So with dating, I noticed that ALL my friends who are "out" about sexwork (no matter the branch- escorting, webcam, stripping, sugarbaby, etc) can basically never get a man to marry them. Date for awhile, sure. Have sex with a lot, obviously. But marry? No.
I'm not out about escorting. And I have had amazing relationships and been engaged multiple times where I walked away. Then I realized that all of my friends who are engaged or married who are sexworkers are also not out about it. Then I see girls with vanilla careers getting happily married all the time. People I genuinely know, so I know its not a facade.
I wondered why this is...
Then I realized... "good" guys often don't want the potential pitfalls of dating a sexworker. We are stereotyped to be promiscuous, wild, crazy, irresponsible, not good with money or investments, etc. Sadly, stereotypes DO influence people even if we try to present ourselves as the polar opposite. They do. Or racism would have ended completely, and there wouldn't be privileges.
So I recently thought to myself: "Would I ever WANT a man who is okay with me being a sexworker?" No. Hell no. I deserve a man who wants me all to himself.
And then I realized... "Why would he go out of his way to commit his entire life to a sexworker?" He would want her to quit, and even then there may still be a nagging voice in the back of his head wondering if she's secretly being sexy for other men because she's done it before and liked the attention or she wouldn't have been working that sexwork job. I know the latter makes no sense, but men really think that way, its stupid. I swear they do, ask your guy friends or exes.
And then I thought more... It goes beyond that!
Sexworkers are seen as terrible investments to marriage-minded men because the men would be getting the short end of the stick. We would need to quit when we get married, right? Obviously. Well this is a HORRIBLE deal from his end! We pour money into our appearance, we are used to big money and fast money, and we love to get dressed up in new clothes. We have a high quality of life to maintain. So what is that bad?
Because if you don't have a different high-paying career immediately when you leave your sexwork job, he will be left paying the bills!
And if he can afford paying for your lifestyle? He will want multiple women. Especially ones who are into sexworkers? They are often patrons of sexworkers whether they tell you or not (I found this out the hard way by running men's phone numbers that I date through escort safety websites lol). They will want multiple girls if they can afford a nice lifestyle, so you get the short end of the stick. If you object? They do it behind your back or soon trade you in for a new model when you least expect it.
Its like a catch-22 where sexwork women lose, ugh.
Does anyone else have experience with this?








. The point was that I emphasize my vanilla career, and girls having trouble do not seem to do that, from my own experience, and I was asking for other opinions of people who had something helpful to add.

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