
Originally Posted by
Magical_Hoohah
I agree with everyone else. I dislike the idea that I owe a guy something because he voluntarily bought me something that he wanted me to have. It especially irks me when the guy brings it up as though he's entitled. Even if you don't have an explicit policy about what guys get, stuff like "spoil me and I'll spoil you back" or "I'll give you a very nice thank you" rub me the wrong way. I don't think it's a good idea to state or imply that you'll reciprocate the gift, because if you give a guy an inch, he'll try to milk it much more than you'd like (there's a joke about SPH wanking in there somewhere, lol).
On the other hand, I have regs that are incredibly sweet and very respectful of my time, and I legitimately want to spoil them back when they send me nice stuff. One of my favorite ways to do that is a BRIEF, clothed, free Skype to open the package together. I think it makes a good reg feel really special, because he knows what your time is worth, and he appreciates having a couple casual minutes with you. It's also really fun for a gifter to watch a giftee opening the present, so there's that, too. On my end, it doesn't really cost me anything, because I was going to open the package and admire the contents anyway. I think it's more fun to do it together, so I truly enjoy it. A quick Skype is easier for me than taking, editing, marking, and sending a pic, so it appeals to my laziness. The frosting on the cake is that sometimes the guy will get so excited that he'll want to do a show asap.
This scenario can be risky, so don't do it with a guy unless he's proven himself worthy of that kind of thank you treat. I would never do this with someone that had EVER tried to haggle my rates, asked for freebies, disrespected my time, or so much as hinted at getting something in return for the gift. I also would only do it with someone that I honestly enjoy. If I ever screw up and do this with a guy that thinks that opening the present includes free playtime, I plan to let him know that I need to hang up and get rid of the box, clean the new toy, etc., but if he can hold on 10 minutes, we can set up a show.
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