What things do you say and do to keep from meeting people from the club outside of the club? Do you just outright say that you don't meet people outside of work? Are you honest about having a significant other?
What things do you say and do to keep from meeting people from the club outside of the club? Do you just outright say that you don't meet people outside of work? Are you honest about having a significant other?





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Personally, I suck donkey ass when it comes to lying. If I don't want to answer a question ("Where do you live? What's your real name?") I might flirt around ("That's a secret!") or if they insist/I'm in no mood, just outright cut through the nonsense. ("I'm not going to tell you/I can't tell you that, but I can give you a dance!") Same policy for pretty much everything. If they want to meet me outside the club, regular or not, I shut it down right away. "Sorry, I don't meet anyone outside the club. I'd love to entertain you here and now though." Any repeats of the question/offer just get a flat "I don't do that." Offerings of gifts and money don't sway me, personally, so any attempt at bribery is more or less the same, but maybe a little more flirty, depending on the situation. If he's offering something I want and think I might have a chance of getting without crossing my boundaries and doing something I explicitly said I wouldn't do, then I'll heap on the flirt/coy while also staying true to my original position: I don't do that. Otherwise, there are more wallets in the club than just his. I can make my own money, and I can buy my own gifts, and I can buy them faster if I don't waste time on this particular conversation with him.
Regarding the S/O thing, my personal default is the be honest, just for the sake of consistency. If the custy seems like the kind of guy who'll throw me out of his lap if I say I have an S/O, then it's 50-50 whether I'll lie or not. Most of the time those guys turn out to be time wasters looking for love more than dances. If they put up that particular red flag, I'll answer either a yes or a no and ask if they want a dance in the same breath. It'll be a trial and error thing before you get it down to a science as far as which ones are just curious and which ones are looking for a date.
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