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    So it has happened a few times over the last few months where a friend at the table tells me he's going to buy his friend dances and stupid friend says/decides he does not want to go. How do you ladies deal with this?! It's so frustrating because I try everything to convince this guy to go for his FREE dances and he still refuses. What gives?

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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    Walk away.

    Unless you can have his friend pre pay you and then you can just grab him and lead him to the lap dance area or something?

    I hate that but there is truly not a whole lot you can do when a guy is being like that and trying to persuade him is only going to burn you out/waste your time when there could be a better customer.

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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    Convince the spender for SOME, not the ungrateful cheap freeloader.
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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    i say "now dont be rude, are you really going to turn down a free dance with me??" i've alway had the friend pre-pay as well, so "no refunds, so you better come back with me! it'll be fun, i promise i dont bite" and just grab their hand and lead the way.
    ^ i also like the idea above

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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    Theres was another thread about this a few months ago... I wish i could remember the name or the user who said this but she gave some really great advice that ive actually tried and succeeded with multiple times.. She said she basically drops the stripper act and gets serious and says something to the effect of "dude not cool, youre friend is trying to give me money and you just told him not to" something like that... I promise you ive tried this a few times since reading that its worked every single time for me

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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...-Debbie-Downer

    It was that thread, Miss Red is the one who said that It does work.
    The other thing I do that usually works is the "Are you serious? He wants to pay for you to have a good time with a hot girl and you're turning it down? What the hell's wrong with you?" and getting the other guys to be like "Yeah dude! Wtf!"
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    Every now and then some a$$hat decides to be a mega cunt and reject a dance someone else paid for. Sorry but I'm not taking no for an answer. If he doesn't want a 'free' dance then I won't dance (we can just chat) but he IS going back to the dance area and I am getting that money. If he's is dead set on not going then I find someone else out the group, if there's a group of more than 2. But if it's just two people, him and the dude paying, I just pull him out his seat and encourage him to come along. Ninety seven percent of the time it works.
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    I make the guy pay me upfront that way he can't say no and even if he does, once the money is in my hand, it's MINE. Nobody is getting it back so you either come or I walk away with the money.BYE.

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    ^^^^bwahaha!
    “Cook for him like a housewife, fuck him good like a nympho….pay the rent and the car note, he invests in me like crypto”

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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    No refunds. I'll say something like, "Your friend just paid for my time for the next song. How ever you want to spend that time with me is up to you. I'm happy to just sit out here and talk, if that's what you prefer."

    (I think I get this request because I'm the oldest dancer at my club, and sometimes the young guys think it's funny to buy dances from someone their mom's age for a friend. They find it funny, I laugh all the way to the bank.)

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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    Lots of good suggestions here!

    I generally first try to be funny/sweet and say things like "Oh come on, nothing to be scared of! I wont bite, unless you want me to that is " and if that doesn't work I go onto saying things like "Hey, your friends doing something nice for you .. you don't to offend him do you?". If that's a no go, I'll generally make my move onto the friend with money and say something like "How bout you come with me, you're clearly the more fun friend!". Sometimes this shames the first guy into going or the friend will agree to go for a dance.

    I find often in these situations, the paying friend chooses a girl he likes, so chances are he thinks you're hot and is potentially interested in going for a dance with you. For this reason I wouldn't suggest being a bitch to the first guy cause it can make you look bad and often I've had luck in getting a dance with the paying guy after going with his friend.

    Most clubs I've worked also have horseshoe style tables where you climb up on the table and can do group dances on the floor. Sometimes in these situations I would suggest a table dance if the guy seems like he's super shy. I generally charge 10-20 bucks per guy in these situations but it depends on the number and how slow the night is.

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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    I make the guy pay me upfront that way he can't say no and even if he does, once the money is in my hand, it's MINE. Nobody is getting it back so you either come or I walk away with the money.BYE.
    Yep!
    "Well I've got the money so somebody's getting a dance"
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    I HATE it when I get a group of guys and one of them is paying for his asshole, f*ggot friend who clearly does not want to be there (for whatever reason) and acts disrespectful because he is not the one paying for it. I'm all for getting the money upfront so that they cant fuck you over. Once it is in your hands, you have nothing to worry about. If the freeloading bastard doesnt want to dance, just dance for one of his other friends or for the one paying.
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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    I make the guy pay me upfront that way he can't say no and even if he does, once the money is in my hand, it's MINE. Nobody is getting it back so you either come or I walk away with the money.BYE.
    yup i do this
    one time the guy paid me and his friend didn't want to go so i was sick of bullshit so i just walked away (with the money)
    he came after me and was like "well can i have my money back"
    lmao no! i ended up dancing for the guy who paid in the end

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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    There are no refunds in the strip club. Better luck next time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    There are no refunds in the strip club. Better luck next time.
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    Default Re: Guy refusing to go for dances that his friend is buying

    make the friend prepay for sure! If they still resist I will say "ok well just come with me i want to tell you a secret" lead them away from the friend and we either talk through the song or i can convince the guy to accept the lapdance now that he is out of view from his friends, sometimes the guy is just embarrassed to be getting a lapdance because he feels he is above it and does not want his friends to watch. afterwards i like to say "now that was fun now wasnt it" and try to co-erce them into buying dances of their own and if not I thank them for "supporting the arts" at the end so they feel less pervy lol this type of customer usually does not want to be lumped into the "creepy strip club guy" category by accepting a lap dance and that is why they refuse. Also if he is refusing because the guy is married I will take him off to "talk" and then i like to say "dont worry im not wearing any glitter or as i like to call it "divorce dust".. no one will ever know... no one can see us now..." etc

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