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    Default Re: Do you miss dancing?

    Nope. I miss the money, but other than that I'm happily retired. I work full time as an LMT now and it's so much more emotionally fulfilling for me. Just my own 2 cents! If I ever do miss it I have an open invitation to drop by the club when I want.
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    Short answer: No, but I miss being young in a new and chaotic atmosphere. I miss "the firsts" and the shock appeal, but that is long gone. Nothing like that will never happen again. I'm okay with it.

    Long answer: After escorting, the is absolutely no reason to go back to dancing. It has nothing to do with money, and everything to do with having grown out of the middle school chaos that is dancing. I went back dancing for a week as a side gig to my day job and escorting and I just found that I couldn't do it. The girls were young and bratty, the customers were expectant, the money was mediocre, the management was on a power trip. I had just "outgrown" the scene and was no longer fun or useful to me. I don't look or act old, but hanging around a bunch of 22 year olds continually blowing their cash on stupid trendy useless shit is not a good time to me. It actually really annoying me and I couldn't stop thinking "thank god I got this all out of my system already and I'm no longer young and dumb."

    So no, I don't miss it. It is a distant memory and I experienced everything there was to experience in that profession.

    In my honest opinion, dancing is something left to those in their early 20s or for women who never want kids or a stable home life. That isn't me. It once was me when it was age-appropriate, but now its no longer me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by red.velvet View Post
    Short answer: No, but I miss being young and dumb in a new, chaotic atmosphere. And nothing like that will never happen again. I'm okay with it.

    In my honest opinion, dancing is something left to those in their early 20s or for women who never want kids or a stable home life. That isn't me. It once was me when it was age-appropriate, but now its no longer me.
    I find it to be an incredible job to have as a student. It's a great job to have as supplementary income to a straight job. Great job for single mothers who want to maximize time with their children, or caretakers of ill family members. Great job for bored housewives looking to spice things up. Great job for anyone who's between careers or degrees. I could go on...

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    I find it to be an incredible job to have as a student. It's a great job to have as supplementary income to a straight job. Great job for single mothers who want to maximize time with their children, or caretakers of ill family members. Great job for bored housewives looking to spice things up. Great job for anyone who's between careers or degrees. I could go on...
    I agree, it is a PHENOMENAL job for a young student who wants good money and flexibility. I learned a lot, but it got to the point where there was nothing left to learn.

    Its also good for people who flat out NEED flexibility and good money, but when you don't need those and you've already been there done that, it just serves absolutely no purpose IMO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by red.velvet View Post
    I agree, it is a PHENOMENAL job for a young student who wants good money and flexibility. I learned a lot, but it got to the point where there was nothing left to learn.

    Its also good for people who flat out NEED flexibility and good money, but when you don't need those and you've already been there done that, it just serves absolutely no purpose IMO.
    I respectfully disagree, though I can see where you're coming from.

    But that's not what this thread is about, so I'll leave it at that.

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    I'm in a phase now where I miss it but can't stand being up after Midnight and that would leave way too much $ on the table. I wish there was a quiet club ( v.s. music blaring ) that closed at 11p.m. haha.
    I find it very funny that the people I tell about dancing think it's all these other things that made me quit when it was only the hours and noise.
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    Default Re: Do you miss dancing?

    I miss....
    Doing my hair and makeup and feeling all glamorous
    The great shape that dancing kept me in
    The piles and piles of money that I would bring home on a good night

    I don't miss....
    The ever-increasing amount of gropey, extras-seeking guys
    The nights when I would hustle my butt off and still go home owing my house fee
    Having to work in a smoke-filled environment 8 hours a night

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    This coming Wednesday it will be two weeks that I have officially quit dancing (and it was good timing because my club will closing in three weeks). I had an exit plan and I'm in it, working for a rapidly growing company, with incentives to move up and getting paid to learn more.

    What I miss:

    1.Stage Dancing! I mostly worked clubs in my career where the bulk of the money we made was on stage. Funny how I ended my career in one of the few that are left.
    2.The cool customers: We had entertainment industry guys that would come in a lot when I worked at my club last year; not bratty celebs but the lighting guys, special fx, production, even some legit filmmakers and the occasional cool actor. This dropped off when I came back a few months ago as LA is getting to expensive to shoot films in. But because word got out we were closing, they are all coming back to say their "good-byes" and throw $$$.
    3. Costumes, make-up and shoes! (Although, my make-up style was becoming more natural by the time I left: almost bare eyes but striking lips).
    4. Music! In my little club, we controlled what we played. So it wasn't rap 24/7. It was all kinds of music.
    5. Cash In My Purse. Need is say more. I LOVED paying for things while running errands with cash. The looks on people's faces was priceless!
    6. Special moments. When you're stage dancing a guy is so into you that he can't finish his pool game or conversation and just has to come over and make it rain.
    7. Lap custies who paid you to hang and talk instead of grind.

    I Don't Miss:
    1. Groping Latin guys. (Or any for that matter, but they just seem to be the worst).
    2. Time wasters.
    3. Drugged out or/and drunk co-workers wanting to talk to me.
    4. Catty, out-of-shape co-workers who would cast shade. (My last club was great though)
    5. Co-workers doing extras and accidentally catching a couple of them, kinda making my stomach churn.
    6. Sore feet and lower back pains at the end of the day.
    7. No health plan, incentives to move up. A dead end job. (Although it was never my only job).
    8. Really drunk custies with bad breath.
    9. Guys wanting to date or worse.

    I'm glad I saw this thread. I'm feeling a bit depressed because I'm home with the worst cold, feeling out -of shape, not wanting to go out and cough on people. This has put a lot into prospective.

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    I just had a conversation with a current stripper (I'm an ex-stripper) that doesn't know I escort, and she asked me "why don't you dance again? don't you miss the ability to write things off? it saves so much money!"

    Then I brought up how self-employed people have to pay their own share of their self-employment tax that the employer would be paying instead, and she didn't know what I was talking about. WHAT! Smh.

    I was like "um yeah as a self-employed person, you cover the portion your employer would normally cover, and its half." Does no one know this?? If you're filing taxes, how do you not know this? I guess there must be a lot of girls who don't get 1099s and then don't file taxes.

    So no, I don't miss paying that extra tax from on the books 1099 income.

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    Quote Originally Posted by red.velvet View Post
    I just had a conversation with a current stripper (I'm an ex-stripper) that doesn't know I escort, and she asked me "why don't you dance again? don't you miss the ability to write things off? it saves so much money!"

    Then I brought up how self-employed people have to pay their own share of their self-employment tax that the employer would be paying instead, and she didn't know what I was talking about. WHAT! Smh.

    I was like "um yeah as a self-employed person, you cover the portion your employer would normally cover, and its half." Does no one know this?? If you're filing taxes, how do you not know this? I guess there must be a lot of girls who don't get 1099s and then don't file taxes.

    So no, I don't miss paying that extra tax from on the books 1099 income.
    A lot of girls also don't understand that when they write things off, they aren't billing that money to the IRS. It's still your money that you're paying out - you just aren't paying taxes on that money. Which is a relatively small amount in 'savings' - not truly savings, just money not spent. It's like when stores run a "sale." The only way you save money is if you don't spend it. If you buy something on sale, you're still using your money, you're just not spending quite as much as you would have if you purchased it at full price.

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    Agreed! My dancing spanned 6-7 years and I swear it was worse even just at the end 5-6 years later than when I started but I wasn't even sure ! I thought it was maybe just me or I'd lost my patience.
    Quote Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital View Post
    I miss....

    I don't miss....
    The ever-increasing amount of gropey, extras-seeking guys
    The nights when I would hustle my butt off and still go home owing my house fee
    Having to work in a smoke-filled environment 8 hours a night

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    Agreed! My dancing spanned 6-7 years and I swear it was worse even just at the end 5-6 years later than when I started but I wasn't even sure ! I thought it was maybe just me or I'd lost my patience.
    Yeah when I went back I was like WHAT IN THE FUCK because customers didn't seem to bat an eyelash about not only asking for extra, but flat out expecting them in the cost of a dance.

    Then the girls, well they didn't bat an eyelash about doing extras, I just hope they were charging more than the cost of a dance/room but I have no way of knowing what they charged. Judging by customer's automatic expectation of extras in the normal price of a dance, I don't think girls were charging more than the set room price.

    Its weird because when I start dancing, dancers always talked about how good 90s money was. Now I totally understand what they meant. Only its even worse. Most girls are okay with averaging minimum wage because stripping is now seen as cool and edgy, and its still more flexible than a normal minimum wage job. Smh.

    I can only imaging escorting will end up the same way in 5-10 years once it becomes cool and edgy too, like it already has started to become. "Why make a tinder account when I can escort and get PAID $100 for casual sex!" Its on its way. Thanks sugardaddy sites.

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    I had to stop dancing for health reasons about 5 years ago. I tired Camming, but it wasn't the same. I miss the energy, the one on one with the clients, even other girls. I joked to my boyfriend once, "What other job can you get dolled up, put on a bikini and glitter and get paid?" I'm planning on coming back to dancing this summer. I need to loose some weight and since summertime most the girls leave the area I'll have a better chance of getting hired (there's only 1 club in this town, *sigh*). It'll be slow due to the season, but I'm ok with that.

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    So I think when I quit for good I will miss it. I took a month off recently and was not so excited to go back, but when I did I was just in a way better mood and banked. I definitely miss the money whenever I take more than 2-3 weeks off from work.

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    NO ONE should be a dancer for minimum wage, that is absolutely insane. If this was the case for me I think I would rather work at dunkin donuts and not spend obscene amounts of money on make up, hair products, and dancer clothes.

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    I do miss dancing in clubs, but not the backstabbing that went on. I do 4-6 bachelor's parties a month so I still dance, and sort of do escorting since I offer full service bachelor's parties.

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    After a month of official retirement and vanilla work, I don't miss the job. I agree with others, I miss the cash in hand every night, giving me the ability to do things whenever I want instead of waiting for a paycheck. I miss the rare nights that all I have to do is sit and talk to make a grand. I miss taking time off whenever I wanted and still making more than my vanilla working friends (I only worked 88 nights last year, and that was a lot more than I usually do). But I DO NOT miss the job.

    I enjoy going to bed early. Spending time with my BF. Not being exhausted when I'm with my kids. My liver is much happier too.

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    Yes, I totally miss stripping. I miss the stage, the faux glamour, the naughty factor, and the money potential. In my fantasies, though, I always forget about the gropey customers, the timewasters, the guys with bad breath, and the slow nights.

    I'd like to go back though. Now that I'm almost 30, I have a thicker skin and I finally know how to chat guys up. After my BA, my body is the slim hourglass I always wanted. I bet I would be more successful now than I was at 20. But I'm going into a sensitive profession soon, so I'm paranoid about fucking up my chances just for a few months of excitement and stripper money.

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    I miss it so much! I took time off to go to therapy and other personal things and ended up extremely depressed. I do plan on going back but also plan on camming really soon. I pretty much quit dancing as I was getting paid off Whats Your Price and did really well, the downside to that was all the food that made me gain weight, lol.I didn't know my metabolism turned to shit at the time!
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    Definitely - I stopped almost 3 years ago when I moved out of state for a "grown up job."

    As of a month ago, I'm back on the pole a few nights a week despite multiple promotions & career success in my "real job."

    There's something about this line of work that I can't leave behind....or at least WON'T until nobody wants so see what I'm shaking :-p

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora14 View Post
    After a month of official retirement and vanilla work, I don't miss the job. I agree with others, I miss the cash in hand every night, giving me the ability to do things whenever I want instead of waiting for a paycheck. I miss the rare nights that all I have to do is sit and talk to make a grand. I miss taking time off whenever I wanted and still making more than my vanilla working friends (I only worked 88 nights last year, and that was a lot more than I usually do). But I DO NOT miss the job.

    I enjoy going to bed early. Spending time with my BF. Not being exhausted when I'm with my kids. My liver is much happier too.
    Now I'm 2 months in, I've worked my way through a roller coaster of emotions because of quitting. Especially the day I got my first paycheck. I stared at it and cried when I got home. It was depressing to know I had worked 80
    hours (2 weeks of full time work) to make what I used to make in 2-4 days before. I was worried about the quality of life my kids were going to have now that I had to work 3 times as much to make what I made before. My bf had to intervene on my pity party and pointed out a few major differences in my jobs. My biggest injury was a bunch of paper cuts from filing and before I was constantly icing or heating my knees and calves from stage injuries over the years. Not one customer grabbed or talked inappropriately to me now. My overall health is improving. And my kids don't care how much money I have.

    That being said, I only miss the money. I will only ever miss the money. I don't have what it takes mentally or physically anymore.

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    YES. Well, I miss my old 'home' club. And even then I'm just remembering the good times lol. Overall I was not making tons of money and I was often sittin gin an empty club contemplating my life and moping around at 3am

    But hell yes I miss the stage, heels, getting to dress in your underwear or really slutty outfit, act slutty, drinking in a fun club with great staff and girls, dancing like sex on legs and holding all that cash when you're selling. I just want to perform pole again mainly, need to find an outlet somehow.

    I'll probably go work a weekend in my old club when I can afford for it to possibly not be very profitable haha...

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    So I am a waitress now, I would dance if not married, I make decent money and will do this for a while because I want to go back to school, I much prefer dancing, the waitress are way more bitchy and competive, I'm moving cities soon so hope I can get a good club there, I would probably work at a restaurant if I could make the same money because there is a lot of drama with the club staff and we stay so late, I make good money but I'm so tired we will see how it works out in new city.
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    I just realized recently that I miss stripping. I tried camming, and will continue to do it because I don't have many other options at the moment, but stripping was so much better. It was also better than the vanilla job I got a degree for and burned out from. I was more sick, stressed, and degraded from that job than I ever was when stripping.

    The only thing I don't like about stripping is that it led to me dating the worst guys. I just couldn't attract nice people. I wasted about 7 years in crap relationships thanks to dating people who "accepted" stripping as my job.

    Oh, and I guess I miss the injuries. I was constantly massaging myself and taking hot baths to feel normal. But sooo many jobs require you to be on your feet all day OR sit at your computer for hours at a time... so it's hard to say which is worse.

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    Nope!

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