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    Has anyone had to do this and been outed as such? I wear very heavy make up and a wig so its very hard to say its me but it appears my nasty ex has somehow got a link to my pages (no one else in the world knows what I do) and it aiming to reveal all in court. He has not seem any of my children for years as he is so abusive but this is obviously not going to make me look very good. There are no video's he could produce only links to my pages?

    The only reason I started this in the first place was to provide for my children when they were asleep as I had no childcare but I guess a judge isn't going to see it that way...Any advice please. I could obviously deny its me but is that going to work?

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    Im going to assume you live in America but laws change so you need to look it all up, talk to a lawyer to be sure about everything. First of all do not lie in court. If you get proven to be a liar then your off to a horrible start. It is not illegal for you to be a cam girl and you make good money so your able to support your children. The children are the most important thing here! Do not worry about how it makes you look to be a cam girl. Remember its just a job!

    What a Judge wants to see is that your number one concern in life is your children. He wants to know that you put their needs above all others. If you say you are doing cam as a way to provide for your children then he will be satisfied. If he has concerns that the children are possibly being exposed then you tell him all the ways you keep it from your children. Such as only doing it when they are asleep from the hours of X to Y or if they are out of the home. That they have no access to your computer and it is password locked (if they are of age to access a computer) and that anything work related is kept in a locked box somewhere they can not easily access. And make sure that is True! So if it isnt true right now change it and make it true.

    I dont know all the details of why your going to court obviously, and I dont want to, but if your worried that a judge will take your children from you or take your rights from you because your doing cam then put those fears aside. It is not an Illegal job and you are allowed to have it. A judge only wants to see that your a concerned and caring parent. If your Ex throws that out there as a way to hurt you and you show how its been an asset, be prepared to tell him how much $ you make from it, then what the judge will see is a man whos first concern is to hurt the mother of his children and not a man who is concerned for his children. that will turn out badly for your ex!

    Judges are really smart and they are listening for what your not saying. If you good parent who wants what you believe is the best for your child a judge will hear that and will deem you fit even if he or she does not agree with something like sex work.

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    Thanks for that its actually the UK. Hes trying to say that I made up all the charges of violence against me and that I took the children away to protect them.

    Apparently my being a cam girl shows that I must be a good or professional liar. The kids are too young to have a clue all under school age i'm just worried that its going to make me look bad that is all. Its the only thing he has against me vs. huge piles of evidence from the law and social services but i'm just worried I've damaged what was an excellent case.

    The joke is he's gone to the trouble of somehow finding this out when he couldn't be bothered to send a Christmas present or a penny ever. Lets just hope the judge sees it for what it is.

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    Nothing runs men off like back child support cases. Take back your power, tell the judge how you had no choice or ability to hire a baby sitter due to NO MONEY, NO CHILD Support. He doesn't care about the kids, just about getting back control over you. He is using the children as a weapon & most judges will be able to see this for what it is.

    One of my friends baby daddy didn't want to pay back child support so he took her to court over being a porn star. He was a male stripper, the judge tore him apart. Said she wouldn't have to do porn if he had been paying all these years and he had no more leg to stand on.

    If you see cam girls as liars, untrust worthy and such, then so will the court. Camming is legal source of income, while I would NEVER admit to do in it in the house while the kids are there, but dont lie about it either.


    Are you a victim or a fighter?

    Lots of makeup? so what, wig still not enough. Did you change your voice, your favorite sayings, outfits & styles vastly different than what you wear in real life. What about the furniture, art work, bedding? Easily matched up from a screen cap to a picture of the same room on say a facebook page.

    Charges, convictions are determined by DAs and judges, so being a cam girl now doesn't VOID them in the eyes of the law and court system. How could it?

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    If your in the UK that is great news! Their system is even more geared towards keeping the kids with their mom then America!

    Put away your worry and concern you have done NOTHING to damage your case or even make his stronger. If anything having this outed in court will make you look like a better parent! Why? Because you have a job that allows you to be home 100% of the time with your children, playing and caring for them but still make the much needed money it takes to support them as a single mom. << if he brings it up in court that is your argument! Remember its not illegal, you dont have to feel ashamed and its not damaging to your children so you dont have to be scared of it being used against you. A Judge will know that!

    Finally if he is going to try and get custody or visitation and his case is what you say he will fail. As I said before the judge wants the children to be with a parent that is safe, caring and able to provide. So if he has been charged with being violent and his children have been taken from him because someone was concerned about their welfare around him then the only way a judge will allow him to have custody or visitation is if he is going to court to show how he has bettered himself and his life so he should deserve the right to have another chance with his kids. Read that again. Make sure its clear!

    If he is going into court to slander you and argue against old charges he will only make himself look like an ass because he is not telling the judge why he deserves a second chance. You have to see this from the judges angle. You go in and tell the judge that you do not want him around the children because you feel that its would put them in danger given his past history of violence then you are coming from a place of "in the childrens best interest". He argues that your a liar and stole his children its his word against yours and the judge sees that this is a man whos only knows to defend himself by fighting.

    Like I said Judges are Smart people. They see through the bullshit really fast so go in with you head high and let you ex talk away any right to his children he may have!

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    ^^^^^ Exactly, they see this type of person all the time. The bitter ex who is using the court system as revenge and to bring misery. Judges HATE being used as a tool to bring harm to the good parent & more importantly the children.

    Nor do they want the extra cost & burden foster system, social services to take over unless absolutely have to. He is using all this to scare you, to bully. Judges deal with this all the time are disgusted that people can't put the needs of the children before their hate of the ex.

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    Amen!

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    Thanks guys you have taken such a weight of me. I have no problem with it its got me out of a big hole it really has and its easy money in the day when my kids are in nursery or asleep in bed. I left without a penny just what I could carry in a borrowed car so you can see I've had to be a tough bitch to get this far and to get a home and everything that my kids need I was just scared the judge would agree with this rubbish where hes saying i'm this great actor as I play a role if that makes sense? He is still in my head somewhere even after how far I have come.

    I think its impossible to say that its definitely me he has no proof that it is and its bizarre as I've told no one. There are no pics of my house or anything on Facebook as we were relocated by the police to a different area and I have to be safe. I really don't know how he could possibly have done it? The voice is even part of the character its odd it really is.

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    Be strong baby! I know it's going to be hard to be put on trial against your abuser, but this is another way to beat him. You did the best thing you could ever do for your children, and that is to remove them from a toxic relationship. Make sure to always put your kids first, try talk as minimal about yourself. If he is taking you to court about the kids, then it should be about them.


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    Hire a really good lawyer. Like the best money can buy and one sympathetic to you and your situation and you won't have much to worry about.
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    If his reasoning for taking you to court is supposedly that you must be a good liar because you're a camgirl, then perhaps you should ask if he would be calling you a lair if you were a soap opera actress. Those actresses MUST be great liars to be able to act, right? It makes no sense.

    If your ex was the perfect man who had been trying to see the children & had been paying child support, you might have something to worry about. But since he hasn't paid anything, he obviously doesn't want to see the kids, and there's a record of abuse, I really don't think you should worry.

    The obstacle to overcome here is any possible shame or guilt you might feel. DON'T let him cause you to feel that way. Walk into court with your head held high, be proud of the fact that you got your children & yourself away from an abuser, and that you are providing for your children while keeping them safe, happy & healthy. If YOU believe you're a good mother, and if you don't act like you have something to be ashamed of, that should go a long way.

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