Nvm got my answer thnx!





Nvm got my answer thnx!
Last edited by simone87; 01-21-2016 at 11:12 AM.



I would say not to jump to conclusions first. Try him again if you really do want him as a friend. Could be he missed the text, lost the phone, has a lot going on or any other number of reasons. What harm is there in reaching out again!?




I find that when you get in touch with someone you have not spoken to in quite some time that there is a renewal of interest, a bit of excitement, and then you get on with things. Doesn't mean anything one way or another. GO to your high school reunion and talk to people you haven't seen in years and remember how fun they are , and then never see them again. Tis what it tis.
I have friends I almost never speak with, acquaintances I see every day.
Now, it does occur to me that you say he had a crush, and now is getting a divorce, so it is possible he was sniffing around for a little of what he couldn't get before, and seeing nothing doing has moved on.
At any rate, it is the way of things, nothing to do with you at all
There might be a lot going on in his personal life. Maybe he was trying to cover the loneliness of the divorce, but now they're talking again, and he feels guilty about hanging out with another woman so much. Maybe his soon-to-be-ex saw your texts and is giving him hell about it, trying to bring it up during legal proceedings so he's decided to cut off contact. Or maybe he just missed that text, or did that thing where you swear you responded... but totally didn't.
It sounds like he has a lot going on right now and probably didn't drop off the planet because of anything you did. I would try one more time. I am the absolute worst at reaching out to people first, so if my friends don't text me, we kinda just stop hanging out for months at a time. Not because I don't like them, but because I just naturally default to finding ways to fill my time alone if no one contacts me. Last week, a friend sent me a facebook message asking if I was mad at him because I wasn't returning his calls. The thing is, he calls, but if I miss it (which I usually do), he doesn't leave a voicemail. To me, that indicates that it wasn't anything important or he wasn't expecting a call back that day... but he took it as me shunning him. Some people just have different ways of communicating. Maybe he saw your "what's up" text hours after the fact and figured there was no point responding at a late hour or something, and hasn't thought about it since. There's a good chance he's just caught up in stuff. If he doesn't respond to something more direct, I would only start to worry about it then.
Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.





I do feel silly feeling this way after only 2 weeks, and especially when he's just a friend but I guess it was just the stark contrast of how often we talked compared to now..kind of a whiplash, hot- and- cold thing
Try not to take it personal.
Could be the divorce is stressful.
Could be its not easy picking up a friendship or relationship where you left off.
Either way don't force it. Just keep doing what you do and hanging out with other friends.
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