So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We moved in together in April 2015. After moving in I realized he had a video game addiction. Everyday he plays for at least 5-8 hours, then he HAS to watch reruns of wresting from the 90's. Everyday. Yeah he works night shift and pays the bills, but that's no excuse for the amount of time he spends on the game and watching wrestling. I told him months ago that the time he spends playing the game is starting to be an issue because in the end I get ignored and put second. By the time he's done it's time for him to go to sleep and get ready for work. He always has excuses as to why he plays the game so much. One time he said it's because I annoy him and get on his nerves. That makes no sense because we hardly spend time together because he's either at work or on the game. Another time he said he plays that much because it takes his mind off of having sex with me so much. Ok. That makes no sense but whatever. Another time he said it helps take his mind off of going out to the clubs/strip club. Ok...So which is it? He can just never admit that he has an addiction to playing video games.
Last night we had a serious conversation. I told him that lately I've been unhappy. I told him I've been asking myself, do I see myself being with a guy whose about to be 30, who has a serious video game/wrestling addiction and puts me second? Once again he brings up the point that he works and pays bills, and it's not like he just sits around the house all day.
He has no outside hobbies. I told him I'd rather him go out with his friends than to be on the game like he is. I told him that it's very annoying and I can't deal with it anymore.
Another issue I have with him is his messiness. I know not all guys are messy. But he takes it to a whole new level. He leaves plates of food in the room or the living room. If I take it to throw away he says. "I was gonna eat that" or "I was gonna throw that away" which he rarely does. It's like he leaves a trail of mess on purpose just for me to clean up. I asked him months ago if he could clean up after hisself because it'll save me time in having to do it. He cleaned up after hisself for about 4 days than it went right back to normal. I asked him the other day why is he so messy. He said because it shows him that I care about him by cleaning up after him and that's what a woman is supposed to do. Yeah...
Then there's the issue with the trash. I lived by myself for years before we met so I was used to taking out the garbage. Since we moved in together, when I ask him to take out the trash, he always says, I'll do it in a minute...I'll do it after this game. A minute turns into an hour and I just get so fed up. He waits until the trash is full to the point where he'll even push it down to try to make room so he doesn't have to take it out. I feel like I shouldn't have to wait until the trash is literally overflowing to tell him to take it out. I know he sees it needs to be taken out, but he just doesn't do it. So when I take it out after having asked him and him not doing it, he ALWAYS says, "Why are you taking it out, I said I was gonna do it?" And I'm just like really...when? You said that an hour ago, it's fine I can do it.
I've tried to ignore these little things, and yes I know when you love someone you have to compromise. But damnit, how many fucking times is it gonna take for me to tell him about the video game...the trash...him cleaning up after himself. I'm just fed up and realized I'm not gonna be happy with someone like that. He said no one has ever told him the truth like that and it hurt his feelings. I'd rather tell him the truth than to be fake about things.
Also, we have a great sex life..no complaints. But lately, the last few times, I haven't been feeling the connection and feelings that I usually have when we are intimate. When we do do it, I'm just like ok...when will it be over. I think I'm pretty much over him. It's clear the video game habit and messiness won't change so there's really nothing that can be done. I told him life is too short to be unhappy and he knows I'm not happy.
I don't really have anyone to talk to so venting here makes me feel a little better. I'm a little embarrassed telling my mom that he plays video games a lot or he's really dirty. But I'm gonna tell her soon cause I know she cares about my well being and I want her to know.



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