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    Can anyone answer is there a way to dance without your boyfriend ever finding out ? I was thinking about dancing and I want to know are there ways of him not figuring out signs of what is going on and what i am doing for extra money on the side. For example when he calls what sould I tell him what Im doing for the moment and also are there ways that i can work around my sedual to spend time with him to where he does not think that i am not spending much time with him?

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    Default Re: Dancing without bf finding out??

    If you are in a long distance relationship, keeping your dancing secret should be easy. Just remember to hide all signs of your job before he comes for a visit.

    If you see him everyday, there is pretty much no way you'll be able to hide your job from him.

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    I have friends that have done this and it has never ended well. For instance, one friend told me that she hid it from her live-in BF but that he confessed that he knew all along, that was a happier story..
    If you live with him, it's going to be damn near impossible to hide. However, if you have a locker at work, make sure all your stripper things STAY THERE. Deposit your money at the end of your shift. If he sees a a pile of cash, he will know. You can tell him you're bartending or waitressing but then there's always a chance he will want to visit you at work. This is an emotionally taxing endeavor you're going on, are you sure it's worth it???

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    Gotta agree with arielbriel. Hiding dancing is difficult and I don't recommend it. Chances are that someone is going to find out about it and people talk. It's better to do with pride than hide it and give someone ammo to blackmail you with. Lying kinda feels shitty, anyway, doesn't it?

    If you think your man will leave you over dancing, you're going to have to make a choice--him, or dancing. On the other hand, he might be okay with it. Just make sure you're not living your life around his happiness/expectations, but your own instead.
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    Default Re: Dancing without bf finding out??

    I'd only recommend in the short term ( testing out dancing ). If it ends up being a good fit for you, hiding it from him will probably be way too much hassle .

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    If you can't be honest with him you either need to rethink your relationship or career choices. -_-
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    Ultimately it is your choice, but hiding it for an extended amount of time is virtually impossible.

    Before my fiancé and I started dating, I told him I was a bartender (we lived in different cities). One night, we were on FaceTime and he saw a suspicious bruise on my inner-upper arm that I got from the pole. That's when I told him I was a dancer. I got lucky that he still loves and respects me, but I regret not being honest with him from the beginning because I lost credibility. I totally understand wanting to keep it secret, but I wouldn't count on on hiding it for more than a couple of months.

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    would be hard to hide the longer you strip .... the more your inner stripper blends into your life ....

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    Why is it that you feel the need to hide it from him anyway? I was going to post exactly the same thing tempest did.
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    Default Re: Dancing without bf finding out??

    Well me and a friend out of town to LA to see how the clubs were there but we went to applied in person and I had applied online in advance both places were nice we went to Larry's and wild orchid... the clientele was ok at the wild but the girls were non welcoming except one..
    We liked both places but ad far as how the dancers was making money it seemed low as far as in stage money on the other hand she wants to try some clubs in Dallas as far as what I see from post from different clubs the girls make decent stage money even on a slow night. The thing that gets me is that the drive time to travel between the two destinations I just feel it's to much 90 miles there plus 90 back to where we live I'm not sure what to do maybe I should just not dance we have clubs in our area but they are not as nice and to ronchi and we want go outside of town to rather dance she rather not go to dallas because so much stuff happens but she wants to give it a try to see if we have a better chance to get hurried on somewhere because there are more variety of clubs to choose from besides the two

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    Just let natural selection sort them out.
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    Default Re: Dancing without bf finding out??

    Hahaha!!!!!

    to the OP, unfortunately it's not realistic to think you can hide dancing for a long period of time. I'd suggest either discussing dancing as an option before you start, or test it out for a night or two then discuss it. Either way, it's best for him to find out from you rather than someone else who sees you or for him to become suspicious and untrusting of you.

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    Default Re: Dancing without bf finding out??

    Just wanted to chime in here. I have no idea how it worked out so far with OP. I managed to hide my dancing from my (now) ex husband for 6 months. That was six months of stress, hell, throwing up, panicking and coming up with excuses.

    He got used to it after he found out.

    It's not worth the stress.

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