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    Default My First Escorting Session: With A Hobbyist (Who Threatened to Leave a Bad Review)



    That was literally the look on my face. It took all my strength not to laugh considering the circumstances. I'm in my thong.. not a waitress uniform. TER= is the new Yelp??

    Anyway, after learning that "hobbyists" do this sort of thing, it made me realize how bad these review boards can be for providers and I don't know how I will feel about being on them as time goes on..

    I kindly exited the room and reminded the asshole the Exit is to his right. He even called the "madam," Is that what you would call her-- to complain about me..


    How do you guys deal with this sort of thing?

    Oh, this all started over his incessant manhandling of my body. I felt uncomfortable from the jump and so laid down some ground rules, which is when he flipped out..

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    Default Re: My First Escorting Session: With A Hobbyist (Who Threatened to Leave a Bad Review

    He's disgusting. Just because a provider is getting paid, doesn't mean she gives up all of her boundaries and ability to consent. You did the right thing.


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    Thanks. I will keep this in mind as time goes on. i have been tempted to allow certain things in hopes of garnering clients but have realized its not worth it. Plus they'll choose who they want, despite what a girl is willing to do. I prefer to use what I'm good at and want to do to my advantage

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    Default Re: My First Escorting Session: With A Hobbyist (Who Threatened to Leave a Bad Review

    DO NOT negotiate with TERRORISTS !

    Gentlemen DO NOT push boundaries. Make it clear in your ads that boundaries are to be followed ect.

    If this is your first session you can even quickly re-brand if needed after a learning experience. The review boards ( sex work and vanilla work! ) have taken things to such a new level of ridiculus! I could go on and on but I'll leave it as a nutshell .

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    Default Re: My First Escorting Session: With A Hobbyist (Who Threatened to Leave a Bad Review

    The guys on the review boards have driven even normal guys away. Back in the day they had some use, but now they're not so important. Sorry that happened, pitch the asshole out and move on.
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    I think ideally boundaries should be addressed upfront. It's not your fault he didn't consider asking you beforehand, before he took it upon himself to grope you up. And he shouldn't expect he owns your body just cause he paid you during this time.

    It's not right for people to use review boards as bargaining chips.

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    You can blacklist him, you know that right? His info will come up in a Google search.
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    Default Re: My First Escorting Session: With A Hobbyist (Who Threatened to Leave a Bad Review

    I have never liked the review website, especially that's not the source of my clients. I asked all my regulars do not review me anyway. I am one of those UTR providers. They all like the idea. But I will never know, there might be one that I am not aware.
    Don't get pushed around by asshats like that. Threaten you with a review? that's pretty low. If u did anything wrong, and he's not happy, he could just leave. You won't do anything uncomfortable because of a stupid review.
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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    DO NOT negotiate with TERRORISTS !

    Gentlemen DO NOT push boundaries. Make it clear in your ads that boundaries are to be followed ect.

    If this is your first session you can even quickly re-brand if needed after a learning experience. The review boards ( sex work and vanilla work! ) have taken things to such a new level of ridiculus! I could go on and on but I'll leave it as a nutshell .
    Thanks for the tip. According to the Madam, he's paying for my time, not services and I shouldn't of addressed my limits so early on but rather eased into the session first..

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    Quote Originally Posted by baer45 View Post
    I have never liked the review website, especially that's not the source of my clients. I asked all my regulars do not review me anyway. I am one of those UTR providers. They all like the idea. But I will never know, there might be one that I am not aware.
    Don't get pushed around by asshats like that. Threaten you with a review? that's pretty low. If u did anything wrong, and he's not happy, he could just leave. You won't do anything uncomfortable because of a stupid review.

    Really? I would love to be UTR but everyone I come across says they get business through the review boards and its fighting tooth and nail to get on there . I don't even think this guy bothered to post anything on me

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    Default Re: My First Escorting Session: With A Hobbyist (Who Threatened to Leave a Bad Review

    Reviews are only one small piece of marketing. If your image comes across as naive, die hard reviewers (hobbyists) will try manipulate you into thinking reviews are the only way to survive. I'm not saying reviews don't help, but in my experience they become more important to hobbyists the higher your rates are. When I worked midrange, hobbyists didnt care as much about reviews.

    With that said, hobbyists are not the same as normal clients.
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    Quote Originally Posted by goddesskali View Post
    With that said, hobbyists are not the same as normal clients.
    What are the differences between the two?

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    Hobbyists are way too into it. See tons of girls, review them all, have their own subculture. They think they're the Rodger Egbert of escorts. They post on review boards all day, drain their accounts, and think they'll explode if they don't pay for sex every 48 hours. Clients have lives. They have a regular or two, don't spend all day looking for the cheapest rates, etc.. You want clients, not hobbyists.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    PS-as far as gentlemen, Eros is a good place to advertise. Classier set up, higher rates, higher end clients. PS-it's your world, not theirs. If you get a bunch of assholes who post bad reviews, you can change your name, pics, and number.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post
    What are the differences between the two?
    Hobbyists live to see & review escorts. They consider seeing escorts as a hobby.

    The downside to them is many don't think of us human beings with thoughts & feelings. We are products to be analysed and critiqued. I personally turn them down when they contact me to avoid situations like you mentioned.
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    You could even think of it this way .... even if you does leave one review on these boards , the normal clients ( like other ladies mentioned here ) don't really look too much. They may do just a quick google to see if your name / more pictures come up to see if your photos are accurate. They just don't have the time to constantly talk about / harass sex workers . Many normal guys would be grossed out by the boards too ( because reviews are sometimes so detailed and creepy even to 90% of the clients!). I would stress DISCRETION in your ads a little more than " good reviews " ( if it were me ) . I mean ... you can't advertise anywhere in the USA ( that I know of ) what you will and won't do laid out ultra clearly . The guys were want discretion and maturity out of a provider are the ones you want v.s. the ones who just want EVERYTHING and do hours of research finding the lowest prices.

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    Wow makes perfect sense about the diff between hobbyists and clients! Thanks for the breakdown ladies and makes me feel less stressed about these stupid hoops they make you jump through to be on the boards.

    Interestingly enough, I stumbled on this high end escort who made it very clear she no longer accepts client reviews and won't see a guy without getting his TER and other ID's (I guess to see if he does indeed review her afterward, she can blacklist him?). She was even a feature on TER so I guess she's over the hobbyists? hmm

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    ^I used to book for an escort service and was very, very blacklist happy. Since it's something that'll show up on Google if they used their real name, I put only the violent, the con artists, the stalkers, etc..on the public ones. My favorite private one is no longer up and functioning, but there's plenty more. PM me if you want some to start with and PLEASE mention whether you want the girl-only ones or the public ones.
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    The worst are TOB in Denver and Eccie. Surprisingly the strip club industry review sites are also bad with everyone complaining about drink prices and covers.. hello it's a strip club you should know that duh!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetJulia View Post
    ^I used to book for an escort service and was very, very blacklist happy. Since it's something that'll show up on Google if they used their real name, I put only the violent, the con artists, the stalkers, etc..on the public ones. My favorite private one is no longer up and functioning, but there's plenty more. PM me if you want some to start with and PLEASE mention whether you want the girl-only ones or the public ones.

    One of my first agency bosses got her start in life as a Vegas private dancer & she took NO shit from dudes. Hard as nails. Honestly to avoid dealing with losers like this (& they are out there...) Be hard with your boundaries & have enough in savings so you can straight up leave an appointment when confronted with unreasonable behavior.

    BTW I blackballed a guy like this & managed to avoid him everytime I came to his city. He was super manipulative & pathetic. He actually texted me an apology for being a jerk the first time we met....These guys know what they are doing & they count on catching women having vunerable moments to get kicks. Fuckin scum.

    edit to add- trust me I am speaking from years of experience. Screening hard prevents a lot of these douchebags from ever coming near you. Screening is worth the time & effort.
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