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    How do you all feel about it? Easy Money or too close for comfort? I must admit I'm a dope for it when I'm with a fave

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    I guess the main thing is how your fave feels about it. As for myself, if my fave did not like cuddling, she would not be my fave.
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    Every customer who wanted to cuddle with me, mostly VIP, but some on the floor, got hard. So, I'm either too good at it or too bad at it. Given what camming pays with zero physical contact, I think I'll stick to that. The only way there wouldn't be at least one person in a company offering more-that's all it takes to get busted-is if every minute was taped and viewed.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    I preferred it to being grabbed at, but my favorite customers were the ones who didn't try to touch me at all and just sat with their hands to themselves. Also I have really sensitive skin and the cuddlers' cologne, detergent or whatever would make me break out all the time...

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    Yeah I had a guy who just wanted to talk in VIP. I like the paying talkers especially if they're talking about something half way interesting.

    i don't think I've ever had a cuddler.
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    When someone wants to cuddle me topless in a VIP or something I am on extra guard. Because I know some use "cuddling" to try to get through my defenses and sneak kisses and touch my pussy. That's gross.
    I hate the cuddly bear type who is usually large, overweight, and has too soft, large, fleshy hands. They usually try to kiss me tenderly and I feel like they're trying to "make love" to me. I hate when people say "make love." That's also gross.
    Also dislike the cuddlers who use cuddling to hold me so tight that I have to squirm my way out of their clutches. Like they're holding onto me for dear life. Nothing like someone holding you right in their face when you don't want to be in their face.

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    When someone wants to cuddle me topless in a VIP or something I am on extra guard. Because I know some use "cuddling" to try to get through my defenses and sneak kisses and touch my pussy. That's gross.
    I hate the cuddly bear type who is usually large, overweight, and has too soft, large, fleshy hands. They usually try to kiss me tenderly and I feel like they're trying to "make love" to me. I hate when people say "make love." That's also gross.
    Also dislike the cuddlers who use cuddling to hold me so tight that I have to squirm my way out of their clutches. Like they're holding onto me for dear life. Nothing like someone holding you right in their face when you don't want to be in their face.
    Ugh I know what you're talking about...They want you to sit in their lap and bear hug you and get right up in your face. It's the worst when they have bad breath and/or keep trying to go in for a kiss. Gag! Those guys grossed me out more than the titty grabbers.

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    I'm happy to cuddle, it doesn't bother me at all. If you'd like to cuddle, please get at least a 30 min VIP performance. I won't cuddle in the public parts of the club, only in VIP.

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    One of my best customers in my old club was a cuddler. Just sit there in the lap dance area, not really touching just holding me, spitting out cash every song. Fun times.

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    Easy, easy money. I love cuddling in VIP.

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    This thread makes me sad. It breaks my heart that so many men are so lonely they'll pay for big bucks for what amounts to emotional comfort, men who society has discarded. If I'm doing a mental protection fallacy and you believe they're is another reason for these men to pay for a cuddle please enlighten me.

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    Isn't that why most customers even come into the club.. for some type of emotional comfort? Men spend hundreds to just talk to someone or have them listen to them probably because they're somewhat lonely. Even the assholes who come in just to talk down to dancers get some type of ego boost they can't get outside the club. Cuddling is just another form of emotional comfort some customers prefer. I mean yeah there are guys going in just to party and get dances or the guys looking for extras but from my experience the majority are looking for some type of emotional comfort.

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    The only times I've cuddled with dancers was when the dancers initiated it. They also got my return business.

    I'm also scratching my head about the dancer above who is somehow surprised that men come to strip clubs for emotional comfort.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Omegaphallic View Post
    This thread makes me sad. It breaks my heart that so many men are so lonely they'll pay for big bucks for what amounts to emotional comfort, men who society has discarded. If I'm doing a mental protection fallacy and you believe they're is another reason for these men to pay for a cuddle please enlighten me.
    I'm confused. Society hasn't discarded these men- they've determined the cost of meeting their needs and are willing to pay it. You seem to be under the impression that "emotional labors" should be freely available to all, but they are not. As a lady, I don't owe my sage advice, my compassionate ears, or the comfort of my soft, warm body to anyone.

    And chemically, I'm sure the oxytocin (and related happy-feels drugs your body produces) help shore up the value of a cuddle.

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    Why are you sad, Omegaphallic? I mean they are paying for the experience of cuddling with a hot girl. Society did not discarded this men, they are paying to get their needs met. You talk about men's rights but complain when men do whatever they want with their own money?


    Quote Originally Posted by Omegaphallic View Post
    This thread makes me sad. It breaks my heart that so many men are so lonely they'll pay for big bucks for what amounts to emotional comfort, men who society has discarded. If I'm doing a mental protection fallacy and you believe they're is another reason for these men to pay for a cuddle please enlighten me.

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    I hate cuddling with customers!! It's so boring and awkward.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Omegaphallic View Post
    This thread makes me sad. It breaks my heart that so many men are so lonely they'll pay for big bucks for what amounts to emotional comfort, men who society has discarded. If I'm doing a mental protection fallacy and you believe they're is another reason for these men to pay for a cuddle please enlighten me.
    Has society discarded the thousands of Asian women who go to "host bars" and pay for attention from hot, outgoing, charming men? The men coming in paying for cuddles probably could get emotional support from women on their level but they are paying for "emotional comfort" from a fantasy girl...a girl they could never have in real life. There's still a sexual element to it, no matter how 'innocent' it seems.

    I remember having a whole long conversation with one of my old regulars who liked to cuddle and complained about being "lonely" all the time. He showed me all these women he was messaging on dating sites--Super hot women he didn't have a shot in hell with---and straight up ignored the women his own age, on his own level of attractiveness, education, etc. He even read me a message he sent to a perfectly nice lady saying "thanks but no thanks." This is from a man in his late 50's, morbidly obese who drives a bus for a living. If he wanted emotional comfort for free he could have had it...but of course "normal" women aren't good enough for him. I'd wager the same is true for most of the cuddlers paying for it.

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    I remember having a whole long conversation with one of my old regulars who liked to cuddle and complained about being "lonely" all the time. He showed me all these women he was messaging on dating sites--Super hot women he didn't have a shot in hell with---and straight up ignored the women his own age, on his own level of attractiveness, education, etc. He even read me a message he sent to a perfectly nice lady saying "thanks but no thanks." This is from a man in his late 50's, morbidly obese who drives a bus for a living. If he wanted emotional comfort for free he could have had it...but of course "normal" women aren't good enough for him. I'd wager the same is true for most of the cuddlers paying for it.
    Isn't this caused by everyone now having access to the Internet and media? Both men and women are now flooded with images/videos of the most attractive people possible (and impossible). Around 100 years ago, you could see a few blurry pictures and the people that lived in your home town. Now you can see genetic lottery winners all day. It ups our collective beauty standards.

    Around 4-8 thousand years ago 17 women passed their genes along for every man. It seems more like a lions pride with those numbers. Of course the invention of religion, marriage, the restriction of women's rights changed all that. I'm curious now that women are just beginning to get those rights back if we'll return to some type of poly or harem system. It would suck for the average and below average men. But those top guys would sure be busy. I worry about society if we return to a system where the vast majority of men are "lonely" for whatever reason. Young "lonely" men can become very violent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jekka View Post
    When someone wants to cuddle me topless in a VIP or something I am on extra guard. Because I know some use "cuddling" to try to get through my defenses and sneak kisses and touch my pussy. That's gross.
    I hate the cuddly bear type who is usually large, overweight, and has too soft, large, fleshy hands. They usually try to kiss me tenderly and I feel like they're trying to "make love" to me. I hate when people say "make love." That's also gross.
    Also dislike the cuddlers who use cuddling to hold me so tight that I have to squirm my way out of their clutches. Like they're holding onto me for dear life. Nothing like someone holding you right in their face when you don't want to be in their face.


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    Quote Originally Posted by NoRegrets View Post
    Isn't this caused by everyone now having access to the Internet and media? Both men and women are now flooded with images/videos of the most attractive people possible (and impossible). Around 100 years ago, you could see a few blurry pictures and the people that lived in your home town. Now you can see genetic lottery winners all day. It ups our collective beauty standards.

    Around 4-8 thousand years ago 17 women passed their genes along for every man. It seems more like a lions pride with those numbers. Of course the invention of religion, marriage, the restriction of women's rights changed all that. I'm curious now that women are just beginning to get those rights back if we'll return to some type of poly or harem system. It would suck for the average and below average men. But those top guys would sure be busy. I worry about society if we return to a system where the vast majority of men are "lonely" for whatever reason. Young "lonely" men can become very violent.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 22lligm View Post
    Isn't that why most customers even come into the club.. for some type of emotional comfort? Men spend hundreds to just talk to someone or have them listen to them probably because they're somewhat lonely. Even the assholes who come in just to talk down to dancers get some type of ego boost they can't get outside the club. Cuddling is just another form of emotional comfort some customers prefer. I mean yeah there are guys going in just to party and get dances or the guys looking for extras but from my experience the majority are looking for some type of emotional comfort.

    I need to remember this. At one point I was compassionate about them as people (not compassionate about taking their money) and I was able to make more money. This is really helpful, I kinda stopped acknowledging this and I see a slight decrease on my earnings. Lol. I guess they're ppl too. Jk. No its true, even the jerk that comes in for the sole purpose of insulting or pissing off the dancers has some disadvantage over every single one of us.

    Lol at the bad breath attempted kissers, gag. My tolerance for bs like that is going down.

    The morbidly obese guy looking for women out of his league is true. I have a morbidly obese friend, like tlc special almost who refuses to date fat women. Yet the skinny attractive women have to deal with his fat, not cool. As much as I want to say no one is out of anyone's league (LOA) sometimes it's true.

    Cuddling, used to have a regular who loved snuggling me in the vip, more like me petting him as he told me his sorrows lol.

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    I don't like it, but I'll do it so long as there's no face or head kissing. I always get guys trying to kiss my head or forehead or cheeks or something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Omegaphallic View Post
    This thread makes me sad. It breaks my heart that so many men are so lonely they'll pay for big bucks for what amounts to emotional comfort, men who society has discarded. If I'm doing a mental protection fallacy and you believe they're is another reason for these men to pay for a cuddle please enlighten me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Omegaphallic View Post
    This thread makes me sad. It breaks my heart that so many men are so lonely they'll pay for big bucks for what amounts to emotional comfort, men who society has discarded. If I'm doing a mental protection fallacy and you believe they're is another reason for these men to pay for a cuddle please enlighten me.
    Then all therapists would be out of business. And lots of people in service type industries end up being in the role of therapist when they get paid by someone who just wants another human to listen to them and be compassionate.

    People pay for emotional comfort all the time. Last time I walked into a chocolatier I paid for emotional comfort.

    Also some guys lack social finesse for whatever reason but does that mean they should go without affection? If it's easier for them to compensate a woman for her time in exchange for some mild affection then why not.

    If paying pretty women indirectly brings a man emotional comfort then more power to him. Better than walking around with a chip on his shoulder going out wreaking havoc on the world.
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    Why is it always seen by society as desperate or sad to spend money on hot girls?

    Way cheaper than a marriage/divorce. No strings.

    Just insert money for whatever attention you desire.

    You can get free plastic bags at the grocery store to carry things yet LV and Chanel make a killing selling designer ones.

    And yes plenty of guys who can get female attention, still pay.
    Celebrities and sports stars ditch their groupies to hang out in VIP.

    It takes a strong guy to admit what he wants and pay for it. Not everyone can.

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