones have ridiculous rules and overall, the ambience was lost. Anyway, I do fantasize about traveling into south Texas for an amateur night in a decent club, not for the money, but just for fun.

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    I miss it too. I miss walking out of work with a purse full of money. I miss the clothes. I miss the attention. Going to clubs as a custy is just not the same as being on stage. Even getting all tarted up and going to the clubs with BF is not the same. The only thing that comes close is swinging. BF and I do that a few times a year. :-)

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    ^^ totally hear ya... I won't allow myself to go to the clubs anymore. I always spend wayyyy too much money & the next day when I'm sober it feels like such a waste. I feel guilty almost.

    Honestly, there ARE two things I miss about it... And that's pretty much it... Unfortunately they happen quite often :-(

    When I realize how much more effort & time I have to put into another job to make even HALF of what I did dancing-- on a good day...
    And when songs play that I used to frequently pick as on the jukebox for my stage sets... Or think 'Damn I could REALLY rock this on stage & own it."

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    I miss it, and I don't miss it. Last year, I went back to dancing full time for a few months (after being absent for around 3 years), but I ended up quitting because of anxiety issues. I miss the money, the makeup, the clothes, and the dancing; but my anxiety has gotten so bad over the years that I was having panic attacks at the thought of going into the club. But at the same time, I'm not getting rid of my shoes or costumes yet, just in case.

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    I retired about 3 years ago..I've gone back a weekend or two since then but only when I've fought with my BF and left for the week...I loved to dance and be on stage but more importantly I met some of my best friends at work and I miss seeing them every weekend and just having fun..I had a lot of cool customers and I liked working on Thursday - Saturday..I've been having relationship problems for the last year and I'm close to ending it and moving out..the first thing I'll do is head back to the club..I can't wait to get back on stage again

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    I miss dancing on stage-so I signed up for pole fitness. People looking up and being impressed. When girls would whine that they had to go on after me, it just so made my night. I miss the small percentage of non-gropy customers, the occasional cute ones, and the few coworkers I liked. Totally don't miss the hours, the painful shoes, the having to drink a bunch to talk to guys and gaining weight because of it. Plus, I have ptsd and I'm sure you can imagine how fighting off filthy hands didn't help. Camming is awesome, but kind of isolating, which is why I'm on here a lot
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    I miss it but Im happy being married and experiencing normal life for the first time in 10 years, I miss the money, the dressing up glamming it up with hair and makeup, the crazy experiences that I know I will never experience anywhere else, Im a night owl so the hours were great for me, making crazy money unexpected like on dead nights etc, I miss the bond I had with a lot of females I met, I miss saying stupid shit to guys and then getting money while having a laugh at the same time, I don't miss the slow times or having to find new clubs when things got bad, I don't miss the lack of rights you have against crazy managers or club staff plotting against you, I miss being able to just audition to get jobs its so easy compared to sending resumes and answering stupid questions.
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    I've been fully and finally retired for five years now. I miss the good times of dancing - when there were fewer girls and good reliable money. But it changed before i retired and club culture changed. In my last stint being told that "I feel guilty for talking to you because you're English and so few dancers are English." was just a WTF moment for me. The days when I could make a good night's money without doing more than two or three dances are gone in the UK - at least in the places I danced.

    I miss going home and counting my money. I miss having my fridge full of champagne all the time and eating at amazing restaurants every week. I miss my favourite club where we were like a little family. I miss the ritual of getting ready for work - drinking a glass or two of wine and selecting my outfits for the night.

    I miss the money and i wish i'd been smarter with it (less spending it fixing up my idiots ex boyfriend's house, more saving to buy my own). But then i miss not having to think about anything i wanted to buy - i want a spa day? Of course i have the money, call a fellow dancer and one spa day followed by a champagne dinner coming up.

    I miss the local celebrity status - restaurants clearing a table for us, skipping the queue for clubs. I miss the excitement of buying a new outfit and seeing how much money it makes you the first time you wear it. I miss going to buy new shoes from my regular shoe store and getting VIP service and a dancer discount.

    If the industry still existed in the way it did back then i'd dance again - i'm a couple of months away from 40 but in amazing shape and still get mistaken for 25 every day. But things just aren't what they once were. So now i'm trying to go straight in the corporate world - but nothing ever suited me like stripping.

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    Haha - i still get a secret smile on when i hear my old stage tracks. Plus i still hear new songs and think "I would so kill that on stage!"

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    Well I haven't stepped into a club in about 6 weeks now...The only thing I miss is the $$$, even though that was drying up toward the end. I'm starting to feel normal again..getting up in the morning, going to bed at a decent hour, not being dizzy all the time because my days and nights are mixed up....No more smelling bad breath or stinky guys, or having men's hands on me...No more making boring small talk or having to drink just to talk to customers...and no more back pain from those goddamn heels! It definitely taught me a lot, gave me some interesting stories for the grandkids, and I don't regret it for a second...but I really hope I never have to go back to the club again. I'm 100% over it now.

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    I miss having a bouncer to sort out guys who try to grab me - now when guys in the street try to grab me there is no one to sort them out for me

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    I retired from dancing for a few years and am just beginning to return full time. I'm nervous because I'm forgoing regular paychecks that I've gotten used to. But, I ALWAYS made more money dancing, even more than if I'd work full-time. I missed the flexibility in schedule. I missed the fact that I could talk about everything with these girls who were your closest friends at work, yet perfect strangers when you went home. The loud music I could literally feel while dancing. Being able to drink (a little) while at work. Neon colored thongs and 7" heels. The ability to travel literally anywhere and work (if you're hot enough).

    We'll see if I regret my decision soon enough (wish me luck!) but I doubt it. I am getting older as well, so that makes me nervous, too. But I got an education to fall back on (and plan on getting a second degree with my now super flexible schedule). I'm also not the type to really be concerned with getting married or having kids, so if dancing is only short term, I may get my toes wet with escorting (that was actually more difficult to type out than I care to admit), because the adult work industry can really treat you well, so long as you respect your own boundaries.
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    This thread is making me realize retirement won't be too bad...

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