I moved to London from LA almost 2 years ago now and since I've gotten here I've found a great boyfriend and a great job... but I really haven't managed to make many friends of my own in this time. I have a couple friends I met dancing that I see pretty infrequently and I've become good friends with some of my boyfriend's friends/friend's girlfriends, but with the new year I feel like I really need to focus on making my own social network. Having my boyfriend, being so busy at work since I got here has sort of allowed me to avoid really making an effort to meet people, which is really not one of my strengths anyway.
I'm not a very outgoing person; I get anxious around people I don't know and and can get pretty shy. Going to a bar by myself and not knowing anyone, I can't think of a more uncomfortable situation for me. How I made so much money as a sex worker for so long with my natural personality I don't know. All of the friends that I had before I moved here were people I met at university or high school-- I lived in the same city my whole life before moving here so most of my friends at home I've known for a long time. I work in a really small office and am definitely friendly with the girls I work with, but I want to make some friends that are not work friends since that comes with a whole set of problems, and there's not a ton of people there to meet and hang out with. If I had come here for university or ended up working at a big office or lived with a bunch of people my age (I had flatmates when I first moved here but really didn't get on with them and was working so much I was barely ever home) it would probably be a lot easier. London particularly I feel is not the friendliest place--all of my boyfriend's friends are from university or high school, he even rarely goes out with new people, and being such big city it's not like you're always running into the same people or everyone hangs out at the same bar. So I feel like I don't even know how to go about meeting new people? Has anyone else moved to a big city where they basically knew no one and managed to find a good set of friends?




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But yeah, I know someone who just moved here that does a lot of stuff on meetup (I can't stand her tho so not the greatest endorsement)-- I looked through their website and found a few things that sounded interesting so I think I'll give them a shot next month. Some of the events seemed huge and I don't really want to go to something with like 100 people since I know I'll just get anxious and end up leaving, so I'm trying to find some smaller events (some of the expats ones have like 400+ people going). I'm a nerd so yeah Selina I signed up for a book reading club which makes me feel about sixty years old!



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