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    As an avid Backpage user, I learned early on to be very quick on the phone to avoid time wasters and even a handful of losers who are just looking for some free phone sex ("I have 13.5 inches, do you think you can handle that?") Click.

    But as I am expanding my advertising to attract higher end clients, I'm wondering if its the norm for some potential clients to want to talk prior to booking (to get a feel for the girl, and whatnot); especially if their interested in 2+ hours.

    A few days ago I got a call from some ass who kept me on the phone a good 10 mins claiming to want to book an overnight and I never heard from him again. I should've known something was up when he started discussing his penis size and wanted to know explicits of what I do..

    But he started the convo very much like "let me tell you about me.. etc" and I felt like perhaps this is part of the business..

    Thoughts?

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    I usually ask for and get Amazon gift cards from clients if they want to talk on the phone for a while prior. Actually prefer having that step in the booking process.

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    Yeah... the first red flag was wanting to book an overnight with someone they hadn't met yet.... It happens, and the caller knew they could keep you talking just thinking about the big payday, but it is risky for either party to commit to such a long visit with an unknown person.
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    You're smart to keep the conversation short and sweet. Serious clients give you booking/screening info and move on.

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    Why don't you make yourself email only? It'd be the least invasive and you don't have to hear their voices.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetJulia View Post
    Why don't you make yourself email only? It'd be the least invasive and you don't have to hear their voices.
    Above is the good idea. You have to stay in control of any situation you have will a client or they will run all over you. This only comes from experience, but always keep it in mind when interacting with clients.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetJulia View Post
    Why don't you make yourself email only? It'd be the least invasive and you don't have to hear their voices.
    I understand this is the norm for many of y'all (perhaps simply doing all bookings via a Contact Me Page) and then what.. call the client to confirm and then proceed with small talk? Especially with a deposit in hand makes this okay, I presume.

    I guess this makes sense but of course, I would have to hear a person's voice prior to showing up to a session..

    Also for overnights, are you saying you would want to meet first at a coffee shop etc? or just a matter of starting the overnight at a restaurant before kicking things off..

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    I guess I'm the opposite of you, I HATE talking. I had a 300 minutes a month, unlimited text plan for years for my personal phone and never got over 40 minutes. Phone sex is another, PAID story lol. I guess I'm not sure why you want to talk to them. If you do email only, you can tell if they're respectful, well spoken, and provide you with the info you need. When I was a phone booker, I drank. A lot. They try to keep you on the phone FOREVER, ask questions that can be answered by reading ads, try to get free dirty talk. The ones who emailed didn't have time to do that and didn't have the privilege of hearing a sexy, female voice until there's guaranteed money. Average day-I'd schedule for ten girls. Roughly 150 phone calls, about eight of which turned into appointments. Maybe twenty emails. Ten of which were written by those who walked upright and knew how to speak to a lady. Nine, sometimes ten of those would turn into appointments. Plus, you can copy and paste email responses-have at least five variations-and just jot their names in. Much faster, less irritating, and less of your time wasted.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Quote Originally Posted by abarrett View Post
    I usually ask for and get Amazon gift cards from clients if they want to talk on the phone for a while prior. Actually prefer having that step in the booking process.
    How do you word that? Do you put it in your ad or...? And how much do you ask for (% of appointment $$ or flat amount)? Is it a deposit or just something extra?

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    What if you said text or email only? Most guys would do text and then the older, old school, or discreet ones would email

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    Quote Originally Posted by red.velvet View Post
    How do you word that? Do you put it in your ad or...? And how much do you ask for (% of appointment $$ or flat amount)? Is it a deposit or just something extra?
    I'm email/form only for the first point of contact - but I have a line in the 'etiquette' section of my site regarding extended discussions, encouraging such. I usually schedule a five minute phone call if they don't pony up, thirty or so if they do. It's not about the money for me, it's about them expressing quite clearly that they respect my time. Not a deposit, just something extra. I'm making it explicitly mandatory as a deposit of sorts as of my next site update.

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    A legit client doesn't want to waste time any more than you do. Conversation is in session, and if you're aiming higher end thats especially true. You're doing right to keep it to a minimum; follow your first instinct.

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    I find that if I text and chat with them throughout the day before the appointment, they are more likely to show up and be regulars. My personality is a huge selling point and I don't mind letting it show. They seem to be intrigued and want to find out more. It helps them feel comfortable as well.

    No dirty talk. They know to keep it PG-13 at all times even if we've already met. Now if they pay me, that's a different story!

    Yeah, there are time wasters, but I can usually spot those pretty quickly. Call it an instinct.

    Also, I don't see chatting as wasting time really... More like an investment of time. Of course I don't send messages but maybe twice an hour (my day job is a fantastic excuse). The conversation also helps me by giving me a chance to fill out a client. I've avoided a few creeps this way!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post
    Also for overnights, are you saying you would want to meet first at a coffee shop etc? or just a matter of starting the overnight at a restaurant before kicking things off..
    I don't do overnights with new clients, period. If they want an overnight, we're having a shorter appt first. Two reasons: 1) I have Issues with sleeping with literal strangers, I need to know someone at least a little bit before they get to see me wake up and 2) I have a handful of clients who bore me to tears and a couple hours of faking interest is about all I can handle. One or two have mentioned overnights or going away for the weekend and I have put them off because I have to be work myself to pretend to be fascinated for that long.
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    I never did this. I worried too much about being baited into saying something wrong, or being recorded.

    If you don't want to do this sweetly say you have to "get back to work" and he can email if he wishes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Taylorgrrl View Post
    I don't do overnights with new clients, period. If they want an overnight, we're having a shorter appt first. Two reasons: 1) I have Issues with sleeping with literal strangers, I need to know someone at least a little bit before they get to see me wake up and 2) I have a handful of clients who bore me to tears and a couple hours of faking interest is about all I can handle. One or two have mentioned overnights or going away for the weekend and I have put them off because I have to be work myself to pretend to be fascinated for that long.
    Turning down money for fear of boredom? I guess..

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    Quote Originally Posted by BombshellBelle View Post
    I find that if I text and chat with them throughout the day before the appointment, they are more likely to show up and be regulars. My personality is a huge selling point and I don't mind letting it show. They seem to be intrigued and want to find out more. It helps them feel comfortable as well.

    No dirty talk. They know to keep it PG-13 at all times even if we've already met. Now if they pay me, that's a different story!

    Yeah, there are time wasters, but I can usually spot those pretty quickly. Call it an instinct.

    Also, I don't see chatting as wasting time really... More like an investment of time. Of course I don't send messages but maybe twice an hour (my day job is a fantastic excuse). The conversation also helps me by giving me a chance to fill out a client. I've avoided a few creeps this way!
    I agree.. I always text or email each client after a session to say, "thanks" "had fun" "safe travels" but avoid texters.. those who just want to text aimlessly cause their bored at work. Especially if they're not a regular

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    Quote Originally Posted by Exxotica View Post
    Turning down money for fear of boredom? I guess..
    I should clarify: I have a vanilla job, so escorting isn't my sole source of income. It has been in the past and in that case I would have gritted my teeth, pasted on a smile and got on with it.

    I also kinda feel that if you are going to pay a couple grand to spend time with someone, then they should either be really into you or really good at faking they are into you. Since I'm not, I would rather keep them as regular two-hour clients than chance having a mediocre time once and losing them entirely.

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    No, don't call them after emailing. Email only means just that. I used to book for an escort service and girls who used email only would get ten a day vs fifty calls, both resulting in the same amount of business. Email only is less invasive and no need for a burner phone. You won't have to excuse yourself for what can be a lengthy phone call that may not result in an appointment. Usually, callers ask questions that can be answered by reading your ad. Guys who email are more likely to schedule, ime, and are more respectful. Say you get fifty calls a day, averaging five minutes. That's three hours on the phone vs a half hour emailing back and forth for the same amount of business.
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    Close contact, for an hour, for $40? And I guess I'll have to make conversation with them too?

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    Discussing details of exactly what you will or wont do sexually for money over the phone, in text or email IS EXACTLY THE KIND OF EVIDENCE COPS NEED.

    No guy who is a gentleman would discuss such things, so you are dealing with guys who clearly want to text your boundaries if they do go through with the appointment.

    Why book an appointment if he got is needs met over the phone?

    They know the promise of a 2 hour booking or overnight will get you to let any guard down so they can take advantage of it & get what they want for free.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Taylorgrrl View Post
    I should clarify: I have a vanilla job, so escorting isn't my sole source of income. It has been in the past and in that case I would have gritted my teeth, pasted on a smile and got on with it.

    I also kinda feel that if you are going to pay a couple grand to spend time with someone, then they should either be really into you or really good at faking they are into you. Since I'm not, I would rather keep them as regular two-hour clients than chance having a mediocre time once and losing them entirely.

    As always, your business is your business and this is just how I'm choosing to run mine.

    I get it. Everyone does it different but I aint gonna lie. I'm always confused and even slightly fascinated by SW's who turn down clients for things I can so easily overlook. 'tis all

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