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    Hi all, I've been considering camming for a while in order to save money to go back to school; I'm currently in a job (and a career) that I hate, and I think that I need to make some serious changes. That being said, school obviously costs money, and even if I got an assistantship or a fellowship (graduate school), I'd still be broke as a joke. The problem is that I, like many potential cam models, would like to keep camming a secret. Stripping is out of the question right now; I live in the sticks and there are very few people with deep pockets in the nearest city, which is over an hour away and has a population of less than 100,000.

    Anyways, my question is this: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you decide to accept the risk and say "**** it, I'm doing this." I feel like I'm nearing that point; something has to change in my life. Thanks all, hope you had a great holiday .

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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    Well, I don't think you ever truly get over the risk of being recognized IRL no matter what facet of the sex industry you work in. When I cammed I took some effort to conceal my identity by altering my appearance and also utilized Streamate's selective blocking by state. I blocked my home state and the surrounding states. Once I exited the industry my look changed completely within about 2 years. Now I am pretty much not recognizable as the person I was when I danced or cammed. I've even added some girls I danced with on Facebook and they didn't recognize me at first!

    Use the state blocking feature if it's available. Also, consider using tasteful wigs, make up, changing or adding glasses to alter your look IRL.

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    Not giving a shit.


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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    ^ this.

    Also, being trans I'm pretty much doomed one way or another so why not use this chance to make money, improve myself and have the means to forge a career with the money I'm making camming? It's also a pretty nice way to learn about entrepreneurship and business.
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    Being in the same industry as Karina, Laurisa, & Marina!!!


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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    I was a member of the kink/BDSM community for about 8 years before I started camming. When I first started attending kink parties I tried very hard to keep that part of my life secret from everyone. Then one day I just said fuck it. This is who I am and I don't care who knows. I didn't rub it in their faces. I still don't run around waving my freak flag but my entire family and all my friends KNOW I'm a freak. I figure if they find out I do porn it won't come as much of a shock to them because they have already gotten over the shock of the fact that I enjoy being tied up and beaten.
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    Honestly, when I realized how much money I could be making! I did MONTHS of research before even signing up to any camsites. I think it's important to know exactly what you are getting yourself into because the internet is foreverrrrrr.

    Also, when I started camming I was stuck in a career I didn't love, so it didn't really bother me to know I could be 'outed'. However, life is funny, and this year I landed my dream career and now I do worry a bit about being outed (I work for a charitable org, so the implications would be real) but that being said, I love camming so much that I always think if the worse case scenario of being outed and losing my job happens then I would be totally fine. I'd be happy doing camming til I retire! I actually miss going it full-time!!!

    You just have to weigh the pros and cons of what is important to you.

    Oh, and on my 3rd night camming someone DID out me (they typed my full name in free chat - the asshole) and I never did find out who it was, but that was 2 years ago and no negative implications.

    So yeah, it's a highly personal choice/risk. If you have serious hesitations, just don't do it. Someone will find you whether you know about it or not.

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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    For me, it was more about the benefits of doing this job outweighing the risk. Nobody wants to be outed but that risk is always there. Even if you're open about what you do with friends and family, there's always the risk of your customers and fans finding out your personal info and putting you at physical risk. If there was no risk, everyone would be doing it.

    If for you, the benefits of being your own boss and making money doing what you love (if this is what you love) outweighs that risk, then this is what you should be doing. If it doesn't, then try something less risky.

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    What made I accept the risk? When I want better and bills don't just pay themselves but I've never been afraid. You only get ONE life to live so might as well do you! Just think Burger King and 'Have it your way'. #proudsexworkersunited zerofucksgiven #haveityourway
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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    Because even if I get outted and banned from jobs and shit hits the fan, I can still cam and make $100k per year with 40 hours per week. Invest and save accordingly and I could retire before 35. In the face of that reality, what risk? I risk more to my fucking sanity working a damned desk job



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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    Because all the jobs currently open to me are a freakin' joke. Minimum wage doesn't pay the bills. I do have a part time vanilla job (it's still work at home, so I can text on the side hah!) just to fill in the gaps between camming, but I'm not worried about anyone finding out. My partner knows, along with some friends, and they're all cool with it.

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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    If you had grown up in the household I did, the thought of living with your parents again for any reason would be enough to make you take whichever leap of faith was necessary to pay your bills.


    Waitressing pt wasn't going to pay the bills, my area at the time sucked for stripping, and working 40hrs a week at a job I despise with people I can't tell to fuck off doesn't really tickle my fancy. I too live in a small area (100k sounds huge compared to my town) & I honestly don't give a crap what the towns people think. they don't pay my bills, geoblock works decently, and I keep to myself.

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    You mean we could get found out?!?!?!!? **GULP**

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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    The benefits outweigh the negatives. My biggest fear would be my son finding out and being embarrassed, but we are also kind of a hippy family so I bet he would be able to be non-judgemental if he found out. It's all legal anyway, just a grey area morality wise, and personally I don't really care if people don't approve of my choices.

    For me this job is too perfect to pass up. I had to leave a pretty successful career due to a disability and other freelance at-home work does not tend to pay well. Besides my health issues, I find that my crazy sex drive can also be a detriment to my productivity while working at home. So if I'm going to get off a bunch of times per day, I might as well get paid for it! And I get some playmates, which is justifiable to my husband since I'm getting paid for it all and takes some of the burden off him since I'm the higher drive spouse. We cam together as well so if anyone finds out about it, it can easily be explained as "this is just our kink, ok?" Which is true; oddly, camming together has really opened up new possibilities in our sex life. If you don't feel bad or guilty about what you are doing, it takes any power away from those who might find out and have something negative to say. As women we have had to deal with strange cultural ideas about our sexuality which I think can make some girls feel ashamed. Nothing to be ashamed of if you ask me! It's fun, it pays the bills, and we're not hurting anyone.

    I took about ten years off from camming. When I did it in the past, I was very careless about hiding my identity. Some people I knew, like people from high school, found out. Some became customers. It wasn't really that weird, people were pretty understanding actually. I haven't found that it has followed me around at all except in my dating life I've felt the need to disclose my past in the adult industry. In my experience people have been pretty nice about it. My parents found out, but they moved on quickly. Really life is too short to worry about what other people think. I DO think that some cam models really cross the lines of what is legal and what isn't, and that's another subject. For example, I don't sell panties because I believe it is technically illegal and I don't want to be found out that way. My only real concerns about being outed would be legal implications but I've been really careful to do everything above the board.

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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    yes, benefits outweighing the negatives. I realised that id rather get caught naked online than cry on the bus home every day because of my vile bully of a boss

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    Better life for me and my kids .. we were living off of 18 grand a year!.. so yea! .. I don't think I should be deprived and live a life of poverty so IDGAF!

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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    I'm 30 years old have no education beyond high school. I make between 1k -1,500 a week and I don't even have to leave my house, let alone put on pants. This is as I see it the best option for me currently and anyone who has a problem with it can either pay my bills or STFU and deal with it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    That being said, like 4 people total know what I do and I'm really hoping it stays that way.

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    Default Re: for those of you who were afraid of being found out, what made you accept the ris

    For me, it was making sure I could make high amounts of money quick, rather than sit in a boring low wage desk job, plus I'm extremely lazy, and it's helping alongside studying!

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    Money and freedom are the 2 main reasons. I'm not too afraid to ruin my reputation with future employer because I live in a very big city...

    Most importantly, you only got 1 life, so do whatever the heck you want!

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    The fear is one reason I backed out last time....But I realized I'm 30 years old now, and one thing I know for sure is that I hate working for other people...I will most likely always be self employed or if I am ever 'employed' again I would only work in a liberal minded workplace. There are so many ways to make living without a "boss" and a shitty "job" though, I'm not even worried about it. I've been able to support myself without a classic J.O.B since I was 25...It'll be fine. I'm slightly worried about certain family members finding out but you know what? They don't pay my fucking bills. If they don't like it, they don't have to talk to me.

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    You Ladies all Rock! Great thread.


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    Are you sure about Marina? The bitch always humble bragged and annoying as fuck with her gifs.

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    Aww, you're the Best ^


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    Not giving a fuck? Caring about other people's opinions is too expensive. My bank account doesn't judge!

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    Realizing that other people's judgments don't pay my bills.

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