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    Default Should I cut off contact with this time waster?

    I met this guy at work about four years ago when I just started dancing. He tipped me really well. We lost contact for about two years and just started talking about maybe six months now, since we reconnected at the club.

    He texts me all the time. I don't want to be a bitch so I try to be on good terms with him. I never know if he shows up in the future.

    He said he wanted to buy me a condo, car and other shit but I haven't received shit!

    He brags about the watches he's getting and I asked him to get me a watch. Long story short, I asked him if he got me one last night and he replied with a smiley face and changed the subject!

    This really pissed me off! What should I do?

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    Default Re: Should I cut off contact with this time waster?

    Does he ever come spend money on you in the club or does he just text you? How much he spends is really the deciding factor, and only you can weigh if it's worth the effort you have to put in to the relationship.

    Given the limited information you've shared about him, I wouldn't expect any of the stuff he's "promised" to materialize, but if he spends money in the club, it might be worth dialling back the texting contact to try and keep that cash flow going.

    However, if he's neither coming into the club nor delivering on those promises, definitely cut off contact. If after 4 years total and 6 months in recent contact he hasn't ponied up anything, he's not suddenly going to. Don't kid yourself by thinking he might in the future if you keep in touch -- he knows exactly what he's doing by stringing you along with enough promises and avoiding giving actual responses to make with compensation.

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    Default Re: Should I cut off contact with this time waster?

    Very well said! He doesn't come in the club much. Like maybe never. If I see him he tips me good but not well like he used to.

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    Default Re: Should I cut off contact with this time waster?

    Oh, definitely stop replying to him then. He's been trained to get a lot of attention now via texting without having to spend a dollar, so there's no way he's going to change and suddenly start giving you lots of money or stuff. There's always the chance that it will spur him to return to the club to try to get your attention again, but, even if not, you're totally wasting your time texting this guy all the time. Don't feel like a bitch for dropping him either -- he's gotten way more out of you than he deserves.

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