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    Default Advice on what to do with regs that keep trying to 'chit-chat' during show bookings

    If he was a freeloader then I'd just ignore him completely and move on, but he is a regular.

    I have already expressed to him before on several occasions through email where we do our bookings that I don't chit-chat.

    Should I just completely ignore any attempt and pretend it didn't happen, should I keep enforcing the boundary by reminding him again or should I coincide that a small amount of chit-chat is 'just the price of doing business'?

    I am leaning towards just completely ignoring him but since I know you are all way smarter then me I figured it was best to ask your advice on how you handle this situation when it happens to you.

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    Default Re: Advice on what to do with regs that keep trying to 'chit-chat' during show bookin

    Is he chatting in text in your chatroom or in emails?

    I've found that taking a loooonnng time to respond helps get the point across without totally alienating them, and conserves my mental energy. Space replies out maybe ten times the time you are taking now.


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    Default Re: Advice on what to do with regs that keep trying to 'chit-chat' during show bookin

    Quote Originally Posted by laurielegs View Post
    Is he chatting in text in your chatroom or in emails?

    I've found that taking a loooonnng time to respond helps get the point across without totally alienating them, and conserves my mental energy. Space replies out maybe ten times the time you are taking now.
    Just in emails....I think that is why I am partially having trouble with it.

    That is really a great idea that I should reply, but to space out the time I reply. <3

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    Default Re: Advice on what to do with regs that keep trying to 'chit-chat' during show bookin

    How much of your income does he bring in? I will chit chat for days with my high spenders because that is what they pay for...if however a guy accounts for less than a certain % of my income on a certain egg, I won't chit chat.

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    Default Re: Advice on what to do with regs that keep trying to 'chit-chat' during show bookin

    When I'm doing a booking with a reg, there are 3 pieces of info that I need from him: 1) does he want a show today (sometimes they're just saying hi), 2) what kind of show, and 3) how long. I usually start with very basic small talk like "Hi! How have you been?" Regardless of the answer, I give a quick, polite reply ("Glad to hear that! I'm doing well, thanks!"), and some sexy/cheeky version of "Want a show?"

    If his answer to #1 is some chatty nonsense that doesn't answer the question, I just assume that he wants a show, say something that amounts to smiling and nodding ("That's awesome/that sucks"), and move on to question #2. If that also goes unanswered, I do the verbal nod and smile and move on to #3. If I'm still getting nothing, I say something like, "I'd love to play with you, but I need to know what kind of fun we're having and how long we get to spend together. If you just want the usual, you can go ahead and book at [my payment link]."

    Then, like Laurie said, I just ignore him for 10-15 minutes (or until he sends me money). When his "time-out" is up, if he responded to me in any way (helpful or not), I tell him that I couldn't get back to him right away because someone else booked a show while he was chatting. Usually that's enough to whip him into shape, and he gives me the relevant info with minimal prompting. If it still doesn't work and he keeps wanting to chat, I just ignore him until he goes away, pays, or coughs up the info I requested. If I'm logging off and I've gotten a bunch of irrelevant messages from him, I say goodnight and make some comment about how I've been insanely busy all night and couldn't chat.

    I know that sounds like a lot of talking, but even if he's totally uncooperative, I've only interacted with him 7 times, most of which are standard lines I have saved in Phrase Express. Since you're using email, you could probably condense it and request all the info you need in the first email. I only do it one at a time because I'm using Skype, and I find that many guys can only handle one question at a time.
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    Default Re: Advice on what to do with regs that keep trying to 'chit-chat' during show bookin

    ^^ I agree. I always pretend Im way to busy to just chit chat. I never say directly Im not going to chit chat cause I dont want to kill their mood I just want them to know what a commodity I am. If he wants it he will figure out how to get your attention

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    Default Re: Advice on what to do with regs that keep trying to 'chit-chat' during show bookin

    Is he a regular soon to be bad? They all have an expiration date and you just know when it's time.

    I'm always friendly and pleasant but I do make it clear to spend or have a nice day elsewhere. I just ask 'what are you in the mood for today?!' 'I have other guests in here so can we take this private or exclusive so I can give you my full attention?'.

    I'll give it another few minutes for him to follow through before I kick him out but that's how I roll!
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    Default Re: Advice on what to do with regs that keep trying to 'chit-chat' during show bookin

    I do small talk with my best regulars but I do end up resenting the time I give them and then I resent them for taking advantage of my free time, I am also guilty of that and wish that I could stop that behavior. It ends up that the sexual stuff is for actual session and small talk is free outside of the session and that's BAD. It's a work in progress for me.
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    Default Re: Advice on what to do with regs that keep trying to 'chit-chat' during show bookin

    Quote Originally Posted by Magical_Hoohah View Post
    When I'm doing a booking with a reg, there are 3 pieces of info that I need from him: 1) does he want a show today (sometimes they're just saying hi), 2) what kind of show, and 3) how long. I usually start with very basic small talk like "Hi! How have you been?" Regardless of the answer, I give a quick, polite reply ("Glad to hear that! I'm doing well, thanks!"), and some sexy/cheeky version of "Want a show?"

    If his answer to #1 is some chatty nonsense that doesn't answer the question, I just assume that he wants a show, say something that amounts to smiling and nodding ("That's awesome/that sucks"), and move on to question #2. If that also goes unanswered, I do the verbal nod and smile and move on to #3. If I'm still getting nothing, I say something like, "I'd love to play with you, but I need to know what kind of fun we're having and how long we get to spend together. If you just want the usual, you can go ahead and book at [my payment link]."

    Then, like Laurie said, I just ignore him for 10-15 minutes (or until he sends me money). When his "time-out" is up, if he responded to me in any way (helpful or not), I tell him that I couldn't get back to him right away because someone else booked a show while he was chatting. Usually that's enough to whip him into shape, and he gives me the relevant info with minimal prompting. If it still doesn't work and he keeps wanting to chat, I just ignore him until he goes away, pays, or coughs up the info I requested. If I'm logging off and I've gotten a bunch of irrelevant messages from him, I say goodnight and make some comment about how I've been insanely busy all night and couldn't chat.

    I know that sounds like a lot of talking, but even if he's totally uncooperative, I've only interacted with him 7 times, most of which are standard lines I have saved in Phrase Express. Since you're using email, you could probably condense it and request all the info you need in the first email. I only do it one at a time because I'm using Skype, and I find that many guys can only handle one question at a time.
    I know that sounds like a lot of talking, but even if he's totally uncooperative,

    Actually it doesn't sound like a lot of talking at all, in fact it has been insanely helpful. Thank you. <3

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    Default Re: Advice on what to do with regs that keep trying to 'chit-chat' during show bookin

    Quote Originally Posted by hyori View Post
    I do small talk with my best regulars but I do end up resenting the time I give them and then I resent them for taking advantage of my free time, I am also guilty of that and wish that I could stop that behavior. It ends up that the sexual stuff is for actual session and small talk is free outside of the session and that's BAD. It's a work in progress for me.
    Thank you for letting me know I am not the only one who struggles with this problem. I've definitely found it hard to balance the sweet spot between enough small-talk to appear friendly and too much small-talk which only encourages 'freeloading' conversations.

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    There is only so much time in each day, time spent on endless emails that do not convert into a sale, no matter how nice he is, is stealing time away from real life, friendships and productivity.
    Would a car dealership test drive a car multiple times just because you bought a car there before? 2 times yes, but 10 times, nope they move onto the next sale but in a friendly way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by justanothercamgirl View Post
    Thank you for letting me know I am not the only one who struggles with this problem. I've definitely found it hard to balance the sweet spot between enough small-talk to appear friendly and too much small-talk which only encourages 'freeloading' conversations.
    It's not just you, I think everyone has that problem! Even with a script to follow, it's not hard to get off topic in an effort to be pleasant and polite.

    My approach is based off a brilliant post that PhatGirlDynomite made a couple years ago. I can't find it, but the gist of it was that you should know what actually *needs* to be discussed in order to set up a show, and always keep in mind that if you aren't answering one of those questions, the conversation has gone off course. Redirect as best you can, and if the dude won't follow your lead, take away his toy until he learns better.

    It's like telling your puppy to stop chewing on your shoes - he just gets attention from you while he continues to chew the shoe. Better to give the puppy a chew toy and hide all the shoes, so he has no choice but to do things the way you want.
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    If they are talking my ear off but may be interested in doing a show, after a few minutes I will tell them I have a show to do and I will be back. Once I am back after a few minutes, I will send a message saying "are you ready to have fun?" I am able to tell if they serious about doing a show after returning. If there is no show, I will tell them I have go and I will talk to them later.

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