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    Default how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    So I've been working at my first club for almost two weeks now and things are going great, a lot better than expected actually! I already have some regulars and one thing I've been wondering about is what to do when they ask to see me outside the club or ask for my number. I don't plan on seeing them outside the club but I do want to keep them as regulars. I have been saying "let's just spend time together here!" or "I don't do that" or "I'm too busy" haha. I don't actually think this is turning them away (in fact I'm sure it keeps them wanting more) but it's always an awkward moment so I'm just looking for tips on how to word it! Thanks!! <3

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    Default Re: how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    I always pretend that I really want to but, "I just can't! It's against the rules, but luckily I'm always here on (so and so days) and we're open till 2 a.m.! So we can spend a lot of time together here" with a big smile. They get the idea right away, and give up when you directly say no and make it clear you're not willing to. This way I'm not wasting anyone's time, but also making them realize that I'm precious and so is my time, so they might as well stop asking to see me outside of here and pay me to hang around longer.

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    Default Re: how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    That's a good solution and I have played the "it's against the rules" card too thank you!

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    Default Re: how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    I name a price for my time outside of the club. I will quote them a price for a lunch or dinner date. I always make the price very high, say $600/ hr for fully clothed entertainment. Try to make the price per hour higher than the most expensive hour in VIP at your club.

    Another way you can go about it is to ask for a shopping spree. Tell him to bring his credit card because you are the kind of girl who LOVES presents. From Tiffany's and Co.

    This response has a good effect in a few ways:
    1. You're there to work, not meet a boyfriend.
    2. Naming a very high OTC price makes it easier to sell him dances ITC.
    3. Time wasters will leave you alone after a conversation like this, so you can move on to spending customers.

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    Default Re: how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    I told one guy we'd "Netflix and chill " when a minority Libertarian president gets elected. Took him a bit to get the joke, bless his heart.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    Default Re: how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    I usually walk away at that point because I've never had a guy who asked to see me outside the club (and on the floor as opposed to in a VIP room) spend money on me. If they ask after they've spent money I'll lead them on a bit. I've given out fake numbers before though I always feel a twinge of guilt if the customer was a sweetheart...

    most men who ask for that off the bat are just on a power trip trying to get as much as they can for nothing and prove to themselves somehow that they don't need to pay for a dancers attention. It's gross.

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    Default Re: how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    Quote Originally Posted by BabyWillow View Post
    I always pretend that I really want to but, "I just can't! It's against the rules, but luckily I'm always here on (so and so days) and we're open till 2 a.m.! So we can spend a lot of time together here" with a big smile. They get the idea right away, and give up when you directly say no and make it clear you're not willing to. This way I'm not wasting anyone's time, but also making them realize that I'm precious and so is my time, so they might as well stop asking to see me outside of here and pay me to hang around longer.
    I've used "it's against the rules" to great effect, even over long periods of time with the same guy. My trick is to keep acting like I'm really into them/time spent with them really turns me on. Right after I deny them OTC, I might even get more affectionate for a minute - snuggling up close, looking up at them, visibly enjoying their touch, etc. Whether or not they believe my excuse, I have no idea, but the affection keeps them thinking that I might be somewhat into them and if they keep playing their cards right, my desire will grow.

    If they start bugging me about it too often, I laugh at them teasingly and tell them to shush and keep dancing/change the subject.

    Once you've danced for a while, you can also use the excuse that you've been doing this for X years and never done it before, and you just don't feel comfortable. Pair with the same affection and it can work in the same way as "it's against the rules."

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    Default Re: how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    Simple...you tell him, "It's expensive, my time is very valuable! Will you make it worth it to me??" This lets him know that your all business and he needs to show you the money if he wants the privilege of your free time. If you're not up for seeing anyone OTC for money, no matter how much, tell him your 6'5" former marine husband forbids you from seeing men outside the club.

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    Default Re: how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    It depends on the customer. If they're blatantly asking for sex or heavily implying it depending on my mood I give a flat "NO" or "OMG what kind of girl do you think I am" with a big eyed, shocked facial expression. Like trying to make them feel guilty/bad about assuming I'm THAT type of girl. (For the record I have absolutely nothing against escorting, it's just not for me). In my experience, a man looking for sex OTC will not make a good ITC regular.

    As far as phone numbers, I very rarely give mine out. They need to spend a $500 minimum and I need to get a good vibe and genuine sense of interest in them seeing me in the club again. The only reason I give my number at all is because I work a very irregular schedule. My friend has good regulars, doesn't give out her number but ALWAYS has the same schedule and gives them that.

    The "it's against the rules" line would never work in my home club because other girls give their numbers out pretty freely for some reason.

    I think a lot of this depends on your comfort level but make sure you stay safe. Personally, I don't have the patience to string guys along that are looking for OTC time.

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    Default Re: how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    I always look really conflicted then say "Ugh. I'm sorry. I don't know you well enough. I need to learn to know you well in the safety of the club before I do something like that." They always press further to which I then take their hand and say "I know! You're so sweet... It's just that I had a bad experience one time and it was really scary." Then they'll come back and see you at least a few times before asking again. Eventually you can just write them off as having gotten as much business from them as you can.

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    Default Re: how to field "can I see you outside of here" type questions

    I let them know straight up "I'm here to work,not socialize OTC." Most times they still try,but at that point I stand my ground and then excuse myself.

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