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    It's been about a year since I stopped dancing, and it's been rough. I'm almost 30, and I have no idea what I want to do for a career other than play poker. The idea of going to work 40+ hours per week to be ordered around every day and help some random business/corporation owner make profit makes me incredibly depressed. I think I'm just so used to the freedom that comes with dancing that I can't stand the idea of someone telling me what to do. For now, I've been doing atmosphere modeling jobs, but even then, I only work every other week or so because I'm unwilling to accept pay rates below a certain amount. Recently, I had an interview (for an atmosphere modeling job) cancelled, received a low rating by the client on one of my jobs, and got fired from another, because I developed a bit of an attitude in response to being treated disrespectfully by the client (or booking agent, in the case of the interview). I should add that my job performance was otherwise outstanding. Before I started dancing, I would've just stayed quiet and allowed others to mistreat me and others in the interest of keeping the peace (and my job). Now, it's like I can't help but say something whenever I see an injustice........but I don't know if that's a good thing. At this point, I'm sure that the obvious advice would be, well, just make a career out of playing poker then. Which is great, except that in order to do that I need to have a lot of money saved up for a bankroll first, and......(see above section about not working much lately).

    Also (and I don't know how to say this without sounding conceited, though I certainly don't mean it that way), when I book jobs, I often tend to be more intelligent and competent than the people in charge......which sometimes leads them to resent me, no matter how hard I try to be friendly and helpful. I know I shouldn't let it bother me, but whenever that happens I always kinda feel like a little kid who got rejected trying to make friends on the playground. That really has nothing to do with dancing, but it's a large part of the reason I got fired from my last booking, so it's fresh in my mind and still bothering me.

    Idk what to do. I know this probably sounds so whiny, like I just need to slap myself, suck it up, keep my mouth shut and work for less $$. I'm not really expecting advice I guess (although if you have some.......please be nice), I mostly just wanted to vent. I've been feeling really depressed over all this lately, like I'm a failure at life or something.

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    Default Re: I feel like dancing has ruined me for a regular job...

    Aww. I understand, kinda going thru the same stuff really..
    I'm not sure about dancing myself, I was kinda considering do deliver driving, where u work for a company, not a restaurant, you pick up food & then deliver it. However I will not work in the city, w/its f'd up grid system.
    I also work some tradeshows/conventions (depending on ur area)
    I know exactly what you mean about incompetent ppl
    Also Ive done some sampling jobs u hand out food or liquor samples (liquor pays better)
    Just throwing out some ideas
    Yea I hate a lot of vanilla stuff.


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    *Hugs* I know exactly what you mean. Stripping has spoiled me rotten. I can barely stand the idea of vanilla work, because I'm used to making several hundred in one night without having to report to any boss. But I quit over 6 months ago because my mental health just wasn't having it anymore. I'm about to start a temp job in a few days. Also, I think I've had enough time off from dancing that I could return to it soon.

    Are you really 100% done with dancing, or do you want to try one night to see how it goes?

    There are also work-from-home jobs you could try, for additional income: http://realwaystoearnmoneyonline.com/

    Returning to the vanilla world is hard after stripping. But girls do it all the time, so hang in there, and don't give up, my dear.
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    Default Re: I feel like dancing has ruined me for a regular job...

    I feel ya.

    I think you shouldn't let obstacles hold you back from doing poker professionally if that's your passion. You can figure a way to get the financial backing just stay positive and optimistic.
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    Dancing ruined me too but I don't think it's a bad thing. If poker and modeling doesn't work out you can always cam, make clips, write erotica, sell ebooks on kindle (write them yourself or hire ghost writers), sell on eBay, Amazon or etsy, blog, buy a laundromat, marry a rich dude, cook meth...the possibilities are endless really. I never plan on working for the MAN again unless it's an amazing/dream job.

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    Why do people always assume 9-5 jobs are soul sucking pits? Maybe some are. A lot aren't. My vanilla manager is great and gives me way more freedom and is generally way more respectful of me than any douchelord club manager with a small penis complex. Not that it's all rainbows and sunshine but when I think about by the end I was consistently making ~30/hour (on a 'decent' night) to get assaulted all night, after losing a good chunk of my money to the club, I am really grateful for the consistency, cheap health insurance and opportunity my company provides. Benefits factor in you guys, if I didn't get tuition benefits I could never go to graduate school and once I graduate I know I'll be making really good money (previous life stripper money) with my clothes on. So vanilla life might not work out for you, but please don't dismiss everyone who likes it as a lifeless robot. Why can't people ever express their own opinion without putting down everyone else's choices? This drives me insane.
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    When I quit dancing the first time the first time I worked three jobs (full time, part time and then a weekend waitress gig) all while going back to school. Within a few years I ended up starting my own business and have never looked back! There were a few years where the money was tight and things were bleak and a normal (non-crazy) person would have gone out and gotten a job. I tried to a few times. I couldn't do it. I would quit within a few days or just not show up at all.

    Anyway, the point was not for me to go on and in about myself. I was telling you about my experience so I can suggest the same to you- why don't you start your own business!! Maybe something in a field you are already interested in. There are so many businesses that you do not need a lot of money to start. Esp. internet based. If you can manage to live a bit frugal for a bit (for over a year I only bought clothes at Plato's Closet and considered Macy's to be a treat!; avoided eating out unless it was a happy hour or lunch special and got my hair done at the beauty school!) you can probably get the money you need together in a few months time.
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    Default Re: I feel like dancing has ruined me for a regular job...

    Quote Originally Posted by lynn2009 View Post
    So vanilla life might not work out for you, but please don't dismiss everyone who likes it as a lifeless robot. Why can't people ever express their own opinion without putting down everyone else's choices? This drives me insane.
    Umm......I'm not sure whose post you read that you posted this response to, but I'm pretty sure it wasn't mine. It sounds like you didn't have the greatest experience as a dancer. I really enjoyed dancing when I was in the industry, but I certainly would not think to twist your less-than-positive description of your experience into some sort of generalized put-down directed at those of us who don't feel the same way. That sort of thinking just baffles me. Everyone has different interests, and there's nothing wrong with that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lynn2009 View Post
    Why do people always assume 9-5 jobs are soul sucking pits? Maybe some are. A lot aren't. My vanilla manager is great and gives me way more freedom and is generally way more respectful of me than any douchelord club manager with a small penis complex. Not that it's all rainbows and sunshine but when I think about by the end I was consistently making ~30/hour (on a 'decent' night) to get assaulted all night, after losing a good chunk of my money to the club, I am really grateful for the consistency, cheap health insurance and opportunity my company provides. Benefits factor in you guys, if I didn't get tuition benefits I could never go to graduate school and once I graduate I know I'll be making really good money (previous life stripper money) with my clothes on. So vanilla life might not work out for you, but please don't dismiss everyone who likes it as a lifeless robot. Why can't people ever express their own opinion without putting down everyone else's choices? This drives me insane.
    No one is putting down anyone else. We're speaking about ourselves and our own preferences. It drives me insane when people get offended over everything. There's an entire thread about not wanting children on here...Should I be offended because I'm a mom and love my kid? No...because it's not about me. It's about people who've made the choice to be child free. Same thing. It's great that you enjoy your vanilla job and would rather work for someone else than work for yourself, but it's not for everyone.

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    Default Re: I feel like dancing has ruined me for a regular job...

    You're in good company. I REFUSE to do office work ever again, because the whole getting ordered around thing is not for me. Check out the work at home forums, and I strongly encourage you to start up your own business, where YOU are the boss. I honestly believe if you're not doing adult stuff, and you're not working your own business, you're not likely to be making the $$ you want. When you work at a job with a cap of X/hr., you limit yourself.

    Think about your interests, and look in to what it would take to start up a business or two. I'm doing that, and mine will be internet based.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wednesday86 View Post
    If poker and modeling doesn't work out you can always cook meth...
    I read that, and immediately thought of this:

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    Default Re: I feel like dancing has ruined me for a regular job...

    I've always had vanilla jobs whilst i danced, but nothing has ever suited me like dancing. I can't stand being bossed around and having to sit on my backside for 9 hours a day in an office to make enough money to get by. But i can't think of anything else to do that will earn me enough to live on. I should have married a rich dude if only i could bring myself to be sufficiently attracted to one (lets face it, attractive rich dudes are few and far between).

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    OP, have you ever considered owning your own small business? Or large one even, since you said you are very intelligent and competent? Working for yourself would be a good transition into "real work" minus all the crap that comes with working for someone else. You could open a store, a restaurant, or even offer private poker lessons! I dont know about your level of education, but would you ever consider going to a grad school to become a professional of some sort? Think about other interests and passions of yours and if they have potential for self employment

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    Ugh I know what you mean. Where are u located? Is it near a metropolitan area w an upscale nightlife ? I've found the next best job for me has always been in the nightlife or restaurant industry -- bottle service, cocktailing, or doing alcohol promos ! The jobs pay good, still offer flexible schedules, and you know how to hustle so it'll be familiar territory for you. Coming across the good jobs in the right establishment can be tough, but there's so much high turnover that there's always a good chance as long as u keep looking. You model so I'm assuming you have head shots to submit too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    OP, have you ever considered owning your own small business?
    I think about this a lot, actually. My problem is mainly that I have no idea where to get started, or what type of business I would even have. For instance, I know a lot of people have successful blogs. I'm good at writing, and I obviously know what my interests are......but coming up with topics to write about all the time? Now THAT is the hard part for me.

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    What are you interests, or skills/ strong points. If you could be anything you wanted in the whole world (start up costs or lack of education not important) what would you be? I am asking to open for suggestions from other members. We all know you could not open your own plastic surgery center by December!
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    Have to toss this in here, have you ever considered camming? You don't have a boss and you have a block button.

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    why did u quit dancing? If u aren't opposed to still being a sex worker of sorts I second camming. Otherwise, I know highly attractive women who are intelligent and sociable even to the point of being slightly intimidating (sounds like u are to some ppl) can make REALLY good money bartending (esp in college towns). U would have to put up with a lot of annoying bullshit but u don't need a degree or even experience in a lot of cases. I understand night shifts aren't for everyone tho.






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    Have you (the OP) ever considered a career in sales and marketing? If you were successful at dancing, then you must have developed some skills at persuading people (mainly guys) to part with their hard earned money and hand it over to you. Transfer some of those skills over to a new career in sales and marketing such as being a real estate agent (for example) where you will be selling the fantasy of owning a nice new home (instead of a VIP experience) to prospective home buyers.

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    Girl, there are tons of vanilla jobs that you can do without being bored. For example, you can get into freelance erotica ghostwriting for several different companies. Or you can get into real estate and insurance In addition, you can be a bartender or steakhouse hostess as well.

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    I understand this - I feel the same way now. I think I was always more entrepreneur-oriented, but after being my own boss for so long in sex work, and having so many crappy vanilla bosses, I know for sure now. I had one really great vanilla boss in my entire life, and if everyone was like her, I wouldn't really mind having a boss, but she was the one exception to everything else I experienced. It's not even really about the good or bad boss though - it's more about the freedom, the ability to be in control of my own schedule, working hours, vacations, if I want to prioritize something or not, and never being capped in what I could earn.

    I don't want to come across as "stuck up" or "difficult," but any time my friends try to tell me about jobs I could move into that are just the same ol' same ol' "coulda done this right out of college if this is what I felt like doing" bullshit, I have to fight back a sigh, because it just does not appeal to me on any level. Other people just don't even get it, because they've probably never even tried to be their own boss, so they just accept that working for someone else is "what you do." And I know people who genuinely like and need to have a boss to feel productive and calm about what their job and job security is. But it's not for everyone, and it doesn't have to be just "what you do," and I don't think realizing that about yourself makes you a "whiner."

    If I found something that I was super drawn too, felt like it was my passion in life, and I could only be happy following a certain line of work that requires going back to having a boss, I might do it. But I don't really see that happening, so I can only hope to keep finding inspiring and fun things to do on my own.
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    Default Re: I feel like dancing has ruined me for a regular job...

    What about running your own club? Or maybe a pole dancing studio, or private pole dancing lessons? Maybe a mentor for new dancers. Camming.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Danny Ocean View Post
    Have you (the OP) ever considered a career in sales and marketing? If you were successful at dancing, then you must have developed some skills at persuading people (mainly guys) to part with their hard earned money and hand it over to you. Transfer some of those skills over to a new career in sales and marketing such as being a real estate agent (for example) where you will be selling the fantasy of owning a nice new home (instead of a VIP experience) to prospective home buyers.
    ^This is a good idea! I actually had an interview last week for a job that was along these lines. It sounds like a great opportunity, so I hope it works out.

    While I'm not at all opposed to continuing work in the adult industry, I just don't think that camming is for me (for various reasons). I'm also pretty sure that bartending wouldn't work, since I have a sensory processing issue that makes me unable to do things as quickly as everyone else. No one likes a slow bartender, LOL!

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    Quote Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital View Post
    I think about this a lot, actually. My problem is mainly that I have no idea where to get started, or what type of business I would even have. For instance, I know a lot of people have successful blogs. I'm good at writing, and I obviously know what my interests are......but coming up with topics to write about all the time? Now THAT is the hard part for me.
    Try real estate? Easiest/ one of the least expensive small business start ups.

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    There's more to life than money. You've only tried a small sample of jobs and not all are like the ones you described. I have so much autonomy at mine that its kind of isolating.

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