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    Hi, I recently signed up for some dancing time at this hole in the wall club in my city. Looking forward to it, but I'm about as new to this as you can get. So I have a very rookie question to ask.

    Customers, in general, can't touch the dancers. But I, the dancer, can touch him, right? From what I understand, yes and no. There's some stuff that not even I am allowed to do, lest I get booted from the lineup. I don't know what it is, I just hear that dancers can risk their jobs by doing what's not allowed. And I'm not really all that clear on what's allowed. So what's not allowed? Is there someone at my club I'm supposed to ask? Because I wasn't told when I signed on.

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    Just ask a manager to fully explain/demonstrate where to touch, how far away to stand etc. Its hard to say because all clubs have different rules and laws so only a manager at that certain location can tell you what they are for sure.

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    Where are you dancing ? City?
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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gia2608 View Post
    Where are you dancing ? City?

    I'm not sure what this means, does "city" mean like in the middle of a metropolitan area? As in, not on the outskirts?

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    Where are you located? What are the other girls allowing? Ask a manager.

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    Clubs in different areas have different rules. Hell, some clubs in the same area have different rules. As other girls have said, ask your manager. There is no universal rule for conduct that applies to all strip clubs.

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    ^Exactly. In some clubs "full contact" is allowed so yes, the customers can touch you (or will at least expect to touch you) and you get grabbed on all night. Other clubs are strictly "no contact" and some even have a rule that you must be x inches away from the customer and aren't allowed to touch each other at all ("air dances.")

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    Ask a manager ! If you end up having your boundaries be more on the " generous " end of the touch spectrum, make sure to CHARGE MORE than a standard dance.
    Make sure that YOU are comfy in all the transactions!

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    In addition to asking the manager, it's wise to look up your city's bylaws regarding adult entertainment and strip clubs. Some clubs/managers are more liberal than the law allows, and it's best to make an informed decision on what you're willing to do.

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    Ask a manager ! If you end up having your boundaries be more on the " generous " end of the touch spectrum, make sure to CHARGE MORE than a standard dance.
    Make sure that YOU are comfy in all the transactions!
    Can you do that? Can you set your own prices? Because the club I'm dancing at has the prices set at fixed rates. $100 for 15 minutes and so forth.

    Truthishly, I'm comfortable with it and don't need or even want to charge more. This is for me, I wanna know what I can get away with.

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    You can certainly ask for a tip ^

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    You can certainly ask for a tip ^
    I've heard of that. It's not club law, but if a customer REALLY wants to go a little further, a dancer will let him for a little extra under the table. If that's what you mean.

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    There's the official rules and then there's what actually happens in the clubs. It'll take you a little while to figure out how far you can go over the line. Generally, the dj is a good resource for this kind of information. Don't listen to the other dancers, they are not your friends. I've purposely mislead dancers I didn't like in hopes they would go away.

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    Default Re: Basic question I know: He can't do stuff to me, right? But what can I do to him?

    Quote Originally Posted by Brujaja View Post
    I'm not sure what this means, does "city" mean like in the middle of a metropolitan area? As in, not on the outskirts?

    Thanks Ariel, yes I meant what city are you dancing in? I was on SW from my phone and got lazy. Anyway, to elaborate the amount of contact can vary greatly from where you are dancing. I have danced in places where it was perfectly acceptable for customers to touch dancers anywhere not covered by a bikini, and places where you had to drag a wooden box if you performing a dance.

    Anyway, since it is your body you should never allow more contact than you are comfortable with.
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