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    I usually have decent experiences ITC in terms of being approached, but the reason I'm asking is that I recently had an OTC experience that rubbed me the wrong way. An escort who caters only to, "upscale" men was using dating sites to meet them. She found my profile and sent me a message, not telling me she was an escort, but acting as if she was a local single girl interested in getting to know me. I took her on a date, and afterward she told me what the real deal was, and explained what was on the menu.

    The whole thing left a bad taste in my mouth because she wasn't upfront with me about what was going on, but of course we don't have those issues ITC, because it's obvious that if a guy is ITC, he's there as a customer and expects to get approached by girls looking to sell dances, etc. But this whole incident got me to wondering why this escort selected me to try and prime to be her customer. I imagine she was looking for guys who seemed like they might have money, based on their job or whatever, but there had to be other factors as well. I guess what I'm trying to figure out is whether I should feel like I have a big "sucker" tattoo on my forehead, or if there are certain things that might have suggested to her that I'd be willing to be a paying customer.

    Again, just to clarify, my beef with this girl was that I feel like she tried to trick me and wasn't honest with me upfront about what was going on. I have no issues when girls ITC approach and try to sell me dances or whatever, and in fact I expect it and welcome it, because ITC it's obvious that I'm there as a customer and the girls are there trying to make money.

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    Default Re: Ladies, how you do choose which men to approach?

    well remove the imaginary sucker sign from your forehead..................just kidding. you're probably reading into it too far. I could see how you'd be disappointed considering she was not upfront as you say and you only find out she's an escort after you meet her on the first date. Just chalk it up to one bad experience and move on. Its not like you paid her or anything so you didn't lose any money. Sh*t happens in the dating world - not every date is roses and rainbows.
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    Default Re: Ladies, how you do choose which men to approach?

    Id take it as a compliment.

    Means you come across as clean, pleasant, sane and financially secure.

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    Default Re: Ladies, how you do choose which men to approach?

    I'm guessing that you didn't meet this girl on eHarmony or even match.com.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    I'm guessing that you didn't meet this girl on eHarmony or even match.com.
    LOL. Good guess.

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    LOL. Good guess.
    Must have been either christianmingle or catholicmatch?
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    Default Re: Ladies, how you do choose which men to approach?

    Quote Originally Posted by KeithDoxen View Post
    I usually have decent experiences ITC in terms of being approached, but the reason I'm asking is that I recently had an OTC experience that rubbed me the wrong way. An escort who caters only to, "upscale" men was using dating sites to meet them. She found my profile and sent me a message, not telling me she was an escort, but acting as if she was a local single girl interested in getting to know me. I took her on a date, and afterward she told me what the real deal was, and explained what was on the menu.

    The whole thing left a bad taste in my mouth because she wasn't upfront with me about what was going on, but of course we don't have those issues ITC, because it's obvious that if a guy is ITC, he's there as a customer and expects to get approached by girls looking to sell dances, etc. But this whole incident got me to wondering why this escort selected me to try and prime to be her customer. I imagine she was looking for guys who seemed like they might have money, based on their job or whatever, but there had to be other factors as well. I guess what I'm trying to figure out is whether I should feel like I have a big "sucker" tattoo on my forehead, or if there are certain things that might have suggested to her that I'd be willing to be a paying customer.

    Again, just to clarify, my beef with this girl was that I feel like she tried to trick me and wasn't honest with me upfront about what was going on. I have no issues when girls ITC approach and try to sell me dances or whatever, and in fact I expect it and welcome it, because ITC it's obvious that I'm there as a customer and the girls are there trying to make money.
    From what I found out and understand from other forms is only IMHO

    Some escorts use dating sites to build up their clientele. They look for markers about their money and sustainability. After doing some research the escorts find out a little bit more about the person and approach them. They do this to build up a steady list of clientele so they don't have to meet so many random gentlemen and it also makes them feel safer. IMHO I believe the lady that chose you might have thought you weren't looking for a normal relationship and could make money once a week with you. A lot of escorts do this so that they can have more of an upscale clientele list. This makes them a very high in demand escort but lower clientele provider. The perks of doing it this way for them is they can pick and choose which clients they would like to keep and which ones to pass on. If she told you what she does and offered you a menu to her that was a sales pitch. If you connected and accepted her offer you would've become her steady clientele otherwise known as an ATM. I too am on dating sites and on the about me I always started adding"I am not a personalized ATM for anyone but myself" if that is what you're looking for move on.

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    Default Re: Ladies, how you do choose which men to approach?

    I didn't used to be on dating sites but I still got requests to connect. Unfortunately they were either " My name is Natalya and I would be glad for to meet you" or " I do not come to you by chance (cue 419 pitch)...."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Goom View Post
    From what I found out and understand from other forms is only IMHO

    Some escorts use dating sites to build up their clientele. They look for markers about their money and sustainability. After doing some research the escorts find out a little bit more about the person and approach them. They do this to build up a steady list of clientele so they don't have to meet so many random gentlemen and it also makes them feel safer. IMHO I believe the lady that chose you might have thought you weren't looking for a normal relationship and could make money once a week with you. A lot of escorts do this so that they can have more of an upscale clientele list. This makes them a very high in demand escort but lower clientele provider. The perks of doing it this way for them is they can pick and choose which clients they would like to keep and which ones to pass on. If she told you what she does and offered you a menu to her that was a sales pitch. If you connected and accepted her offer you would've become her steady clientele otherwise known as an ATM. I too am on dating sites and on the about me I always started adding"I am not a personalized ATM for anyone but myself" if that is what you're looking for move on.
    Thanks. This explains really well what was going on. I guess from her perspective, it makes sense to try and build a client base this way. Nine times out of ten, the guy is probably going to be let down that the date turns out to be more of a business call, so to speak, but maybe I fit the profile of the kind of guy that often decides to become one of her clients.

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    Well, are we talking about a true "dating" site or more of a hookup site? For example, if you are on adultfriendfinder, by way of one example, then you really should not be shocked to meet a lot of girls offering p4p.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Goom View Post
    From what I found out and understand from other forms is only IMHO

    Some escorts use dating sites to build up their clientele. They look for markers about their money and sustainability. After doing some research the escorts find out a little bit more about the person and approach them. They do this to build up a steady list of clientele so they don't have to meet so many random gentlemen and it also makes them feel safer. IMHO I believe the lady that chose you might have thought you weren't looking for a normal relationship and could make money once a week with you. A lot of escorts do this so that they can have more of an upscale clientele list. This makes them a very high in demand escort but lower clientele provider. The perks of doing it this way for them is they can pick and choose which clients they would like to keep and which ones to pass on. If she told you what she does and offered you a menu to her that was a sales pitch. If you connected and accepted her offer you would've become her steady clientele otherwise known as an ATM. I too am on dating sites and on the about me I always started adding"I am not a personalized ATM for anyone but myself" if that is what you're looking for move on.
    What??? The average escort is not using clients as ATM. They are providing time and service and should get compensated financially for that.

    I don't think you know how escorting works from a woman's perspective. What savvy escort would advertise on a vanilla dating site? That's not their target market. I'm not saying it doesn't happen but it seems like it would be a waste of time for a smart escort to advertise there. Maybe on hookup sites like rickdugan mention or sugar daddy sites.

    Plus OP how many times has this happened to you?

    I don't think you had sucker sign on your forehead but simply she was looking for upscale person and your profile looked "upscale". Why can't you just add something to your profile that says you are interested in romantic relationships/committed relationship/monogamy or something that excludes casual (paid) hookups if that's what's you prefer.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    Well, are we talking about a true "dating" site or more of a hookup site? For example, if you are on adultfriendfinder, by way of one example, then you really should not be shocked to meet a lot of girls offering p4p.
    Tinder.

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    Default Re: Ladies, how you do choose which men to approach?

    She did try to trick you. She knew what her intention was all along, and purposely mislead you into thinking that the date was mutual. She wasted not only your time, but hers as well.

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