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    Default So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    Ok, so I used to work in the food industry before camming and one of my old coworkers found me on one of the sites I work on. We were kind of cool when we did work together. But we never flirted or even shown interest in each other at all.
    Anyways, so he came in my room, demonstrated how he knew me and after the one 5 minute private we had, he feels like he can "get comfortable" with me. Like every time I come online, I know he gets the notification cause he's usually the first to pop into my room and he'll text me "WYD?" Like he's new to this shit.
    He started coming in my room more often, NOT TIPPING or taking me PVT, he's texting me more now, flirting and telling me shit like "I knew I should have went after you" and "You should come get this dick" and I'm thinking "Oh lord, he's one of THOSE guys I cannot stand dealing with." What would you do if y'all were me? Would y'all block him like any other annoying customer? Or what would you say to him when he keeps popping in your room and just being kind of a nuisance?

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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    if he's not paying and only a nuisance then he serves you no purpose.

    block him and keep it moving .

    he will only continue with that behavior


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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    I'd block him before it gets worst. He's under the impression that he's doing you a favor by giving you the time of the day and offering 'you should come get this dick'.
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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    Definitely block him, ain't no point to having him around. He'll just get more annoying, not less.

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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    In theory, I'd block any customer who got to be too annoying. Real life acquaintances are trickier though. The dude is another one of those idiots delusional enough to think sex worker = horny for cock all the time particularly his, but he has the added benefit of having your phone number, real name, location, possibly your home address, etc. Just blocking him could either a) get the message across (unlikely), b) end in harassing texts/phone calls/stalking, or c) end in both the second option and online harassment that could potentially include publicly leaking your personal info.

    Two very important things here. Do not be delicate. Do not allow him to think he has any power over you. As soon as either of those two things happen, you've lost control of the situation and that is not a good place to be when the guy could potentially fuck you over in a big way.

    Text him and flat out say 'dude, I am not, have never been, and shall never be interested in you or your penis. I'm not interested in being friends. I'm not interested in dating. I'm not interested in fucking. I'm not interested in you. This is my job that I do to make money. I am not ashamed or embarrassed and I am certainly not here to find a fucktoy boyfriend or whatever the fuck else insanity you have stuck in that fantasy-world head of yours. When it comes to work, if you come in my room, you come to spend money. If you don't spend money, you're loitering and I ban you. When it comes to real life, if you keep harassing me, I'm going to change my number, file a restraining order with the police, and let your boss know that you are harassing a former employee via contact information you got at work and are using inappropriately. This is the only warning I'm going to give you. Got it? Do not ever contact me again.'

    Some people will say don't be harsh to avoid retaliation. Fact is, if he's going to retaliate there's pretty much nothing you can do about it, harsh or not. Making sure he knows you can and will fuck him over if he even thinks about it will do. I'd also make sure you hand block him on any social media you may have and privatize your shit. Friends list, searches, add requests, profile--everything. Don't give him any venues to out you in your personal life. He already has enough with your model name and sites you work.

    You've let this go on for far too long and you need to take your power back quickly and without apology. That he's been saying shit like that to you without a firm rebuttal and block already amazes me, but hey--I get it; hard to figure out what to even say in the face of that kind of bullshit. I've had a manager do the same to me when he found out about my camming and tried to blackmail me into telling him my model name/fucking him. You need to go for the throat on this one. Only way it stops when you're dealing with someone who clearly has no respect for you personally or professionally outside of being a vagina he thinks he has free access to.



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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    ^^^ exactly why anyone who mentions they know me in real life = instant ban.


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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    Oh, and if he does actually retaliate (let's hope he runs off with his 3 incher tucked between his legs though), I recommend the two pronged approach of attack in dealing with would be outers:

    1) Denial
    2) Completely legal life fucking

    He outs you to your family/friends/someone else? Screenshot everything he said (that doesn't confirm if you're a cam girl or not) and post it up--tagging him in it for all his friends and family to see (hell, send it to his friends and family, if he goes that low) and add in a story that your recent 'stalker ex-coworker' wouldn't take no for an answer (as the well chosen texts will show) and is now using a look-a-like porn chick to try to smear your reputation (not that far-fetched if how crazy he's acting in texts is included). If you're already out, well, you can skip the cover story and just humiliate him. That public post attached to his name is on the internet forever too. See how far up it ends on Google Search results for fun later when he tries to get a job somewhere else that isn't the food industry.

    Go to your former boss (assuming he still works there) with all of this information and inform your boss that because this individual is harassing you via contact information he is inappropriately using and that he acquired at work, the owner needs to address the issue. Note that it could be a sign of other harassment to other workers, which could a) result in a lawsuit or L&I complaint the boss is liable for or b) could result in him harassing a patron. Boss still isn't moving? Remind him/her that because this dude acquired the information from the work place, the boss is on the hook for not protecting you. Technically, it's a legal gray area, but it's a fun threat to take to L&I anyway. Light a fire under the ass of a person with power over this creep. Again, you can deny that you work on a porn site if you want, but it won't matter since it's a legal job. I'd still deny at all costs if things do get messy (the less who know the truth, the better), but shit happens.

    Follow up by going through on getting that restraining order from the police--this is legitimately for your protection, but it also goes on the guy's criminal record anytime someone looks him up. Yeah, restraining orders show up. Fun, right? Change your number and keep safe, but also pay back.

    And remember--never feel bad for going after someone who retaliates against you. They came after you first thinking you'd be too afraid/ashamed/nice to do anything about it. Prove them wrong. More importantly, they're breaking the law, attempting to coerce you, harassing you, and so on, so they fucking earned it.

    My last boss didn't actively try to fix the situation their manager created with myself and several other waitresses, or address his follow up retaliation. The L&I complaints and (if rumors are true) pending lawsuit now against them and him should be an interesting form of pay back.

    Let us know how it goes.


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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    Oh I had a guy from high school who I was friends with and I made the mistake of telling him I was working on SM.. yea he carried things a lil to far .. always watching me always talking to me about me.. and then telling everyone on my facebook that I am a whore...lmao.. he got blocked!

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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    Block, Block, Block unfriend, block number, block! This could get very ugly. I'm not sure if you're 'out' yet but he has potential to out you and may or may not do so after you've blocked him. You are not obligated to keep anyone around that makes you uncomfortable and fucks up your work flow. #byefelipe. In my opinion, if someone knows you and takes you private, block them immediately and wait. If they know you forreal they'll approach you on social media or they won't. If not, oh well.

    A few years ago I had an acquaintance take me pvt on SM. He mentioned I looked like someone he knew, etc. I blocked him immediately. When he approached me on fb saying he thought he saw someone who looked sort of like me, and of course had always wanted to know what I looked like naked, etc. I denied it and he never brought it up again. Another guy on a dating site recognized me and sent me a message through the dating site. Blocked, blocked, blocked!

    You owe this guy nothing and he sounds like a creep. When former male friends start liking you all of a sudden and realize you're in the sex industry they treat you like a commodity. All of a sudden they wanna come over and fuck. No- block his ass and keep it moving, OP. Once he revealed himself and the money stopped he ruined your client/provider relationship and there's no point in carrying it on




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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    I also have a similar story...only he found me on Twitter and he was someone I graduated high school with. He never bothered me on cam (because he's too cheap to pay) but he would randomly tweet me pics of his dick or dirty messages (which I always ignored). I ended up blocking him on Twitter eventually. He messaged me on Facebook and asked why I blocked him and I told him it was too weird. I mean, he's sharing pictures of his wife and kids on Facebook and then sending me dirty things on Twitter when I've never even shown a tiny bit of interest in him. I hate when guys we actually know seem to think just because this is our job that we must be whores who will fuck anyone. Ummm no...gtfo with that shit loser.

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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    It sounds like he doesn't have close to enough Income Potential for some sugaring and he's wasting your time so I think you know what you need to do.

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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    Block his ass and don't return his texts. He is wrongly under the impression that he's got dibs on you cause he knows you. Fuck that! Get rid of him!


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    Default Re: So he knows me and took me private...but now he's getting too comfortable.

    Most of my friends know what I do and I have a feeling that some of them watch my shows and even spend money. However when they found out what I do and ask me if they can watch a show I told them flat out. I don't care if you watch/spend money as long as you don't fucking tell me who you are or that we know each other in real life. The INSTANT you start talking about how we know each other is the instant I ban your ass.

    I actually have an ex boyfriend who is a long time subscriber of my membership site but he's always been very courteous. He never e-mails me he never talks to me about it he just silently enjoys my photos and videos and I'm perfectly OK with that. If he started trying to text me about it or talk to me on facebook I would instantly have him removed from my membership site and block him in every way I could think of.

    There's another guy that I KNOW watches me because he will periodically message me on Fetlife to tell me I was cute tonight or whatever but he's smart enough to not out himself as knowing me in my chatroom so I have no idea who he is in my room.

    My reasoning for this is because I actually get really nervous in front of people I know. I tried letting my boyfriend watch and a few others one time and I just get too shy and nervous.
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