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    Default How to accept payments and keep privacy?

    So I wrote an ad on a financial domination site (my first), and I got over 30 replies. Half are bullshit but some men seem to really want to give me money for verbal humiliation, two are even begging me to take their money.

    How do I accept payments while staying anonymous? I don't want to reveal my home address, my real name or my banking information. Thanks for advice!

    (I'm not a cam girl, but this forum seems to fit best)

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    Well the ones who are begging you to take their money are getting off on doing just that. I would be shocked if you found *one* legitimate findom customer in that mix.

    There aren't any easy solutions to finding an adult friendly payment processor. The easiest and safest thing to do is to sign up with a site that will take care of it for you.

    If you're not going to be camming, how are you planning on interacting with these guys? Phone sex? Texting? There are sites for that (niteflirt is the only one I can personally recommend but there's lots of info on sexting etc if you search for it on this site).


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    If they want to give you money to be verbally humiliated, that's not findom, it's domination. Classic pay for play. Finsubs should give you money and expect NOTHING in return.

    I'm not saying you shouldn't let these guys tell you what to do, and if you're happy to do what they want that's great, but it's NOT findom.

    And yes, the fin-beggars get off on the fantasy of talking about giving money.

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    Thank you both for the great advice! As to Scarlett's questions, I'm not sure yet how I will interact I feel uncomfortable with showing myself (especially my face) on cam. But I know well how to be dominant and I can probably translate that into text messages or e-mail, because it's mostly about attitude and fueling imagination anyways. We'll see where that goes. CatBBW: I get your point, and you are probably right. Well, those were not asking for humiliation, but my ad was written in a humiliating way because I found that humiliation usually works well with submissives. But either way, if it's classic (online) domination and I can extract worthwhile amounts, that's also fine. Nobody expects NOTHING in return, even those who pretend that, get the feeling of being used which they crave, but I suppose few guys get that far. And I don't mind feeding their desire to be used and making it sting more. It's fun

    About the payment part: I know about Niteflirt, but I thought it was only for girls who talk on the phone (which I don't want to do at this point). Am I mistaken? I would love to use a site for it, but in any case I don't want it to look like a payment for a service (as a price per minute or price per message would). I want to write back and forth and demand money regularly. That may go through the site, but independent from interaction.

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    There's literally hundreds of sites that can act as your pay processor, all of which have a good record for keeping your privacy.

    LCMS (run by Loveshooks here), as well as ones we partner with - CammodelDirectory and SkyPrivate - work well for price/value.

    They also guarantee you won't suddenly lose your payment account or livelihood for using them for "high-risk" transactions.

    Some will help you recover or cover for bad customers and fraud/chargebacks expected in adult processing.

    Most also have a listing service that will help you get new clients.

    Your other option is to set up your own adult-oriented payment processor on your own website. Higher cut, but you are completely on your own for traffic and chasing down fraud/bad clients.

    Using an e-wallet (PayPal, Google Wallet, etc) for adult transactions is both a big privacy risk as well as a major financial risk, and against their rules whether implicitly or explicitly stated.

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    Default Re: How to accept payments and keep privacy?

    You could accept online gift cards. I know it may not be ideal but you could choose stores you're going to spend money at anyway.

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    I do it over email and use Circle as my main method of accepting payment. It's a Bitcoin side thing and super easy.
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    ^^^i second that...Bitcoin is easy, super anonymous, and all around amazing! I use coinbase

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    Quote Originally Posted by CatBBW View Post
    If they want to give you money to be verbally humiliated, that's not findom, it's domination. Classic pay for play. Finsubs should give you money and expect NOTHING in return.

    I'm not saying you shouldn't let these guys tell you what to do, and if you're happy to do what they want that's great, but it's NOT findom.

    And yes, the fin-beggars get off on the fantasy of talking about giving money.
    I have to agree. In my admittedly limited experience, the vast majority of "finsubs" are all talk because they're too broke to actually live out their fantasies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lucyspoon View Post
    I have to agree. In my admittedly limited experience, the vast majority of "finsubs" are all talk because they're too broke to actually live out their fantasies.
    There's also a lot of guys that know that playing as a finsub will get your attention and hold it longer. They have no idea what it is or how it works, they just know that cammodels like it for the "free money" and milk the attention. This includes most of the "blackmail me" jackasses, who have no intention of giving you anything real to work with, they just know that you'll pay attention more if they offer you something (even if its fake).

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